Respect Attitude Or Glory

What is an ethical attitude?

In literal terms Ethical attitude is defined as your approach for something that is pertaining to morality or right or wrong in conduct.Explanation/Experience:I had a difference in opinion with my Manager. The difference was such that he did not like me defending myself or my belief. It was an incident of ego clash between two human beings which did not (in any way) hampered my attitude towards work. I have always loved my job and have tried my best to be fair with it. The problem:Ratings had to be decided for that financial year amongst us and my supervisors got an instruction from my manager to ladder me down in the ranking despite of my work. Note: This attitude of my manager was unprofessional. This cannot be termed as unethical.The Twist:My supervisors knew about my work. They had supported me throughout and knew my capabilities to full extent. They had all the data points to defend me against the decision taken by my manager. But they decided otherwise as they knew this would mean direct confrontation with my manager. Knowing that my manager takes issues personally and they knew about his unprofessional attitude, they decided to keep quiet. They went ahead with the laddering done by my manager that resulted in a disaster for me. I was given the lowest ranking that had a cumulative effect, that I am still struggling to get over with. The loss was so high in magnitude, that it has been almost two years since then and I am still suffering. The attitude of my supervisors was unethical. This also answers the question "Does it impact your success in life?".There may be questions about why didn't I quit and joined another organization. To answer them in advance, I did not quit because it would mean I succumbed to them (unprofessional and unethical). I couldn't do that to my self. I had to prove my capabilities before I quit. So I worked hard. And within an year I turned the table for me. I was top ranked in the next financial year. In an entire year I jumped from lowest ranking to the top most. I also got an opportunity to go to onsite for work. And when I proved my self, I QUIT.I have always believed in Dante's quote "The darkest place in hell is reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of moral crisis", and would continue believing it.

What is a 'good attitude'?

When you are in a position of power or advantage over few people or many, your way of thinking changes as you start to think you know it all and you have got to that certain position in life all by yourself and you do not care what happens with others and the "others" being your friends and family and colleagues at work. You start to look down upon them. The above mentioned few points are of negative attitude but now if you choose to be kind and caring and have a positive attitude towards everything around you and not think bad or ill or be too proud or egotastical about yourself and think about the positives, instead of the negatives, searching for the bad in people or certain people when there isnt any and suspecting everyone of being against you when they arent and then actually making a decision about them without even realising that everything is in your head and even then you do a negative thing, thats having a bad attitude.When you look down upon lower caste people and do not think of giving them a good job or a higher position in a company just because of his or her caste or religion, thats a bad attitude. When you see a person of a lower caste walk past you and you have just taken a bath and the shadow of that person falls on you and you need to take a shower just because of that, thats bad attitude and narrow minded upbringing.When you kill someone in the name of religion, which that particular religion never tells you to do, thats holding negative attitude towards people of other religion. When someone beats his wife because she was seen laughing with a fellow colleague after the colleague dropped her off, is having a bad attitude towards friendship. When a boy is burned alive because he thought of falling in love with a high caste girl or girl from another religion , is having a very bad attitude towards love and people belonging to other community or caste, which has brought down this country.When you believe that a woman's role in society is only to be someone's wife, then you need to check the definition of a woman, your attitude is bad and very narrow minded.There are many more examples of bad attitude but the fact is you cannot have these kind of attitude problems, if you are to move ahead in life and become a person who everyone respects and trusts. If you curb down your hunger for the above mentioned bad habits, only then will you be able to be completely happy...and thats having a good attitude!Best of luck!

How do I make a narcissist respect me?

In a narcissist’s world, you will only be one of the following:The N’s target of love bombing in the initial stages of the relationshipThe N-enabler by pandering to the N’s inflated sense of selfThe N-victim who has to deal with the N’s manipulative waysAs long as you live in the N's world, you will never be truly respected by the N in a way that feels fulfilling and lasting. The N might feign respect for you as a way of getting you to weave your life around him/her but you’ll still be just one imagined slight away from being thrown under the http://bus.It is essential therefore for you to not live inside the N’s world. I don’t mean that “physically” as much as I mean it “emotionally”.Live in your own frickin’ world. You’ll never be a truly respectable person by the N’s yardstick. But you can be respectable by your own yardstick. That compass which determines your sense of self worth? Move that compass to the inside and don’t hand it over to the N.Stop craving for that love bomb phase where you were perfect in the eyes of the N. It’s never going to happen. It was a lie anyway. So why would you want it? Give yourself that love.The N will try and make your life revolve around him/her. Be there for the N if and when you choose to be. Do it out of choice, your own free will and your compassion rather than out of the misguided notion that the N will reciprocate the love and loyalty. Not gonna happen.Stop playing victim. Yes, you’ve been manipulated, gaslighted, triangulated, stonewalled, lied to, cheated on, discarded and walked upon. It’s nothing personal. The N does what an N does and is not about to change in a hurry. If you keep scratching the wound, it will never heal and you’ll never truly be free of the N’s ways.Once you start living in your own emotional world, once you take charge of your own happiness, once you start deriving your sense of self-worth and joy from the inside, you no longer need the N to behave in a certain way. You may choose to physically distance yourself from the N or you may still have a relationship with the N, but you would have outgrown the N and the person that you were when you were first enamored by the N.

What's the difference between attitude and character?

Let me tackle this somewhat abstract question with a very simple analogy. Have you seen the movie, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone ?   A brief geeky intro, During the opening banquet at the beginning of each school year at Hogwarts, the first-year students are lined up and their names read aloud alphabetically. Each then takes a seat on a stool and the hat is placed on her or his head. The hat is battered and old; it's patched, frayed, and extremely dirty. In order to speak and sing, a tear along the brim opens like a mouth. It speaks inside of the hat with a small, quiet voice to the wearer and it can use Legilimency to interpret their thoughts and respond to them. After a moment of consideration, the hat announces its choice aloud for all to hear, and the student joins the selected house. The moment of consideration varies in length, from over five minutes (known as "hatstall") to less than a second.  The Sorting Hat is a sentient Hogwarts artefact which magically determines to which of the four school Houses each new student is to be assigned. These four Houses are Gryffindor, Hufflepuff, Ravenclaw and Slytherin.   The Sorting Hat appeared to have a difficult time in the sorting of Harry Potter. It knew and suggested that Harry would have great fame and glory by joining Slytherin House, but Harry requested specifically to be spared that fate. Instead, based upon this choice, the Hat placed him in Gryffindor, where both his parents had also been Sorted. So, Harry's choice transcended the decision of the Hat. Hat's choice =  Character.Harry's choice =  Attitude. Here, Character, the innate ability, qualities of a person is the Hat's choice; whereas attitude, the manner in which you react to sitation, irrespective of your qualties, is Harry's choice. Needless to say,  Attitude defines your character. Hope this helps :) By the way, if you want to be more geeky and explore the sorting hats complete episode, here is the link, http://harrypotter.wikia.com/wik...

What is the difference between self-respect and ego? How can I judge if somebody is hurting my self-respect or hurting my ego?

Let us first try to be clear what self-respect is. Self respect is respecting yourself. When you respect others how do you act? You show admiration to the person for his / her abilities, qualities or achievements. Now when you are aware of your abilities, qualities or achievements that is self respect. You will not demean yourself either in a social gathering or when you are alone having a conversation with yourself. You might have observed in a social conversation things like “ Oh what a fool I am, I have committed such a blunder” or “ I am not as talented as Aamir Khan” etc. There is a subtle difference. When you are aware of your shortcomings and do not mention it in social conversations that is self-respect.Coming to ego, It is your mental state that experiences and reacts to the outside world. You tend to take criticisms personally and brood over them. You tend to get upset with unpleasant things people say about you and will bide your time to take revenge. If you want to see ego in action, just watch the politicians from a close range. You will see how they behave and how they hanker for respect from the public.The difference is very very subtle. Both are related to a person.Now for the second question - How to judge if someone is hurting your self respect or your ego.When your boss orders you to bring the file, you tend to obey. But when your peer does the same thing your self respect is hurt. If you tend not to react, your self respect is hurt. If you tend to react, you do it because your thought process says “ What does this bugger know? Look at his temerity! When your self respect is hurt, you sulk but when your ego is hurt, you look for an opportunity to take revenge.

What do you think about Mourinho’s attitude after the match Juventus - Manchester United (which took place the 7th of November 2018)?

Interesting. Nowadays it’s hard to tell whether Mourinho is trying to play mind games with his opponents, or if he is simply prone to losing his cool. I would suggest the latter.After all, United are sparred having to play Juventus again (at least for the group stages). There isn’t much that he could possibly win against the Italian club other than rubbing the fans’ noses in the result.It was, therefore, most likely a case of losing his cool. Now, that is understandable and forgivable for most people. None of us like being insulted, or having our concentration tampered with. Then again, Mourinho is an ambassador for Manchester United. Perhaps, this is not exactly normal behavior for someone in this position.Also, I have some doubts it was such a spontaneous gesture. Jose Mourinho was the manager of Inter Milan, arguably the last team to dominate Italy, before Juventus’ reign in recent years. The Portuguese manager still considers himself as part of the Inter family, and reports suggest he would even consider returning at some stage.Was Mourinho expecting United to win? His teams have done it before, but I don’t think there were many who expected the result to turn after Ronaldo’s goal and considering the way the game was being played.I wrote a longer piece here[1] and said that the match was arguably the biggest nightmare for both teams. On the one hand, Manchester United got scored against by their former star, Cristiano Ronaldo. And on the other hand. Juventus, the team with probably the strongest defense in Europe, lost through an own goal.I will say this, Jose Mourinho is certainly not a man to keep a low profile. That’s good and bad. However, when he asks himself why he draws such high interest from the press, he should remember how his actions court that attention.Footnotes[1] Ronaldo scores against former team, but United has the final laugh

Why should I respect other people's religious beliefs?

“Why should I respect other people's religious beliefs? (There are over 6000 religions in the world and they contradict each other and themselves. Not only can’t I know all the details about them to make decision about respecting or not, but for example, if I respect Islamic beliefs - it means I automatically disrespect Christian or Hindu beliefs.)”Respect is not adopt or adhere to.I was raised a Christian, but I have become an Agnostic Pragmatic Existentialist. While I respect other people’s religions, I do not adopt their religion or adhere to their customs, unless it’s clearly illegal to do otherwise.So, while I do enjoy ham sandwiches, I won’t offer one to a Jew or Muslim. But if I would visit a Muslim country, where State and Mosque are united, I will take extra care not to break any Muslim laws, like snogging my wife in public. To me, that’s like taking off your shoes before you enter a Japanese home. It’s not about religion, it’s about customs.You don’t need to know all the details about a religion to respect its practitioner, but you should be respectful towards other people’s religions even if you’re not religious, simply because respect earns trust and trust earns love.And this world would be a better place if we loved, trusted, and respected each other.