Im 18, should i get married???
well let me tell u...ive been in this relationship 4 about 3 months...our chemistry and attraction 4 eachother is amazing! i really do feel like hes the one! everything is so different wit him then its been with neother guy...i want to marry him...but im still in high school...and still living with mom and dad. hes 21 and can support me...its up to me though. he cares about me enough to let me finish school and make something of myself! he makes me feel really good. i can hardly go a day without seeing him...i really really do love him. should i follow my heart and commit to him already??? or should i wait til' i know 4 sure...and have my life together?
I can't see myself as Married...?
Well, first of all, just because you can't see yourself married now doesn't mean you won't be able to see it later. As you say, you're only 18, so who knows how you'll feel in ten years. Which is another reason why your mom should get off your freaking back! Tell her you're not ready to settle down, because YOU'RE ONLY 18 and you want to learn to independent and do what you want, before getting into a relationship. However, at the same time, I think you're being a bit immature about the attitude of "I have never been kissed and am proud of it." Why proud of it? I mean, I can see being "okay" with it, or "happy with your decision," but "proud"? There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking physical intimacy seriously, but you sound a bit defensive to me, which leads me to think you're a bit ambivalent about your "choice." So is it a choice? That's great if it is, but be sure that not dating is a choice that you're *actively* choosing rather than the default result of being scared to get close to other people. I think you need to put yourself out there a bit -- just for friendship maybe -- with guys and see how it feels. Maybe you won't like it, but maybe you'll find it interesting. Go on http://www.6rounds.com or join a youth group (could be through church if you like) -- somewhere you know you can get to know guys.
I can't picture myself married ?
i don't know , see me and my boyfriend of 3 years were talking about a future family . . . kids . . . growing old . a lot of chicks my age are all excited about that . i'm 18 , he's 19 , and well the thought of marriage doesn't excite me at all in fact it scares me i'm not scared to commit to him , i love him . but i don't know , i just CAN'T picture myself married let alone having kids . is that immaturity , is it bad , or is it normal ? help . . .
How much time should I give myself to prepare to buy a house?
10% down would be ideal, but you may be able to get in at 3.5%. Owning a house can be a pain because you have to fix everything yourself. You don't just call the landlord when the air conditioner breaks or there is a leak in the roof, but it is worth it. 10-20 years later your mortgage will be nothing compared to what it would cost to rent a comparable place. It will be paid off by the time you retire and it will be something you can leave for the kids in your will. You would looking at least 1 month from the time you find the house you want til when you can close and move in.
What advice would you give to your 18-year-old self?
Don’t move in with him!… Too late, you did it when you were 17.Don’t compromise your education for him. If he was worth it, you wouldn’t have to. So turn around, go to UT, and study biochemistry like you’ve always intended.DO NOT GET A LOAN IN YOUR NAME FOR HIM. I guarantee he’ll miss the first payment! Same thing when you buy him a car in your name. He’ll miss that first payment, too.Stay away from pot heads. They’re just going to be bored all the time and want you to be bored with them. Stay busy, keep your mind sharp, and save your money.Be nice to your little sister. Mom will play into it, choose her side, and pit you against each other. Don’t fall for it. Just be nice, and be the better person.You’re hot. There’s nothing wrong with showing some skin. You’re always covered up to your neck! Once you have kids, you’re going to wish you had a picture of teenage you in a bikini. It doesn’t make you trashy.You don’t have to marry the first person you sleep with (*GASP!*). Figure out what you like so you don’t miss out in life. Go against everything you were taught, otherwise you will have regrets later.SAY NO TO CREDIT CARDS. That “food” card Dad said will help your credit? Yeah right. He’ll miss payments and then hand you a card with an excessive balance at 28% interest that day you graduate college at 21. Super cool to start life in the red. Thanks Pops!You’re not better than anyone. You’re an 18 elitist-wannabe.Chill. Stop being angry. Keep active. Work on being beautiful inside and out. Everything your parents taught you is wrong.
My girlfriend is trying to rush into marriage?
So here is the deal. I'm 19 and my girlfriend wants to get married soon. She just turned 18. I hate the idea of marriage at an early age. I do believe in happily ever after BUT, I've misjudged girlfriends in the past. My longest relationship is 3 years with my most recent ex but that turned into complete bs. My point is, forever is a long time. I don't want to invest so much money into binding myself to another person and not having the freedom to leave when it falls apart. Honestly if I had it my way I wouldn't get married at all. I don't need it to confirm love. I can't convince her of thinking this way. What should I do?
I plan on saving myself until marriage?
It doesn't really matter how you tell them - - the RIGHT one will understand and be willing to wait for the day that you are all his in every way. You will not regret waiting. I wish that I had saved myself for my husband. It sickens me to know that other men have had that part of me. It is something I can never take back. I can never give myself to my husband in that way... a virgin can become a non virgin whenever he/she wants - but a non virgin can not go back and be a virgin again - EVER. Good for you!!
How should I, a 15-year-old boy, propose marriage to my girlfriend? She’s 15 too. I want to get engaged and then marry when we’re out of high school.
When I was 15, I thought I knew everything about everything.I would get so angry at my brother (who's six years older than me) when he would tell me I was dumb and thought I was “so smart.” It would make my blood boil. What did he know about me and what I had gone through?The truth is, is he only knew the surface of what I let him see.I do not doubt that you love your girlfriend. I bet you are happiest when you're with her. You look into her eyes, and you feel at home. The only place you desire to be is somewhere that's with her—it could be a garbage can date with her, and you'd be content. Her voice is the best music to listen to. Your admiration for her could go on forever.True love is so beautiful. I'm ecstatic that you are able to experience it first hand.From my experience in dating (3 serious relationships in my lifetime), each relationship I've been in has taught me so much about myself. Primarily what I want in my future lover.I can't deny my happiness with each man I dated, but I see the flaws in each relationship, and I acknowledge what it was that turned my relationships south.At 15, I was blinded by love. Everything was too perfect all the time. I felt the emotions I listed above, except I began neglecting not only myself, but both my friends and family. My boyfriend at the time was 90% of my life, and everything else was split into the 10%. What I thought was a healthy love, was quite the opposite.After high school and into college or wherever you go, you experience and learn beyond anything you could imagine now. You begin to really prioritize your life and note your goals.I do hope that this lovely lady is the one for you, and I hope it works out, but just make sure to allow time for everything and everyone in your life—including yourself. You have so much life awaiting ahead. Plan your life around yourself, because this is the prime time of selfishness (and no one can really yell at you for it!)You will never expect how much you will change in just a few short years.I hope you have an amazing life full of success and love! Best of wishes.
What financial advice would you give yourself at 18?
I,m 60 , and if I knew at 18 what I know today, I would have 3–4 times the money I have now.The most important principle when it comes to life and money is freedom.It is extremely important for your perspective and life quality that money does not have you. If all you can think about is that you need more money and that money will solve nearly all your problems, you are believing a lie that will eventually destroy you.However, money is important and it is good to have it as long as it doesn’t have you. And there is an assured way this can be in balance. One word: give. Be generous and kind.Having said that, the most powerful principle in money management is compounding. Start investing early. Always take a portion of every paycheck and invest it.Invest in a retirement account, the Roth IRA is one of the better, since the gains grow tax free .Save up an emergency fund, 3–6 months salary for hard times.Buy a residence as soon as you can.Start buying fixing uppers and rent out, aim for a minimum of 10.Learn how to trade stocks and also how to invest for the long term.Always live below your means/income.Borrow money for only 3 things, education, real estate and your first car. Your 2nd car and every one after that should be paid in cash. Just continue paying yourself the payment amount of your first car loan after it’s paid in full until you are ready for an upgrade. If your car loan was 200/month, in 10 years you will have 24,000, or if you invest it, 30–35,000.Never buy a brand new car, 1–5 years old is ok . Don’t waste $5000–10,000 on a new car. In 6 months it’s a used car and the value has gone down 5K-10K.Keep your car a minimum of 10 years, never lease, always buy.That’s what I would tell myself at 18.