Am I doing the right thing?
Your dad's opnions and your opinions are different ( but i think you already know that) . Yes, you are doing the right thing because I don't see why your dad gets to control who you can and can't love. If you love this guy, that's great! Don't let your dad get in the way of that because pretty soon he's going to realise that there's nothing he can do!
What are some worst things a father can do to his son?
I think my personal story is very fitting for this question. *TL;DR at the end*I haven't talked to my dad in over 7 years. The worst thing a father can do to his son Is walk out when he is young and vulnerable. My father and mother had some issues they needed to work out. I have heard 2 sides of the same story and never know which is right these days. All I know is one night my mom yelled for me. I barged in to find him with a bloody lip and her with bruises and bumps. It seems they got into an fist fight. Despite the fact that my mom was in a worse condition than my father, my mom went to jail because she was the one that drew blood..That upset me enough. On top of the other terrible things I've heard of my father in his past. Combined with this night. I was upset with him. Scared of him even. I was home alone a few days later. I was told if he tried coming back, not to let him in.He came back ironically when I was home alone. I was scared. I hid as he pounded on the door. Knocking on every window. I hid in the corner between the wall and the fridge hoping he would leave. Instead he took it upon himself to break into the house.. I was young at the time. Transitioning from middle school into highschool. Maybe 13 then? 14 tops. Vulnerable and emotional after everything. I didn't know what else to do besides cry. He didn't hurt me there. All he did was yell at me. And told me I should have let him in. He told me to throw his work shoes outside. I did just that and upon him leaving he said the words. “You're not my son anymore” from that point onward I never spoke to him again. It was tragic how it happened. He lost every ounce of respect he ever had from me.I'm 20 years old now. 7 years later. I got a text actually from my mom very recently. Telling me he wants my number. He wants to make things right. He also wants to tell me my grandfather is dying. I feel terrible because my father's actions caused me to lose contact with that side of the family. That includes my grandpa. If he dies before I get to see him I'll feel even worse about it situation. I do believe this is the worst hell that a father can provide for his son. Disowning your son at a young age and causing all the trouble. It's horrible.TL;DR the worst thing a father can do, is to tell his son that he's not his son anymore.The end
My dad is acting like a jerk?! HELP!?
your dad probably feels liek afailure and thinks he can not provide for his fmaily and is getting depressed about it and taking his frusterations out on his family. I think you should try and calm him down, tell him everything will be ok. your gonna start pitching in more, and tell him taht you understand he is stressed out. same with your mom. Good luck
If my dad hits me, should I hit him back?
No, do not go down to same level of using violence instead of words, especially with a relative. There are other ways to respond, to show him how this affected you. If you think it safe, find an opportunity to tell him in a calm and measured tone that he should not have hit you and that you will defend yourself next time. Do not pick a fight and do not respond with same physical aggression, I don't think it is a good idea and is not safe.Think about why he hit you. Did you deserve it? Did he overreact? Who is truly right? If you feel that you absolutely did not deserve it and there was another way to send the message that you would understand, try to tell him this.My father used to hit me, but not strongly, and very rarely. Maybe 3–4 times over the whole childhood. A couple times he used a spoon to hit me on the forehead during a family meal. The reason was usually mundane, such as not properly doing something related to table manners in spite of being warned previously, or 'acting up' a little maybe.Each time it happened, it made me want to cry, or I cried later, not due to pain, but due to a sense of deep embarrassment. It was a feeling of unfairness and betrayal on his part. I never felt that I deserved it (though I did other stuff where I probably deserved it, but he never found out about that). It felt unfair because he knew I would not retaliate. However, it completely ruined my relationship with him, which was never the same after the very first instance of using force on me. I lost trust.And that was the seed from which my attitude toward him developed. It was not violent, it was more of what I did not do: I did not choose to live with him after I got older, and I moved away. I wish him well, but I wish it from a distance. You know, sometimes relatives simply must not live together. It's better this way for everyone. Realizing and acting on auch realization is the single most important thing you might ever do to ensure a better quality of life for yourself, and probably for them too.
Why do deadbeat dad's have the right?
I am the daughter of a deadbeat dad and it is eating me up right now. I don't know what to do! Why do they have the right to just leave their children? I can't stop thinking about it even though it happened 6 years ago. I feel like he didn't want me. I just need some consulting or something like that I guess. If you are also a victim, I would like to talk over e-mail or something just to share stories and how you are getting through it or have gotten through it. Thank you.
My father said, "Be it whether I'm right or wrong, I am your father. And I deserve your respect." Is he right?
No, he is wrong.Respect needs to be earned, not demanded. If he doesn't respect you, you don't have to do it either.However, I believe that whether you respect someone or not, you can and should still be respectful in your interaction with them. That's not because they deserve respect. That's because you deserve respect and your action says who you are.But again, if someone thinks he can demand respect even when he is wrong, then I agree that person doesn't deserve my respect (but I'll still be a respectful person I always am).