How long is too long to wait for a wedding proposal?
I never know how to answer these types of questions. I dislike the mere concept of waiting for a proposal—as in, “Is he going to pop the question on New Year’s Eve?” and getting all psyched about it only for it not to happen. Real life isn’t a chick flick, SATC episode, or The Bachelor.Such decisions should be mutual, and they should be egalitarian, arising organically without much ado. For me, it was always a given that unless something really messed up the relationship or we discovered a key point of incompatibility, we’d tie the knot eventually. At some point, my now-exes probably said something like, “So do you want to get married?” It wasn’t an if but a when. That I can’t even remember it is a testament to the fact that there wasn’t any actual waiting involved. Sometimes I said yes, but more times I said no.My personal preference would be to “wait” at least two years, perhaps even three, until the limerence phase of the relationship is over—just to be on the safe side. Last thing you want is to ink a legal contract with someone you’re soooo in love with you can’t even see straight. But if there are no discussions by this point, I don’t consider that a favorable sign.I dunno why you haven’t received a proposal. Sometimes you can love someone a whole lot and really enjoy their companionship, but just don’t want to marry them because you foresee a huge liability (legal, financial, lifestyle) at some point down the line. But to find out you do have to talk about these things. Hey, it’s only your life.Best of luck, friend.
I m planning a proposal prank on my gf. What can I do to make it better?
I ve been with my gf for 2 years now and this Thanksgiving I plan on pranking her with a fake proposal. My entire family will be there and knows what the plans are. But I need ideas to make this...for lack of a better word....WORSE for her! I have a few concerns about her anxiety and depression but she s on Zoloft and Seroquel so I think she ll be able to handle it. I do love her, but the opportunity is here, and she actually wants to get married lol ideas! Need them soon!!!!
Is it normal to be anxious before proposing to a girl? How can I handle this anxiety?
Yes that is normal. Most anxiety stems from a subconscious fear to any given situation. To over come this, you must do a deep emotion search to discover the cause of this fear. Once this is discovered, the conscious mind will invalidate this fear and your anxieties should subside. To learn more about anxieties and how to remedy them, read my book, “The Anxiety Toolkit”. It is available in both hard cover and ebook format.Looking at it from both a medical and situational perspective, "The Anxiety Tookit: An Anxiety Book for Everyone" see link below, provides an overview of the biological, psychological, and social factors that contribute to the formation of anxiety and stress disorders. The treatments presented within are based on solid scientific research, verified by experts from various fields. The researchers have investigated the biological, social, and psychological factors that contribute to anxiety and stress disorders. This broad research base led to the development of numerous treatments that have proven to be highly successful. As a result, thousands of courageous individuals have reclaimed their mental health, restored meaning to their existence, and now enjoy rewarding and satisfying lives. The future is growingly optimistic for those who struggle with anxiety. Be confident that advancements in the treatment of anxiety, stress and panic disorders will continue to bring hope and relief to the people, and families, affected by these disorders. People just like you!The Anxiety Toolkit: An Anxiety Workbook for All Ages: Social Anxiety and Depression Self Help Cures eBook: Steve Alkandros: Kindle Store
Waiting for a proposal is causing anxiety and tension. How do you deal with the wait?
How old are both of you? Yes, it matters. If you’re both younger than 25 (this is the average age of maturity for a human’s brain development), then get busy with work, further schooling, other interests.Your guy is slowing down on the “let’s get married!” idea, and that is wise. You are ready and eager. This is normal.Get busy with your life other than this focus on getting married. This will take the pressure off both of you.
Proposal Blunders?
My boyfriend took me ring shopping, I asked him if we were purchasing or just browsing..he said "depends on what we find"..Lets just say, I'm very superstitious about numbers, particularly 27. I turn 27 next year. I want to get married BEFORE i turn 27. I turn 27 in July. So we began planning around an April 22 2016 date..however, he has not given me a ring yet..he is all for that date, and has been giving me feedback whenever I have wedding planning questions, he's gone to look at venues with me, etc. HOWEVER, my mom "will not give us a dime" until I have the ring. Lately he has been so back and fourth, he says he's excited to go look at the venue on sunday, etc. YET..he says that I need to calm down on the planning, he's mentioned that he feels rushed by that date (but also says he totally understands why). Last night he said"I wish I'd never told you."Every time I ask him about the ring he says "I don't know."I just asked him if he thought it was possible we would be engaged by Sept. 13 (because there is a wedding expo that day that i want to go to) and he says "I don't know".He tells me he DOES NOT have the money right now, even though I know for fact he does. He does not have the amount he would LIKE to have in the bank right now, but we found multiple rings I LOVE under $500 and I know he could afford them, it's not like I want a $3k ring! Should I give up on my dream date and stop planning? Should I try to talk to him about it in a different way? HELP
How will he act before proposing?
you will never know...
Why do men get nervous when it deals with proposing marriage?
because **** just got real for him, but who would be he doesnt want to get rejected thats why
How does it feel just before proposing somebody?
Feelings can vary with person to person. Thought of Proposing always has an expecting state of mind. This can be filled with good feeling, anxiety, restlessness from a place of uncertainness, or worry from a seed of doubt. Overall, everyone feels excited, anxious, nervous, and amazing.
Is it normal to feel nervous about my boyfriend proposing to me? We went to look at rings, and he is putting one on layaway soon. I don’t feel ready to get married yet.
OK so, here's what I did:After accepting a proposal about 6 Mos. Into an intense…and actually pretty solid…relationship with an amazing guy, he called me at home one day. He sounded all excited and told me he was at the local jewelers and was going to buy the engagement ring we had looked at a few weeks prior.Wincing inwardly at what I was about to do, I said :“um. OK yeah. Baby, um…yeah, don't…. Don't buy it. ““Oh! Why? You want a different one instead? That's cool, we can shop around! ““no, I, um. I don't want you to spend your money on it, because I can't. I just. Yeah I don't think I can do it babe. I can't get married”.“…. The FUCK??!!”YEAH, so that's how that went. I sound heartless as all hell, I know. But I had been trying to find the right time to tell him that I felt I was making too rash a decision, and that situation sort of forced my hand bc I truly didn't want him spending hundreds of dollars on top of having his heart broke.I had recently left, with my one year old daughter in tow, an abusive relationship, and had fallen way too fast into another relationship with someone who was the exact opposite of the Douchebag I'd left…seriously, he was just everything GOOD, made me feel safe, etc. Which is WHY it was so easy to fall way too fast into a current way too deep for me to handle. I had let myself be swept off my feet and towards a destination I was simply not healthy enough to be arriving at. It sucked. The guilt ate at me, and to this day I don't blame the guy if he hasn't a single good word to say about me. But it was SO MUCH BETTER TO BAIL WHEN I KNEW I NEEDED TO, THAN TO ALLOW US BOTH TO ENTER INTO A MAJOR LIFE CHANGE THAT I CLEARLY WASN'T READY FOR AND WOULD HAVE LED TO NOTHING BUT REGRET AND EVENTUALLY DIVORCE.Coming to my senses HURT. A lot. But I'm confident in saying it would have hurt far worse to have let the marriage happen. I wouldn't have the beautiful daughters and family I have now, and my ex wouldn't have found the love of his life later that year.EDIT: I'm not saying it's absolutely necessary to break up with him, only that regardless of how hard it might be for you and him, entering into a marriage you're not ready for would likely cause even more pain in the end.