Is it ok for a mother to call her daughter a whore?
Is your mother stuck in the 1950s? Your mother is entitled to her opinion, an opinion which I would disregard completely. You were an adult at the time and it was your decision to do what you did.
I am a very bad daughter. I sometimes fight with my mother and become so aggressive that I beat her because she is stupid and annoying. Will my karma be bad? How do I improve?
Keep your hands off your mother. Period. There is not one circumstance that justifies your out-of-control rage. You stop. It's that simple. It's something you will never do again.She's "stupid and annoying" to you but you're seeing a lot of the world through eyes of hurt and anger. I don't care about your Karma: there's right now and how to make up for this aggression.You feel badly in many ways and now you're the abuser. To someone who loves and cares for you. You have a fungal infection - get to a doctor. There are treatments to resolve that.The whole ugly/not-ugly thing is so much about how you feel. You're hating on yourself and abusing your mother, which won't even make you feel better.You need to become proud of yourself, of your work, of your kindness to others, of the effort you put out to become the best you possible.You're old enough to take responsibility for how you feel, what you've done and how to get back to feeling confident and good.If you can't do this on your own, get to counseling. Never, never, never indulge your rage. That is something that you must experience horror and shame over. And make amends. Your "stupid and annoying" mother doesn't deserve this, no one does. Not even you.
Mom telling child that she regrets having her, what are the effects of such statements on the child’s mental health?
Plant two sets of seeds, water it and nurture with all nutrients equally. Then start abusing one group of seeds. Say all that can discourage it from growing up. To the other group, be kind and speak caring words like encouraging it to grow up. Eventually many seeds didn’t sprout out except a few in the first group and almost all seeds grew from the second group. This is a famous experiment to demonstrate that plants have feelings.So coming to the point, Humans have a high sense of emotions. And a child reacts to everything you say (Right from the 15th week of conception, Yes you heard me right. It listens right from the womb) So even before you say it to the face of your child, you would have already said that when you were pregnant.And coming to the effects of such words can vary from1. The child hates itself2. It wouldn’t wanna live3. It will hate everyone around4. It will have negative aspect about life, the world, people and everythingBUTThis can also happen, (Remember, there were few seeds which sprouted in the first group too)It will aim to love everyone and give his/her child all the love which they didn’t enjoy (But remember, child should have been matured enough to turn this way)My personal request to all ladies and gentlemen, please use preventive methods instead of regretting and wasting a child’s life.Good Luck :)
Do you ever feel guilty for bringing your children into the world?
Yes, unfortunately, I feel guilty for bringing my second son into the world. He is very sick, we don't yet know what he has but his pediatrician is very very concerned about his condition. I'm worried sick about him. My eldest son is suffering as well because of this, I feel like I'm abandoning him, all my attention is focused on my youngest. But, as the first answerer said, my sons could grow up to save lives or bring peace and that really touched me. Every great man, or woman, were once babies and they made a difference to this world. So don't discourage yourself, you have a lot of love to give so bring babies into this world and make a difference too. Here in Malta we are going to have our first saint in June who was a very sick child and grew up to live in his 80's and made a big difference in his life to many people. He still does, after his death, people like myself pray to him and find comfort.
Has any woman ever regretted leaving their husband while pregnant?
My advice would be to first try talking with him and perhaps counceling... sweetie, it's not just about the two of you anymore.. you have an angel on the way. And, though it is never okay to cheat, many men have during their wife's pregnancy... the woman is sometimes non-sexual and not available.. again, it is never okay, but does happen... I was in a relationship where I felt that one day I would leave.. I could see signs.. I tried to work on the marriage, but ended up leaving when my daughter was 2.. and I still look at her and know how good that foundation of family was for her.. those 2 years with us as a family were very important to her (and she was still too young to understand how miserable I was)... Just think about and realize how difficult visitation / custody will be.. that in court you two will probably cause wounds that will never heal.. that both of you will be living half a life with your child.. and how very very hard that is on both you and the child to come... Try to work it out, try counseling.... divorce should be a last resort.
Do you regret becoming a parent?
My answer is a double-edged sword. No one could love their children more than I do. I have 2 kids and 2 ex-husbands. The kids are living proof that something so wonderful could come out of something so evil. Yes, I despise my ex's. I'm saying this because you better take into account of who you share your genes with. Don't have kids if you can not take the responsibilty that goes with it. Most men have kids because of the woman they are with. Meaning that you must put the kids first regardless of what happens between you & her. To walk out on her is to walk out on the children which will scar them for life. It is a huge responsibilty not to be entered into lightly and if you want kids you should get married. Kids want parents that are married. I hate my ex's but I wouldn't trade my babies for anything in the world! Now that's love!