Should you ever forgive a cheating boyfriend/girlfriend? If yes, why and under what circumstances?
What is wrong with you people? I hope that most of the people rooting for no are not wearing a christian cross hanging from their necks. We all make mistakes, and at the moment of doing so we dont understand fully the extent of our actions, otherwise we wouldnt make mistakes. Once we do, we change, never go back to that path, recover sight and stop being blinded by selfishness or impulsivity and make good, build great things and unify. You people have huge egos, have you never made a mistake and hurted other? We all have, maybe the lack of self observation you have makes it hard to acknowledge it. We all fail, get up, and learn, thats life. CHEATING HAS 0 TO DO WITH LOVE!!!! the person doing it is not thinking, its just like someone grabbing the car a little tipsy, is he really thinking that he can hit a kid and kill him? No. He is not thinking. Most people who cheat would rather die than loosing their loved one. Its a mistake. We all make mistakes. We all reivindicate. We all do good. If the person regrets what hes done and understands the fully extent of his mistake, why not forgive??? Who are you not to? Things dont get thrown away, they get fixed. No more division, unification and a prosper future full of love. Thats what matters.This coming from a psychologist of couples, have had couples with crisis and same problems,and it seems like cheating is worst than insulting your partner, these moral codes are crazy.Conclusion: yes. You forgive. Because you are nobody not to. We all make mistakes, learn and do better everyday. Unify as brothers and be happy that the issue is resolved and you made it. Loyalty comes in so many other ways every single day in the way the other person treats you with love, unconditional warmth and companion.
Would you forgive a cheater?
From my experiences, if he's truly sorry for what he's done, then it's possible you could forgive him; but if he has no remorse, you will never get over it, and you will always wonder if he's cheating again. My experience is the latter. My wife says it was only texting, emailing, and phone calls; it was never sex, and only once did they ever meet face to face for just a few minutes when he was passing through our town. But to me, it broke the trust factor that I've had for over 23 years. I was still willing to try and work to regain the trust, because I've always believed a marriage is forever. But because she continues to say she feels no remorse, and she thinks she did nothing wrong, after 18 months of trying to work past this issue, it just isn't happening. So now we're filing for divorce.
Ladies do you care if your husband watches porn?
Nope I don't care!!! I usually watch it with him!!! If im not at home I don't mind him watching it because when I do get home Im in for a treat!!!!!
Would you rather forgive your husband if he cheated on you with a girlfriend, or if he visited a prostitute?
Well I would forgive neither.The girlfriend is him lying too me long term.The prostitute is him chancing an sdt that he may have passed on to me.
My husband has a relationship with another girl, but I love him. What can I do now?
Is he in love with her, or is it just a fling? By 'just a fling', I don't mean to minimize it, but there is a difference, and it could mean the defining factor for you. Do you know if she's the first one he's cheated with? If he is just having a fling with her, and you still love him, then you have to realize people do make mistakes. And a fling (affair) is a mistake, but not necessarily a deal breaker if you love him enough to forgive him. But if he's had other affairs, then it's now a way of life, which would be an absolute deal breaker for me if it were my husband.But if he loves her, then you may not have a say in saving your marriage. So the best thing for you to do is to talk to him and find out the answers you need to know, and deserve to know. But before you do have that talk with him, ask yourself if you really want to know the answers because, once spoken, words cannot be unspoken, nor can they be unheard.If you do find out she was an affair (a fling) and she was the only one, you have the right to ask him all the questions you need answers to, and he owes it to you to answer every single question, no matter how uncomfortable it makes him. But once he answers them, and once you and he talk it out and you forgive him, leave it in the past. Don't throw it up in his face when you and he have a fight over other things. It's ok to let him know he will have to earn your trust again, but don't question his every move, every phone call, or why he's wearing a particular shirt to work, etc., unless, of course, he truly is acting suspiciously. Bottom line: if he doesn't love the other woman, and if you can forgive him, and if you and he still love each other, and if you think you can learn to trust him again, then fight for your marriage. There are excellent marriage counselors who can help. And if you can't afford one, then check with your local university. Many colleges that have a graduate program in psychology offer counseling services at a very, very low cost, and they do excellent work. I'm in no way advising you to throw out your pride or self respect; I'm just saying don't throw away your marriage if there is a chance it can be saved.
Should I divorce my husband because he is a crossdresser?
I caught my husband dressing up in one of my dresses the other day. I was literally confused and was about to pass out when I saw him dressed up as a woman. He confessed and told me that he has been doing this since he was a teenager and has kept it a secret all of his life. He is currently 35 and he said he has been doing this since he was 16. He said he has went on many dates with guys when he is dressed as a girl. That means he literally has had many affairs during the 10 years of our marriage. He has kept it a secret from me and our 5 year old daughter. I am so disturb and I don't know what to do. Should I divorce him ?
I caught my girlfriend cheating and I hit her?
Seems like she has some trust and faithfulness issues she needs to work out, and you have some serious anger issues to deal with.