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Should A Boss Accept A Wedding Invite From An Emplyee

Etiquette of inviting employees to my wedding?

OK, you asked for two different things: You asked for the etiquette and then you asked for opinions. What you've gotten so far are opinions.
The etiquette is that you are under no obligation to invite anyone in particular to your wedding and are absolutely not obligated to invite people based on their professional relationship to you.
As you mention there are two managers that you are friends with outside of work. They would be logical choices based on friendship, not work relationship. Hopefully you aren't inviting the owner just because he is the owner. If he is not a good friend he should not be on the guest list just because you work for him.
As for the other two employees that you "like" since you have a limited budget you need to realize that you can't invite everyone you find friendly. In that case you'd be including the nice checker at the grocery or the gardener or barrista at the coffee shop. It's understood that it will be people you have closer relationships with that are appropriately invited to your event.
One last thought. As excited as you are about your wedding being a positive event not everyone enjoys attending weddings. You also run the risk of looking a bit "gift grabby" if you invite more casual acquaintances.
Limit your guest list to true friends. Don't worry about the dynamic at work, especially if you only invite those very close to you.

Wedding Invite-Microsoft Employee!!?


The fiance of my niece is in US and claims to be an employee of Microsoft, USA. The wedding is scheduled to be held in October 2010. He insists that he should not be mentined as employee of Microsoft in the Wedding Invite, as it is against the Company's policy. I find it unbelievable and quite fishy. Can some one kindly clarify the above fact? It will help us greatly in deciding on the further course of action. It will also save the life of an innocent girl. I know that this may not be the right place to ask such questions. Still, somebody may respond on humanitarian grounds.

Thanks in advance.


My boss sent me an invite to her wedding. Should I go?

I would go but there's a few problems. 1) I don't have a gf so it would be odd showing up alone. 2) I have a good relationship with my boss at a professional level but I not so much on the personal side as we hardly ever talk about stuff out of work. To be honest the invite was a surprise for should I suck it up and go alone or perhaps face her wrath for not showing up?

My boss invited the employees over to his house before our company Christmas dinner for drinks and hors-d'oeuvres. Should I bring a gift?

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Do I have to go to my boss's wedding?

I think this depends on a lot of things, including how close you are to your boss, how long they've been your boss, and how stable things are in your company (i.e. how long you think you and your boss are going to be there). You also might want to check to see who else has been invited--and this can help you decide whether or not you should go. If you can get a sense of how big a wedding it is, this should tell you too.

In general, I don't think it's expected of people to go to their boss's wedding. However, if you're particularly close with your boss, for example, if you've known your boss for a number of years and/or if you and your boss are likely to stay with the company for a long time, it would be a good idea. Also, if your boss didn't invite many people in the company, but invited you, it means you are considered special for some reason, and you should consider going.

If you choose to not go to the wedding, make sure you are diplomatic about how you do it. The best way is to find a legitimate excuse--for example, have a trip out of town planned for that day, a family commitment that you can't get out of. But make sure that you're not too specific in how you specify why you can't come. The best way is to just say: "I'm sorry, I have a prior family commitment on that date." or something vague (but true--don't lie) like that. Usually people won't ask any more than that, and it looks suspicious if you give too much information.

I've given you a link to a website about etiquette that has a number of excepts about weddings. Some of the material there might be useful to you, just in terms of giving you a frame of reference. The site is mainly about what sorts of stuff NOT to do in terms of inviting people, but it will give you an idea of how people feel and react to such things.

Either way, don't worry about it too much. Little things like this make a small difference sometimes, but the day-to-day interactions, how you relate to others in the workplace, matter a lot more in terms of career advancement.

My boss invited all of us to his wedding, however, for several reasons, I don't feel like going. Is it wrong?

You should not feel bad for declining the invitation, as long as you respond before the RSVP deadline. My advice is to keep your reason simple, but vague. If your boss asks, say something like- I have a family thing I can't get out of. Don't make up an elaborate story, and stay away from the wedding venue that day so you don't get spotted.  I would recommend sending a small but thoughtful gift, since you want to stay in your boss's good graces.

Should I invite my direct report employees to my daughter's wedding?

Not unless they are family friends or know your daughter personally. Because they are your employees, they will feel obligated to attend or at least send a gift. Ask yourself-would you would want to receive an invitation in that situation? If not, fill the guest list with people truly care for the young couple and will be there to wish them well.

How do you respectfully rescind your acceptance to a wedding invitation?

Call the host and tell them you are very sorry but something has come up and you will not be able to attend.

Good luck!

Where do you seat your boss at your wedding?

My dilemma is that I'm having a small wedding so I am not inviting anyone else from my office other than my boss and his wife.
I feel like, because he's over 60 years old he would be most comfortable at the table with my parents but my parents and immediate family are a bunch of lushes and I don't want him to be uncomfortable when they drink heavily and maybe start using unsavory language [all in good fun - no one's a mad or sad drunk, they just get loose].
My boss doesn't know my fiance's family and plus his parents and immediate family's first language is spanish so I don't think he'll fit in there.
Other than that me and my fiance are in our 30's, most our our friends are in their 30's and I just can't figure out a good place to seat him and his wife.
What do people normally do?
I know that he may not show but I need to have a seat for him just in case.