Should I Be Jealous Of My Younger Brother

Are older Brothers jealous of younger brothers?

On a very primal level, every baby competes in the family for attention.A new baby is often a source of stress and deprivation for the child.In the antisocial urban environment, often children do not get a healthy amount of attention in the first place. Having to compete for a dwindling supply of goodwill, and be an out of control toddler is often a longterm problem.Controlling behaviours are often maladaptive, and often anger will be focused on the younger child.However, jealousy is a part of human psychology. Guarding and not sharin that which you perceive you might lose.I have actually found that only children are far worse for jealous and controlling behaviour. They are used to being the perpetual recipient and often have no concept of amicable sharing.I have been jealous of my little brother. When he was tiny he had no respect for my things. Babies don’t have boundaries, they have feelings. Jealousy is to my mind aggressive over-enforcement of a boundary underwritten by fear.As an adult, he is jealous too. But we are brothers, and I love him dearly. We have to negotiate our interpersonal boundaries and emotional attachments. That is life.The question would be better phrased “how does one overcome jealousy”.

How do I deal with my annoying jealous younger brother?

A hurt pride is very hard to heal.That said, maybe somehow you will benefit from knowing the story of me and one of my younger brothers.  It is much like your story.My whole childhood, this younger brother was very needy.  He would steal my food, my drinks, my toys, and loudly demand very expensive toys and clothes from my parents, which he hated to share with me.We both grew up, and our interests became very separate.  I was an excellent student, so he stopped thinking of himself as smart, even though he got almost all A's in school!  Instead, he started thinking of himself, accurately, as The Athletic One.  And, The Popular One.  And, The Crazy Party Guy.  He couldn't stop me from being funny, so he embraced being The Pranks Guy so there'd be some difference in our identities even in terms of humor.At fifteen, he started drinking alcohol at parties.By eighteen, he was a heavy drinker.At twenty, he found himself living alone, having lost his Crazy Party friends to prison (for real), death in a brawl from a knife wound (not kidding), falling off a boat drunk while his drunk friends weren't paying attention (true story), driving a motorcycle into a parked car (you can't make this up).  He drank harder.  Alone.  He sought out more Crazy Party friends who would appreciate his identity, because he could never stand feeling alone or unloved (I'm not any good at that either).By twenty-eight, he had been in hospitals multiple times on the edge of death, from four related causes:1) alcohol overdose (a couple of times)2) alcohol withdrawal (a couple of times--extreme drinkers can die from quitting)3) grand mal seizures (from brain damage from extreme drinking)4) massive blood loss (from being attacked by several men behind a nightclub and waking in a puddle of blood)Today, he has made great progress in recovering from his past.  But he is scarred, emotionally, psychologically, even literally in his brain.  He is one of the most aggressively affectionate people I know, and he has a kind of charisma I will never have.  My hopes for him are great.  So is my grief.I often wonder what I could have done differently to save him from all he's been through.  I think the main thing was, I let him think he wasn't smart, thinking he had other things to be proud of.  And not being in his life enough to catch his alcoholism earlier.  I let myself think his pride was an asset instead of a liability.  I didn't understand that his bluster was a sign that he needed help.

Are you jealous of your brother or sister?

Everyone is jealous of someone at some point and since you spent your entire childhood with them. Yeah you could get jealous of them more then others. But the same is probably true for them so don't feel bad about it. Yeah, I'm totally jealous of my sister who got married, had two kids, rented a house out of state and is making it. On the other hand I'm at home, in community college, trying to figure out all this transfer nonsense, and switching from a job i hate to a job I can at least stand. But I also realize me and my sister have two separate mindsets. She didn't go to college, she also asks mom for help, basically she has problems, she's not perfect. I may be totally jealous, but I also understand that we both have our own path and priorities. Same for me and my older brother. I'm also jealous of my mom, my grandmothwr, a lot of people. But jealousy, is just the other side of the country, the nasty side. FL it over and you'll realize you actually look up to that person, so work towards you goals with that mindset.

Is it normal to be jealous of my younger brother who is financially better than me?

be happy for your brother and only you can make you financially better. What good does it do to be jealous of your brother? None! jealousy is no good! money not everything, there your health among all….example i got breast cancer at 37, it came back and stage 4 now, lost my breast. If I got jealous of every woman with breast I would be miserable! Family needs to be what it used to be to lift one another, love one another, loyalty, respect! Love is not jealous. Work on bettering your finances and be happy for your brother…that will pay off

Is it normal to be jealous that my younger brother attracts more girls than I do?

I am making this anonymous as someone on here might determine who I am talking about in real life and might cause some issues.I recently had an interesting experience with my younger brother and his, now recently ex, girlfriend.My younger brother always been much (mathematically, infinitely better, his 4 or 5 dates to my 0) better at attracting women. But it really never bothered me much. In the past, before this event, we have lived together in the same roof since mid college to save money. Anytime he dated, I was usually doing my own thing and I rarely was around his new girlfriend of the time. Out of sight, out of mind I guess...This last girlfriend of his, though, had some similar interests between all three of us, so he brought her over to my house for an evening. After showing up and talking for a bit, my brother and the woman he was with disappeared in the back bedroom while I was in the living room working on a sound system.Shortly, I began hearing the moans of my brother and her. At the time, I was just ignoring it as I was putting the sound system together. It was so funny that after they finished, my brother "sneaked" into the bathroom, alone, and leaving her in the bedroom. Later that evening, I told them both, in the car while going to grab something to eat, that I could easily hear them through the wall and door. She got really embarrassed about my knowing and my brother was kinda mad that I mentioned it to both of them instead of just telling him.After this event, I looked back to reflect on why I mentioned that I ever heard them in the first place. I think I know now why I said it, pure jealousy. Jealous that he was getting something that I never experienced. In the end, though, the jealous feelings faded away as he is my brother and I hope for the best for him.He recently broke up with this woman, anyways. So it all worked out in the end.So, my take on this is that it is normal to be jealous of, not only your brother but of anybody, that is more successful than you. But as long as the jealous feelings doesn't linger on your mind and you become spiteful and hateful, a little jealousy isn't anything to worry about.