Yes, she can. If you present a threat to her, she can get a domestic No Contact Order against you. They are also called Order of Protection, (Temporary) Restraining Order and other names.If you have brought contraband into her house or caused property damage or any of a myriad of things that teens do when they feel entitled, she will have cause to get legal action started against you.It is better to leave on your terms with your stuff than be forced by cops with no time to collect your stuff. Pack up and get out and take responsibility for your life.Man up and get going.
"There are two times in life when you should take big chances. When you can afford to and when you can't." - Carl Fisher By the time I was your age I'd been an accountant, then a school teacher, and then an entrepreneur. I owned a home and had enough savings to purchase luxury cars on whims. Within a year of being in business the daily receipts were more than I'd made my last year as a teacher. We were signing equipment loans for more than our home mortgages. As a kid I remember playing Monopoly and saying, "Imagine if all this money was real." As an adult, I found myself saying, "It feels like we're playing real life with Monopoly money." In my mid 40s I decided to retire and, out of loyalty, agreed to sell my share of the business to a partner who ended up going bankrupt and taking me with him. In a matter of months I went from a financially comfortable retiree who never worried about money (because I was relatively frugal and always lived below my means) to being unemployed, broke, and eventually to being over $100K in credit card debt. (As a business owner I wasn't eligible for unemployment benefits after paying a small fortune into the unemployment fund for employees.) The younger me would have been traumatized and freaked out but "playing monopoly" for so long had totally changed my perspective. So I raised $30K to invest in an idea and a contingency that never occurred to me sunk that venture and left me in an even bigger hole. Around the time I was considering filing for bankruptcy a friend kept pestering me to help him grow his business and I reluctantly agreed to do him "a favor." A couple years later the business was flourishing and I was solvent and back on solid ground. In graduate school I had Wayne Dwyer as a teacher and always remembered him telling the class that if a huge bird scooped him up and dropped him in a foreign country by the end of the day he'd have a job and a place to stay. His sense of confidence always stayed with me and my experience left me with a profound sense that no matter what happened I would be OK. If someone had told me in my 20s that I'd be able to handle being in huge debt I wouldn't believe him. Now that I'm in my 60s I'm happy to say that I learned how to find security in my abilities instead of a fat bank account. In case you haven't already seen it, here's my idea of a great way to live life...
Apartment application - asking for bank account balances?
The only purposes are to see that you have a "positive" cash flow. THEY CANNOT just 'take money' either from your CC's or your bank account. If you want, fill it out with just x's, except for the last 4 digits. Normally on an apartment they dont verify any of the accounts. A loan, though, they use the application for totals but they ask for bank statements to show your positive balance-- like a small cushion that always stays in your account, that could cover rent in case of emergency. Its totally normal and they're not trying to rip you off. pS--- this is not a scam, its simply to verify that you can afford the rent without extending yourself too much. Its a little much- most apartments use a simple formula of your income must be three times your rent, but this apartment is going a little further-- and some do. Again, just use the last 4 of your acounts number if you're nervous. If they refuse it based on that, go somewhere else-- you're being reasonable.
Why are some homeowners so snobby about people who rent ?
I'm not like that! I will be a homeowner until March 15, 2008, after that I am forced back into renting again. I lost my job in 2004 and never found another job comparable to the last one. I am now making less than half of what I used to make. I ran through all of my savings in 4 years and still no better job. Now that I'm out of money, I can't live off of what I'm being paid. I was forced to sell my home and move. I'm getting about $100 K less than I should have gotten but it was either that or foreclosure. Losing a job is like being mortally wounded. The devastating, far reaching effects can last for YEARS. I pray everyday that God will have mercy on me and bring this miserable trial to an end. This is the first time EVER in my 42 years that a) I have gone hungry b) had my lights or my gas shut off c) couldn't pay my bills d) had bad credit. My score went from 760 to 500. e) been harassed morning, noon and night by bill collectors calling. I don't look down my nose at anybody; not even before my existence became the hellish nightmare it is right now. Many things in life we have absolutely NO CONTROL OVER and you never know what tomorrow will bring. ANYBODY could lose their job or their source of income. Owning a home is a blessing that has nothing to do with your business acumen, your intelligence, your skills or job experience. It's a blessing. I know I am going to get another house (this time bigger and better) in the next couple of years after I clean up my credit and get some more income and get out of this horrible bind I'm in. This very humbing experience has made me even more compassionate and understanding of people and their plights. Getting the first house is the hardest because you don't have the back up of a previous sale. I did it as a single mom. It may take a long time but people just have to tell themselves they can do it. There but for the grace of God go I..................................
If I am still living in my mom's house can she still limit me from going out?
you want the legal answer? or the reality answer? Legally, once you make that special age (whatever it is for you state), Mommy and Daddy can't tell you to do squat. In reality, at that age, Mommy and Daddy are no longer required to take care of you either. So you do what they say, or pack your bags and find out how the real world works. I suggest that you first find out where the homeless shelters are in your town, as well as consult your local health services department for your town too, so that you know where you can live for a few months when you first move out. Next know that McDonald's is usually hiring (as well as the similar eateries (they have high turnover)). And although they don't pay great, one advantage to working for these places is they usually let you eat for 1/2 price. Go in before your shift, get a 1$ cheese burger for 1/2 price, on your break get a 1$ cheese burger for 1/2 price, and when your shift is over, get a 1$ cheese burger for 1/2 price. That way you get three meals a day for under 2$ (assumes no fries and you drink water). This way you at least don't starve (well not on the work days anyway). If you behave nice and do what they want, the boss will likely let you work a three hour shift every day; then you can always eat. Or you could possibly work at two different restaurants if you are willing to work a midnight shift at one of them. Be warned though, all these places will ask you some questions like "how will you be getting to work? Do you own a car?". If you don't then you can always use the "the bus goes right by my house" line. If you are really nice to your friend they might decide to drive you to work. But this is unreliable, so you will want to be real nice to your fellow workers and strike up some relationships to figure out how to get them to bring you to and from work. Hmm... to start, be nice to the social workers so you can get a place to live for a while, be nice to your boss you can get a job not starve right away, be nice your friends and co-workers so you can keep that job, and maybe it will all work out. Or... maybe... you could just be nice to your Mommy and Daddy till you figure out what you are going to do with your life.
I do not live in the states, and for me this discussion sounds weird. I understand charging rent when a child over 18 is working. But when you’re in college , college is your job. Where I live college is subisidised, but a student still costs about 15000 euros each year (tuition, books, board, food etc. included). Parents are legally bound to support their children, in accordance with their means till the child finishes their education, in my case this means 5 years after high school. If parents don’t have the means to fully pay this there is a grant paid to the student by the government ( both my parents studied on this grant). some students do hold a job for like one day each weekend to own money for partying and travelling, but very few people have to work to pay their studies.The arrangement I have with my parents (a midlle class familly, parents are teachers, 3 children)They pay for tuition, books, and me living at home, if i really need clothes they pay them, if i just want something it’ s on me.I do not pay rent, but I do pay for my own entertainment, lunches at campus, going out with friends etc. I get 100 EUR each month for this, a part of which I save to be able to travell a litlle over the summerIt was agreed that i would not take a job for the first semester, so I could focus on making the transition from high school to college, If the exam results are good I can get a job next semester.There is a good university in the city in live in, so I study there, if I would have insisted on going to another city , they would have payed commute by train, but if I wanted to hire a place (no dorms in Belgium), then I’d have to work for it.My youngest sister will get more or less the same system, my other sister is on vocationall track in high school , so she will probably be working by 19, and then she will pay my parents some rent, but not as much as an appartment would be, so that she can save to get her own place.
He can't keep a job. Love him, or leave him?
First off, in a marriage you support each other. I don't understand people who say they only need someone who can support themselves, then why get married? It's mutual understanding and support that builds up a good marriage. "I love this man, but I am not willing to support him" Sounds like you've already made up your mind. You're not ready to be married. Why did you even say yes to him then? It seems like the only reason you haven't dumped him yet is because you want to save face and prove to everyone you're not like most women out there in this new generation that only cares about money and stability. Swallow your pride and just dump him for the exact reason we all know. You need to wake up. This economy is not good. Business CEO's are working at hotels cleaning rooms because they lost their jobs. Students have a hard time figuring out a major because of lack of jobs. You are lucky that you were able to land a great paying job. He's trying, and he's not purposely piling up debt from gambling, school is a good investment. So you guys get married and then what? You have separate bank accounts? Are you going to split the costs between providing for the kids? That makes no sense to me. Bottom line: It's painfully obvious that there are much more important things to you than just being with him. So find someone that will fulfill that need instead of making this guy feel like a loser with all this commotion on yahoo answers. My point of view: Be thankful that he at least took your advice and went back to school. Be thankful that he appreciates our encouragement. If it was that easy to encourage him to do something, why not encourage him to go into something that will make a bit more money?