Should I Be Upset That My Child

Will you be upset if your child doesn't marry?

No….not my son, he understands that he's under no pressure or obligation from myself or his mom to get married until he's ready. I also advocate to him how important it is to think about the ramifications of getting married like: marriage is a system of welfare set up to cater to women and if the relationship doesn't workout, she gets a paycheck once divorced and the kids too.I tell him that if a woman isn't on birth control while being sexually active, it means she wants to get pregnant.I explain to him to get his ducks in a row first, career, wealth, college out of the way first before getting married and don't get married till at least 30.He understands that women consume money, not invest or save. Some people argue with me on this but, how many women work on wall street or, are in fortune magazines or money magazines?I tell him do not have kids with her if she's working on her career and not willing to be a stay at home mom. Sending the kid to daycare all day where they aren't loved isn't a good idea. Don't have kids until one of you become a fulltime parent.He also knows to stay away from single moms. Because he will always be second fiddle to the kid even tho he will more than likely be paying all of her bills and will be raising someone else's mistakes.Don't be a doormat for anyone. That's how you get taken advantage of.

Do you get upset if your child gets a C or below in their report card? What do you do about it?

It depends on whether they got that grade because they goofed off instead of doing their work, failed to turn in assignments and generally didn’t try, or if they got that grade because, in spite of trying hard and doing all the work, they just didn’t “get” it.Well, in truth, I get upset regardless, but it’s a different type of upset.I’m angry at my child if he didn’t do the work. There will be consequences designed to make the free time that’s so precious to him go away. He will get extra work around the house, and will probably spend his winter or summer break doing school assignments for me that he should have done for a grade.If he didn’t understand the material, I’m upset that we didn’t see it earlier and take action. I feel like either the teacher or I let him down. I work with him, his teachers and maybe a tutor the next semester to first, get him into a level of the course he CAN handle, and secondly to give him the support he needs to succeed.

What can I do about getting upset at my child for behaving poorly in class?

Well, more details would help (perhaps you can add them in the comment section, since the character limit for additional details is very limited- too limited I might add).It’s easy to be what society calls a ‘good’ parent, but I don’t find it all that good to be completely honest. Raising a child, becomes like a reflection of the parents’ state of mind. If the parents are financially and mentally stable & still together, you’ve already beat out 80% of the population.If you’ve had a child in quite the normal non-optimal situation, then it’s going to be very difficult. If you’ve yet to explore your own fears and insecurities, you will only delegate them and transfer them onto your children. Monkey see, monkey do. That’s how the phrase goes. It is not Monkey listen, monkey do.How long has his behavior been like this? Does he act out at home? Do you notice more introverted or extroverted qualities about him? What does he enjoy doing? How does he view school? Ask him what he’s thinking or what he wants, when he refuses to listen/follow orders in the appropriate situations.The same is true when it comes to hard work. Children watch how hard their parents work and develop their work ethic from their parents. If you want your child to be successful in life, it is important that you show them firsthand that they key to success is hard work and dedication. Leading by example doesn’t need words. The lessons that you teach your children by doing things the right way in their presence are far more long lasting than the lessons you preach but don’t actually adhere to yourself.Parents Must Lead By Example

Should I feel upset about my autistic cousin having a child?

There is no “should” when it comes to feelings. There is just what you feel.That said, it’s a good idea to ask yourself why you feel this way.Do you worry that your cousin isn’t able to raise a child? Why?Do you think that autistic people shouldn’t be having children? Why?There are some reasons to be upset that would be totally understandable. Maybe your cousin isn’t able to take care of themself, so how can they take care of a child?Maybe your cousin lives on the other side of the country far from family and worry how they’ll manage without support and someone to call in an emergency.Or maybe you’ve absorbed a bit too much of the common stigma against autistic people and are assuming your cousin can’t take care of a kid without really knowing one way or another. Maybe you’ve drunk the A$ kool-aid and think the world would be better if autistic people weren’t in it.None of us can answer this for you. Only you can.When you do, you need to decide what to do about it. Whatever your reasons for concern, you ultimately have three choices:*You can support your cousin and give the help they say they need*You can “support” your cousin and give the help you think they need, regardless of their wishes or requests*You can not support themChoose wisely. it is easier to destroy your relationship with family than rebuild it afterwards.

Do most religious parents get upset if one of their children (or child) becomes an atheist?

Sure, religious parents might find it difficult to understand their child’s religious stance which might make them sad and disappointed. However, they have to be educated on atheism and trust that their children will turn out fine.I personally like this article: Do Godless Kids Turn Out All Right?Sociologist Phil Zuckerman conducted a detailed study and said the following:There are high levels of family solidarity and emotional closeness between parents and nonreligious youth.There is evidence of “strong ethical standards and moral values that had been clearly articulated as they were imparted to the next generation."Irreligious societies, “such as Sweden, Denmark, Japan, Belgium, and New Zealand ... have among the lowest violent crime rates in the world and enjoy remarkably high levels of societal well-being.”A significant body of research shows that “secular grown-ups tend to be less vengeful, less nationalistic, less militaristic, less authoritarian, and more tolerant, on average, than religious adults.So, the real question I think is, how do we ensure religious parents don’t get upset if their child decides to become an atheist.