Should I Call The Police On My Ex Boyfriend

My ex boyfriend moved out after I called police (not abusive) on him and hasn't spoken to me in 3 months. How can I reconcile with him?

Sorry, but seeing as you called the police on him, that was the deal breaker for him. If he wasn’t abusive in any way, and you called the police, you overreacted or were just looking to cause him grief. To punish him for daring to disagree with you. ORHe did something wrong like stole something from you, threatened you, or vandalized something. In which case, why would you want a guy like that back?If he hasn’t spoken with you in three months, he’s not interested in rekindling a relationship with you. In order for you to even have the remotest chance, you’ll have to do some serious groveling and butt kissing. And even then, that might not even work. ORTake him back regardless of his reckless flaws, and hope he doesn’t do worse. Not a good choice.My suggestion is to reflect on what went wrong, and never do it again. Live and learn. And don’t pull that stunt on the next guy, or let him pull it on you.

What should I do if my boyfriend called the cops on me?

By the time a partner is calling the cops, it’s time to split up, and go your separate ways. Communication has broken, as has trust. There is an inability to resolve conflicts, and that is a death sentence to a relationship. Calling the police, and actually having them come out, indicates some abusive, and therefore dangerous situation is occurring.As for follow up, that depends on what happened.Did you do something that warranted having the police called out? Were you cautioned or charged? Was he gaslighting and he was the one that was out of line?Depending on the answers to these sorts of questions, you’ll need to assess and take action to make sure you never get involved in these sorts of drama laden relationships again.If the call was justified, then you need to do what it takes to alter that behavior, and improve your character.If the call wasn’t justified, then you need to assess your picker. Choosing these sorts of untrustworthy people to form a relationship, and then allowing them to remain in your close orbit when you see unhealthy behaviors is extremely problematic. Holding onto partners that are dangerous can result in death at that hands of that person. It’s best to avoid that path whenever possible.

Should I feel bad about calling the police when my boyfriend choked me? He is now in jail for 2 months with a no contact order.

Absolutely NOT. It was a smart move. He's a severe form of abuser.Quickly change your number. Go no contact.This isn't to be mean but, think about why you engaged in a relationship with him in the first place. What did you find attractive about him? It's important to find the root cause to reverse a harmful belief system to lead a happy, healthy life. Take time off to yourself, do something you enjoy and heal. Please learn from this life-threatening situation or it will repeat. I suggest therapy to undo unhealthy belief systems, habits, past trauma etc.Stay away from all abusers. The key to avoiding abusers is you need to be able to recognize toxic; dysfunction. Abusers fly the royal red flags of abuse, manipulation, and lack of empathy. Abuse stems from power and control. Many times it is very subtle and invisible. Google indicators of abuse, learn to recognize them and ghost them instantly as you don't want to experience these lessons again.Learn the meaning of boundaries. Never trust anyone that crosses them, EVER. I promise you will meet many men that are sick in the head and will continue to challenge your boundaries and reality like it's a game to them. They want to conquer you. Trust your instinct, always show them the door ruthlessly. You teach people how to treat you. Never settle for less.What you don't learn will come back again.This is a crucial life lesson. Honor your life and love yourself. The best relationships must first start with yourself, sweetie.

Can I go the police if my ex-boyfriend won't return my house key? I’ve tried contacting him but he won’t respond.

I think I read that as you both exchanged your keys at some point during your relationship, you went away to complete an internship, he broke up with you by text, you returned to the area where you were. You now want to return his key (which he gave to you) to him, and you also want him to return your key (which you gave to him) to you. He at some point during your relationship mentioned wanting to change his locks, which you’ve now assumed that he has already done. You haven’t mentioned how you feel about your own safety here, but I will make the assumption that you’re concerned about it in some way based on the fact that you said you wanted your key back and have taken measures to obtain it (contacting him with the intention to ask him for it).How’d I do? Good? Okay… so here’s the reality and your steps forward:Put his key in an envelope and mail it to him. It’s obvious that it matters to you, so include only the key in an envelope and nothing else. No note. The return address on the outside of the envelope will say all that needs to be said.Change your locks. You gave your key to someone else, and your locks are yours to handle. You didn’t ask your parents’ permission to give away “their” key to “their place” at the time did you? Saying it’s your parents’ house now is you rationalizing why you can’t do something you want to do. Some part of you doesn’t feel safe without knowing precisely who has a key to open your door at any given time. Change the locks.Calling the police? You don’t need someone to jump into action and save you, dear… you just need to act for yourself. And it’s time to move out of your parent’s place. You partially consider it your own place, but in your mental model it’s not completely yours to do as you desire.