I feel self conscious about wearing a bikini?
Hi I've always felt self conscious about wearing a bikini. I don't know why but I always feel like it's going to come off or something because that happened to one of my friends one time. So when I go on holiday I always wear a tankini, my tankini is like a bikini and then another top that goes over the top but we usually go on holidays to France or Germany and absolutely everyone there wears a bikini, like no one at all wears a swimsuit or a tankini but I'm just too self conscious to wear one even though everyone else does. I'm 15 and I'm about 5ft 1 and weigh about 105lbs and my boobs are a size 30C so not tiny but not like huge either are there any recommendations you have for bikinis I could wear that would looks good and I wouldn't feel so self conscious
What is something you are self conscious about?
I guess the better question (not that your q is bad) would be what am I not self conscious about? I guess like I'm super attractive or something, but I don't see it, and I feel like Im fat, well, not so much fat but I feel like my belly styx out like a million miles. I have to wear glasses at work to see and I hate wearing them, I got picked on so much growing up about my glasses I guess I'm just afraid of getting picked on again. Its whatever tho, I've got a lot of issues, but, hunnie, rly, those bumps are tiny, I mean these itty bitty little earrings went in them, right? No one can see them ... hell, unless someone has an ear fetish (ewww, why?), I don't think ears are a place most people would even look. Its mostly the eyes, and, if they aren't grotesquely magnified like mine are, I think you be doin fine, girlfriend. Oh, and go on my prof. page to e mail me, you don't allow e mails or IM. Ttyl, and stop picking yourself apart, girl!! :D
A little self conscious help?
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REALLY self conscious about EVERYTHING?? Help?!?
The best way to deal with an inferiority complex is to stop thinking about it. Stop comparing yourself to others, for now. It's a waste of energy. Put energy into things that really matter. Get some John Frieda Secret Weapon from the drugstore and use it everyday. It's a miracle frizz tamer and works for curly hair. Also get a blow dryer with a ceramic heater element (you can get them for $25 at any drugstore) to blow dry your hair straight if you feel like it. Hair problem solved! Big nose? No big deal! Big noses are great. Barbra Streisand, Sarah Jessica Parker, Stacy London, Bette Midler,...me! Glasses are temporary. Someday you might get contacts or even Lasik (I did). In the meantime, a LOT of people are drawn to people who wear glasses. They have a coolness about them. They mean your beauty is so striking, you can afford to conceal it a bit behind glasses. And if you still feel like an outcast, embrace it. Use it. Some of the smartest, most successful people in the world always considered themselves outcasts. There are a lot worse things. I was an outcast, and had very few friends, yet ended up with multiple homes, a fantastic life partner, beautiful family, financial security, a huge wardrobe, lots of fun interests, great employees, and true friends.
Very self-conscious with my body, please help.?
I have really bad hormones or something. & This makes me feel super dirty. I'm like a super clean freak with my body. And i just ont know what to do anymore. I play alot of sports and i hate it cause i sweat alot! In 5 minutes in conditioning, I'm already showing sweat marks. It makes me feel so uncomfortable :( I don't even try my hardest when i realize i sweat. I hate wearing t shirts cause they always show wet marks, especially in the summer, so i wear a sweater or something and it gets really hot. -_- & in the winter i get cold sweats out of no where. And its very weird. But not only that, I feel kinda hairy, i shaver my arms, legs and armpits. -_- And i hate shaving. I have to shave everyday or sometimes i skip a day, but i feel nasty. My back is kinda hairy too. My Stomach also, but not alot. And i kinda have a mustache. but i put this facial hair removing stuff on it. And my private area, Omg. Its not like an Afro or anything, lol. But i dont know, i dont feel normal at all. I dont even know if its normal. I just feel so uncomfortable with my body. What should i do. Or what do i have? Why am i like this? And i cant do no laser surgery thing. Thats just too much. This is kinda weird and embarrassing, id never tell anybody. But Please help..
Self conscious about my writing?
I love to write short stories/ poems (I'm not quote sure what they are), but I'm afraid to share them with even my closest friends. They're usually dark and about someone dying or leaving or being abused, but that's not what I'm ashamed of (they're not based on personal experience, they're pure fiction). I'm just nervous that one of my friends will think of me differently after reading about the things I can come up with. I'm also nervous that it won't be good writing, and i don't know how well I would take that news since I love to write. But my friends know I write a lot and they're always curious as to what I'm writing and they want to read it. Should I show them? Also, I'm having writer's block on something to write about, so any ideas would be brilliant.
I'm self-conscious about my race and dating. Am I starting to get depressed?
You're 16 years old, so honestly, you need to step back, take a deep breath, and try to relax. I know it's hard because you've got crazy-making hormones going all over the place and if you're in high school, that's a weird fish bowl right there, so, really, the best thing you can do right now for yourself is try to let it go.16 years old is pretty young to say "never". I can assure you -- it will get better once you move into the larger world. It really, truly will. If you go to college, that's going to be a massively bigger world right there. If you don't, and you go out to work, you're going to meet new people and you're going to have a lot more freedom just by virtue of being an adult that you will certainly meet more people there as well. Honestly, no one worth paying attention to gives a damn that you're mixed. You mention that you have no confidence -- girls are going to pick up on that way faster and way more heavily than how you look. In fact, there are a lot of people who believe that mixed babies result in prettier people. *shrug* Seriously. Work on yourself. Journal or meditate or exercise, get a hobby, find things about yourself that you're good at and that make you feel good about yourself. Try to find something about how you look every day that you like. Build up your confidence. Take public speaking classes. I really know it's hard and some people my age never get past it so I'm not just saying that casually, but you need to figure out how to like yourself for being you. You definitely have worth and you're definitely an awesome person - you just need to excavate a bit and believe in yourself. So you like white girls. Whatevs. This isn't back pre-segregation in the Deep South. People like what they like; there's no need to feel badly or weirdly about it. I know a lot of men who like Asian chicks for whatever goddamn reason. It's just a thing. So I say with all possible positivity - get over it. There are people who like to have sex wearing Goofy suits, for crying out loud. No judgement there, btw, just saying liking white girls is about as benign as you can get, especially if you grew up in a predominantly white environment.
How can I stop being so self-conscious?
I used to be really self-conscious, always worrying about what others are thinking me, and afraid of embarrassing myself; which resulted in me being too shy and totally unconfident.There are two things that broke me out of the shell. Even though I'm still tend to be self-conscious at times, I’ve gotten a lot better.You aren't the only oneBelieve it or not, everyone is self-conscious to some degree. Everyone out there is always thinking about what others think of them, some even obsess about it.So what? This means that nobody is really paying attention to you!Even if you did embarrass yourself, they might pay attention to you for a while, and before you know it, they are back to their own self-conscious world and forgot about you.We are all designed to be conscious of ourselves, not others.What about others gossiping behond your back? We all have people bad-mouthing us at our backs, that is merely a sign of self-consciousness as they are trying to belittle others just to feel better about themselves.This simple realisation made is a wake up call to me, and whenever I start feeling self-conscious, I always remind myself that everyone else is self-conscious too, and probably wouldn't care too much about me.Progressive DesensitisationHow do you train yourself to be more courageous and less self-conscious?Embarass yourself on purpose! Seriously getting embarass is no big deal. The more you face embarrassing situations, the more you'll realise embarrassment is nothing threatening and you'll feel less threatened. In fact you'll also start to learn to not take yourself seriously and laugh at yourself.I remember back then I deliberately chat to strangers on the street, let it turn cold and walk away in embarrassment. My friend and I also hit the bars at night to get rejected by girls, the most painful form of embarrassment. It was painful at first, but after a while, I became desensitised to it.There are also plenty of really good advises here, so just practice for a while and keep at it, and you'll reduce your self-consciousness!
Self conscious about her nose?
i was expecting her to look like really ugly but she isnt tell her to go to a hospital and visit burn victims or people with cancer she will realize she has no problems at all and i used to think my nose was kinda funny looking or ugly (but i never really cared. i have more things to do than worry about my nose) then i found people with a nose just like mine and they are really pretty and a guy with a nose like mine was one of 2005, 2006, and 2008's sexiest men im not a guy but it makes me feel better so find someone with a nose like her and it might help her
Why are girls so self-conscious about themselves?
Women are taught from a young age that our value is primarily centered in certain areas:- physical appearance- gentleness and niceness- being supportive- not causing trouble- nurturing othersWomen are implicitly and explicitly policed on how well they conform to these expectations. People judge our clothing, hair, makeup, bodies, etc. It's seen as a negative thing when a woman is aggressive and stands up for herself and her ideas. If we stir the pot, so to speak, we are seen as troublemakers and not innovators, like a man would be seen. If we don't want to take care of other people, we're seen as rude or frigid. Heaven forbid that we don't want children!Women are frequently treated as something other than human. People think the default of humanity is to be male, so no one questions the treatment of men as individuals (men are applauded both for having careers and for taking care of their children, they have the freedom to not worry nearly as much about their appearance, they don't have to be gentle/nice because there are multiple other options for them). Women, on the other hand, are all lumped into one category. You can see this in Quora with the vast number of questions beginning "Why do women...?" and "Why do girls always...?". It's as though they think that all women share the same motivations, when nothing could be further from the truth!Bryan Rosander said that women's self esteem comes from beauty and personal relationships. This is true, but only because society has set it up that way. It's not inherent in our XX chromosomes (not all women even have XX chromosomes).As a result of all these, many women are very self-conscious of not fitting into these roles because we face negative consequences for not doing so. If we don't look pretty, people think we don't care about ourselves or we're not trying hard enough. If we don't nurture, people judge us to be frigid. If we're not gentle, people call us bitchy. Men don't have the same litany of negative words to describe their nonconformity to gender roles. The negative words used for men are all feminine words (girly, sissy) and are used when men want to take part in feminine roles.So if you think girls are being silly for being self conscious, remember that it's not our fault. It's really hard to break free of such a massive set of societal expectations, and we face a lot of negativity for doing so.