'Its not you, its me.' < what are your interpretions of this?
We never want to hear those words that put blame elsewhere. What happens in a relationship is that one cares more than the other, and when those words hit the scene, we know it's like a red flag at a bull, saying "Hey it's really all your fault". "It's not you, it's me" works to reverse the psychological impact of a breakup, and is often used when the person saying it is too inadequate to explain exactly why the chemistry of the relationship didn't work. Women and men alike come out of these relationships with the battle scars that words like that leave behind. There they were believing themselves to be in love, and the object of their desire doesn't reciprocate. How are they ever to believe that it really isn't their fault that the relationship didn't work, when what those words spell out in simple form is that they really don't like you as much as you thought. When faced with this statement, the receiver looks into who they are, what they believe in, and wonders what they could have done differently to make the relationship work, always blaming themselves rather than the object of their affection that says quite plainly "It isn't you, it's me". It contradicts logic, since the reason that the relationship is on the rails is because you lacked that certain something that the other partner in the relationship was looking for. There are many excuses used for relationships that fall apart, though this is a classic one that says that there really aren't any better excuses to use. In an attempt to save the other person from hurt, we think these words will placate and comfort a lover that may feel spurned, when in fact the truth is that the problem lies with them not being able to sustain a relationship or have the decency to express their feelings in a better manner.
When they say "its not you its me" is that true?
Ok, my boyfriend just broke up with me friday because he said we never hang out, and im only 13 but me and my boyfriend have been on and off sevral times, at least 4 times. All the times we broke up, i broke up with him but last friday he broke up with me and he said " we never hang out, and its not your fault, its mine" and then i heard from everybody that he asked this new girl out. & now every since he broke up with me I want him back so bad because i really think i love him. What should I do?
What does this mean ladies? Its not you its me.?
My ex girlfriend used the its not you its me line when she broke it off with me. I know that it means I did something wrong and I and pretty sure I know what it was, but does it mean anything else? She also said that she wanted to be friends.
Breakup song that describes "its not you its me"?
I broke up with my boyfriend because of me being diagnosed with depression and bulimia. we will get back together in the future but i wanna song to say that its better off this way, please and thanks!
It's not you, It's me?
He may not feel ready for a relationship, or not gotten over his ex. Don't stress it, it's not you(like he said) Answer Mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AtFomv8xJzofOd1twSF.Azfsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20120428053309AAbEnic
Does 'Its not you its me' always mean 'its your fault'?
No. This is just something people say when they don’t know what else to say. They want the person they are breaking up with to forgive them, to not hate them, to see they are taking responsibility, making it their own fault. Clearly if you think this message means it is your fault, that means none of these intentions got through. There’s the problem. Anger. Hurt. Irrationality. Disappointment. Shock or at least surprise. Plans turned to ashes. Breakups suck. Even when we understand them, we don’t understand them. The words may mean one thing but the emotions take it somewhere else entirely.Breaking up is hard to do. Nobody really gets it right. It always hurts. It’s always hard. We need to forgive people who do it poorly because we aren’t any better at it, although when we are the ones being broken up with we can always think of ways the person who broke up with us could have done it more sensitively. When we do it, we just want to get it over with. And that’s how it goes. The important message is that a relationship is over. How that message is delivered is not the most important thing. If we focus on the delivery, it’s really more about coping with hurt than it is that someone did a bad job of breaking up with us. It’s always a bad job.
Why do we think that the explanation "it's not you, it's me" is a really bad thing to say during a breakup?
Someone telling you “It’s not you, it’s me” reads like a mis-en-scene from the movie Defending Your Life starring Albert Brooks. You can almost imagine the character of God showing Daniel a reel of a past romance in his life, in which he awkwardly tells his heartbroken paramour, “Look, it’s not you, it’s me. Can’t we just leave it at that?” and then he has to defend being a wuss.Yeah, I dunno. I’ve never said this to anyone, nor would I ever. Guess I just feel that anyone I go out with or with whom I involve myself deeply deserves the real reason I’ve decided to cut ties, even if it’s something I’m embarrassed to tell them, or ashamed to tell them.Having difficult conversations at the end of a relationship is never easy, and it shouldn’t be. I’ve had to have some really challenging, deep, and highly awkward conversations. Telling someone “It’s not you, it’s me” may well be technically true in some cases, but it’s a cop-out. It’s lame. It’s basically saying, “Okay, okay, I’ll take the blame, I just want you to go away now.” It’s playing your Get Out of Jail Free card. That’s so messed up.I think that if you use this hackneyed phrase, you better be prepared to expand on that tell your soon-to-be-ex just what it is about you that makes you unable to go on with the relationship. Seriously, if anyone ever told me that, I would say, “Yes, you’re absolutely right.”
What does "it's not you, it's me" mean? "I'm not ready to be in a relationship."
"You're great, you're a beautiful girl, you're a wonderful girl" He was the one that wanted this relationship--he asked me to be his girlfriend. He always told me he missed me and couldn't wait to see me--this happened out of the blue. He always made plans and always called me when he said he would--until the end. We were together for 3 months. I told him I just loved spending time with him (nothing I hadn't said before) and a few days later he dumped me. There were a few signs...he stopped kissing me passionately and started saying he was too tired to do things. If the relationship made him miserable, why would he act like he was enjoying himself? Why continue spending time with me? Why string me along? He wasn't very interested in sex. What did he get out of it?
What does it mean when a girl says "its not you its me"?
Most of the time she means that she doesn't like that way and doesn't want to hurt your feelings...BUT sometimes she actually means that she isn't ready for anything more than freinds and it really isn't you...it was her.
What does the phrase 'It's not you, it's me' mean?
“it's not you, it's me” these are the lines made famous by some characters in movies and television series. Famous would be George Costanza in the stand up comedy serial Seinfeld. Each time he broke with a girl he would slyly say these words, to the shocked girl with an innocent face. :) :)It's a famous line used to escape from a relationship between a man and a woman. The one who wants to break the relationship, love affair or even an engagement or marriage uses it. Here the person blames himself or herself rather than telling or blaming the opposite sex. It is an escape tactics to get away, with out any major fight, compensation before a break up.