Can a mental disorder such as Borderline Personality disorder prevent my wife from joining me in Korea?
If it comes out while completing the medical paperwork, it will disqualify her. If you wait until she gets over here and then she seeks help, it could very easily get her sent back to the US. Generally, anyone who has been diagnosed in the last 5 years or who is currently in treatment get turned down. There is very, very limited mental health care over here and even though they have decided to make the tours more "family friendly", people are being turned down for slight mental health issues (as in stable for 10+ years, but taking a common SRRI).
What are the best books about borderline personality disorder?
As someone suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder, I have a hatred for a lot of books out there about BPD, since they tend to revolve around how the disorder affects everybody BUT the person with BPD; but that rant has no place here. As of this moment, my number one recommendation is Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder by Shari Y. Manning. It shows the reader how it is for the person with BPD and what’s going on that makes them act in these self-destructive ways and it also shows how to help both yourself and the other person so your relationship can thrive. I have much love for that book and I hope others find a love for it just as I did.
I have borderline personality disorder. What are my chances at acheiving a successful career in human services and or counseling?
You likely have codependency issues if you are BPD. Codependents like ot help other people to ignore their own problems. You would likely do well in these feilds as they will help you to focus on others rather than yourself. But in this, you will likely abandon your own pursuit of wellness. This is called triangualtion. 1) You/BPD, and 2) your therapy/recovery, and 3) your clients... are the triangle. Codependent BPDs will focus on others (clients) to be distracted from their own self-betterment (BPD therapy). BPD is in the dramatic cluster of personality disorders. Drama is a distraction from the pain, as is the sex component that is pronounced in BPD typically (that is another triangle, we can have more than one). Not only sex, but substances, anything ot stop the pain or distract from it. BPDs tend to appreciate and track the drama in other's lives and triangulate with all that. I am not being derogatory, I understand triangulation to avoid insurmountable challenges. Everyone triangulates some aspect of their lives. A workaholic with a bad relationship with a spouse for example. 1) Marital problems, 2) pursuing solutions to the problem, like counseling, 3) the place of work as an acceptable place to hide from the other two parts of the triangle. You will put all you have into it I am sure. But you might ask yourself: Should I be in the other chair? Am I emotionally qualified to counsel people? I woudl urge you to at least get a plan to work on myself as I work on others. I just dont want you to get lost in a sea of other peoples problems and abandon your own treatment. It is easy to do. Many in the mental health field have mental illness in themselves or in their family. I know another BPD that just became a counselor. She has been institutionalized for 3 days, and a week interval two other times in her life a decade prior to becoming a counselor. I wish you luck in career and recovery. Just dont forget yourself.
What do you think about people with borderline personality disorder (BPD)?
There are not a lot of pros to having a personality disorder of any kind. People with BPD are very difficult to sustain relationships with because they are very explosive and can demand a lot of attention. -Dana (M.S. Counseling, experience with BPD clients and friends)
Recognising Borderline Personality Disorder?
The person might be bored a lot. Constantly seeking something to do and often someone to do it with. Others might notice that the person seems highly oversensitive about criticism or potential absence or loss and voices this frequently. Like a mother may notice that her daughter is constantly complaining and about how her boyfriend must not really love her or is going to cheat on her and leave her she just knows it or if he hasn't called for one day that he must want to leave her. That she reads in negative dramatic meanings into small insignificant things like facial expressions and that these dire predictions about her boyfriend happen frequently about small things. This sort of behavior may be noticed in the bpd person in all their close interactions. The tendency to assume that their friend boyfriend boss etc meant something they didn't is going to go away or is trying to slight or hurt them or is only with them for pitty etc. Someone may notice that from time to time they get blown up at. The bpd individual lashes out at them for being mean hurtful etc when the other person has no idea where it is coming from. They didn't see it coming and do not understand why this person is so hurt or upset with them. Also that these flares in their opinion of themselves of others of feelings are super extreme but very short lived. With the same degree that the person can blow up they can show admiration affection support closeness. They may make quick deep friendships they may idolize their partners immediately and want to spend every waking moment with them. They may persistently become unduly close to others. Any cutting self harming binge drinking binge eating promiscuity regular shoplifting are all things to note in someone if you are thinking they may have bpd They may put their romantic relationships at top priority above all else. Essentially this person would be described as intense. Emotional. Sensitive. Stubborn. Dramatic. Erratic. Sensation and activity seeking. Some would be described as explosive and or manipulative but not everyone with bpd is either of those last two.
Can dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder work ?
Hello. In the last few months I've been going out with this woman I used to live with and so far so good , I really like her . The thing is though that she has Borderline Personality Disorder as diagnosed by about 4 years of receiving treatment from various mental health professionals. She attends both Dialectical Behavior Therapy in group settings and has one on one counselling once a week and says she feels the benefit of it. I myself have had my own troubles with depression and have seen a fair few shrinks in my time but none in the last 3 years . When I lived with her she was quite open about her diagnosis and that she feels herself that its a condition thats been glamorized by the media. Id like to believe all this but from reading through posts and advice/support websites for BPD it always start great and end badly . She does exhibit a lot of symptoms of the "disorder" but never in an extreme way . Its more that she says strange things sometimes (tragic stories from her past etc) but never gets nasty or has problems with her temper .She did used to cut herself years ago (so did I) and in a strange way I feel more connected to her than I have to any other woman in the last few years. She very creative and academic and seems to live a fairly stable lifestyle except for the fact she drinks a little often but not in a messy drunk kinda way. I myself do like to self medicate with smoking weed somtimes. To cut it short is the diagnosis really always a death sentence or are there happy endings for at least some people ? I don't believe anyones perfect and the pair of us are a good example of that :)
What is Helpful for Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder?
Hi, I was diagnosed with BPD yesterday by a psychologist after spending my whole life trying to figure out what is wrong with me. I am 29 years old. I was misdiagnosed and put on anti-D (celephram) which made me ever worse. I am going to undergo therapy to retrain my emotions and thinking. I did not know BPD existed until yesterday. My psychologist diagnose me by: me telling him of my symptoms and behavior, my neglected childhood, and a 340 question survey. I have this disorder because my emotions did not develop properly as a child because my parents neglected me. There is no medication for BPD that i know of only retraining your brain to think differently. I will be starting therapy next week. At the moment i am to record down my angry outbursts, when i get angry i must take a few deep breaths and centre myself BEFORE i reply to the person, so i don't explode at them. I read the symptoms of BPD and i have most of them. You need to see a psychologist who specializes in BPD. Not all of them do as i have found, as i have been misdiagnose so many times. Good luck i wish you all the best. You are not alone.
What jobs are good for people with borderline personality disorder?
i have borderline personality disorder and major depressive disorder, its really hard to work, and especially long shifts because i get so homesick for my comfort space and for my pet. what jobs have you been able to be successful at? also i have vision problems which prevent me from doing a lot of labor jobs such as housekeeping and factory work.