Can an employer deny your request to go to a funeral?
I work at a state university in a small office where only 3 of us work. We all know the same crowd of people. A friend of ours passed away a couple of days ago. The supervisor refuses to close the office for an hour to go to the funeral, but says that she will stay at the office this time, but from now on when someone dies that we all know, we will have to take turns going to the funeral. Both me and my coworker think she's full of it. As we both said, no one is going to tell me whose funeral I will or will not attend. If someone I care for dearly dies and it's not my turn, too bad. I don't think so. Wouldn't you think that would be illegal? I know I would quit my job if I really loved someone and my boss told me that I could not go to their funeral. I would think lawsuit. To tell you whose funeral you can or can't go to seems very cruel and unethical. By the way, we're not being paid while we are at the funeral. Anyone ever dealt with this problem before?
Bereavement/ Time Off for Death of a Grandparent.?
My elderly grandmother died over the weekend. Though in her late 90's, her death was still unexpected. We are a pretty close family and my grandmother has been an integral part of my life. I am contemplating taking today (Monday) off, but I am unsure if this would be appropriate. My mother and her siblings are planning the funeral arrangements. My husband and I live 45 minutes away and did spend the entire past weekend with my family. My reason for taking the day off is basically just to grieve her passing, at my own house, alone. I also plan on taking one day off later on in the week for her funeral. My workplace is pretty flexible when it comes to taking time off; we all get a set number of paid days off to use for illness, vacation, etc. I have only called in sick to work one day in the last six months. All the other time off I have taken has been planned out in advance (no emergencies, unexpected leaves of absence, etc.). I just am feeling a bit guilty about taking an unplanned day off today, as someone else will have to pick up my slack, and it will be inconvenient for some of the clients I work with. I do not want it to seem as if I am abusing my paid time off and I worry that some people at work will think I am over-reacting, as a lot of companies only allow bereavement for immediate family members. Would taking the day off be reasonable? How understandable would you be if you had to do extra work because a co-worker's grandparent passed away? How understanding would you be if you had to reschedule a meeting with someone because his/her grandparent died?
Can my employer deny me to attend a funeral?
I have been at this job for 4 years now I have never called in sick. I am always on time and always do what they ask. Thursday my aunt (dad's sister) passed away. The serviced are going to be held a week later on a Saturday. Now at work Saturday is my day off, but my manager wanted me to cover a shift that day previously before the news of my aunt passing. Now I requested I can not make it to covet that shift and they are forcing me to work that day of the service. There are others in my department to take over but they don't wish to. Can they force me tk work on my day off even if it is for a service? Is that even right?
Why do people give fake condolence at someone's funeral?
People attend funerals for a great variety of reasons, and grief is not always the motivating factor. Business associates, former employees, neighbors, colleagues, all may attend a funeral and not feel tremendous grief. They do this because in our culture that is the accepted thing to do. And sharing your sympathy with the family is important, even if the person was not that close to the deceased.You can call it fake, but I call it respectful, and sensitive to those who loved the deceased person and who have to go on without him/her. Some businesses may take notice of attendance at a funeral or wake, and expect their employees to be there. To be a little cynical, job promotions can depend on the employee’s willingness to attend a funeral, even if the relationship is distant.
Need help wording a thank you letter for a business that sent funeral flowers?
A thank you letter is much too formal. I think a handwritten thank you inside a thank you card would be more appropriate for such an occasion. The business I work for sends flower arrangements to funerals, and the only thing I've seen in return is a thank you card. You don't need to write anything too lengthy. Just something in your own words, like: The flowers you sent were a beautiful gesture. During this difficult time, it reminded our family that others are keeping us in their thoughts and prayers. Your thoughtfulness is truly appreciated. Or... During this difficult time, the flowers you sent were a beautiful reminder of the love and support of family and friends. Your thoughtfulness is apprectiated.
How do I write a short funeral invitation?
Friends and family are invited to join a Celebration of Life for [First name Last name] on [Month Day, Year] at [venue name & address]. Light refreshments will be served following the service. In lieu of flowers, the family suggests contributions to the [Charity].
I need a good excuse to NOT go to a funeral today?
I have to go to my boss's mothers funeral today. She was 96, and I never met her. I really don't want to go. I didnt know her, I dont know the family other than my boss. Got any good excuses for me?