Should i stop hanging out with my friend?
There is a time in everyone's life where we have got to let some friendships go because they are not longer giving us something good and in your case your friends is trying to get you into a self-destructive zone; if you love him you can help them, and talk to him about this situation and what you don't like and what you would like him to change, maybe he is screaming for help but he doesn't know how to handle his problems and he is now an @sshole, but if he doesn't care even if he can loose you as a friend then you definitely should stop hanging out with him, and you will find the answer in only one or two conversations.
Should I stop hanging out with all my friends?
They all smoke, drink, and eat like **** and lie and I don't smoke or drink I feel like an outsider whenever they do that stuff which is frequent. There's only a couple of friends in the group who actually have sense in life and just drink. I have huge dreams and goals that I find when I hangout with them is really getting in the way of them, but I always have fun when I'm with them and really don't want to tell them I can't hangout with you guys anymore because you do all of that stuff. I feel like I'll be alone and only have my dreams to focus on, but I don't won't to do that alone. I just wish I didn't have to make the sacrifices because of what they do and what I don't I've made so many trips and plans with my friends and thats why it's even harder to not be friends if I decide to that. Any input is appreciated.
Should I stop hanging out with my friends?
I have this problem, and I need advice this teacher in my school is like one of those cool teachers with my group of Asian friends, but he really hates me and he hates me because one day getting of from the bus my friend who has a disability needs help walking, and i was helping her so,the bus ran into us and if i wouldn't do anything to push her from there she would be dead by now or probably without legs, and when I pushed her I hurt my arm because I used too much force, so we complained to the school because we went to the hospital and they charged us so logically the school is the responsible to pay, because it happen on school ground right? but the teacher believes that I was lying about my arm injury, and that I just wanted to take advantage of the school to get money, but I mean he is so irrational he doesn't have nothing to do with that, and how he could have known whether I was lying or not? I mean does he feel what I feel or what?, and that's why he hates me so I hang out with my asian friends I'm 1/3 Japanese and the rest mexican so I wonder if he hates me because I posses mexican blood so he told them to stop hanging out with me but they didn't listen to him and I feel really uncomfortable because when I see that teacher in the hallways he has killer eyes towards me and he has even told them that if I hang out with them he will not go hang out with them anymore so I don't want to put my friends into a difficult situation so I wonder if I should stop hanging out with them what should I do?
I'm 28, should I stop hanging out with my friends now to get ready for my thirties and beyond?
Oh most definitely as you get older you tend to skip on and not have friends. Are you freaking kidding me? Your friends will age with you and they will want to still be friends with you when you are 30, 70 or 100. Guess what? Their age will be the same too. Social interaction is what we as humans are all about.
People change as they age. People change a lot especially during their teen years and early 20s. You may progressively lose some friends but will also make some new ones. This will happen a lot until you get to an age where you know who you are and people around you know who they are. For most people this happens around the 30s, so expect this kind of change to happen a lot and be prepared to say “goodbye” to people with which you don’t feel comfortable.All that being said, I cannot possibly tell you if these guys are decent or not and whether you should stop hanging out with them. What I can tell you though is that if at some point the interaction is not worth it, you should let go. As I wrote above, people change.
Do they bother you deep down? Do you have fun with them? Those are the questions you need to ask yourself.The same thing happened to me a while ago with my friends, and there was this one girl that I had known since kindergarten. I’d been bullied in elementary school and she never had, but she was the only person who talked to me so I stayed friends with her until we got to high school.Once we got there, she gained a lot more friends and started treating me like her little slave, making me do everything for her and running errands and everything. I liked some of the people in out friend group, but I couldn’t tolerate her treating me like that.I left the friend group and tried to join other groups, but it was just awkward and I didn’t really fit. So I started to become a loner. But then about a month after I left, one of the girls from my old friend group started to sit with me again. Turns out the girl who had bothered me so much had started to use this other girl when I left.To this day I am friends with this girl, and have never spoken to my friend from kindergarten again. For me, it was the right decision, but for you, I don’t know.Try to figure out where you would go if you left first, and if you don’t have anywhere to go, then decide if it is really worth leaving your friends. If they are cracking just good humoured jokes then you probably shouldn’t stress about it too much. However if it is a certain person who keeps teasing you, they may not mean to hurt you, so you should try to talk to them privately and tell them how you feel.Hope this helps.
The are behaving like that from some period of time. Once broken, it can’t stick and even though it looks beautiful after sticking, it would cost a lot.However just for a try,Just recap everything happened b/w you and them till date. Go straight to them and ask them on face what and on whose side the problem is.. People can’t reflex effectively, if any sudden situation happens. Until you don’t ask, the problem will be only yours. Why should you struggle for their behaviour? But while asking, observe their eyes and their way of speaking. Because you are their friend and you know how they react to certain situation.There is a lot of difference between behaving and managing. If you find something fishy, leave them. Don’t waste time in waiting for them.You can’t force anyone to be in your life whether they are are friends or a bf/gf. Just give their freedom. The more tight you hold it, more quicker it tries to flew away. If something is above to leave, something newer and better is going to happen.And main thing is,If any problem arises for your group, don’t take or let yourself to take the problem. Let the group face it first. If you alone face it, then you are the first one to be lost from group. Because you are busy in solving the problem and they are busy in enjoying. Most caring one is the most ignored one..Just remember one thing.. Attitude towards your problem matters..
Tbh OP, that depends on his intentions, you have to see the situation for what it is and not only see things from your perspective. I incense used to be head over heels for this one girl, did everything for her, drove her everywhere, bought clothes, food etc, spent over 1k on her in the summer, but the way she treated me when me and her were alone was different than how she treated me when we were around our group of friends, and my Friend at the time now best friend, was always mean to her and i never knew why, until one day I totaled my car. Once that happened she never even spoke to me, and when I brought it up to my friend he had told me that's why he didn't like her because she was using and I never knew, he did try to tell me but when you like someone you see what you want instead of what's the truth, I'm not sure what your situation is but bring it up to him and ask him when you're alone in a nice way why he acts like that, and try to have an open mind, fighting gets nowhere so remember to remain polite, he might be tryin to look out for you in his own way. GL OP
Should I stop hanging out with my best friend, which is in question, is she being my friend at this point.?
OK, I just reasonally posted a question about a situation I am going through with a ex friend of my daughter that turned out to be her enemy, she came to bring trouble, and wanted to fight my daughter in our own home, she pushed me in the process, and show me no respect, I felt not only hurt but totally betrayed and disrespect by this young women she's 25 years old. I pressed charges on her then had them dropped b/c we are church members. We had the problem resolved by me dropping the charges, and she promising us to not bother us or have anything to do with us outside being in church services. Now the problem while she's is staying away from my daughter and I she now is always contacting and inviting my best friend 9which is a church member too.) she calls, texts, and is always trying to have something to do with her, (Now she knows we are always together b/c we are best friends) I think she is still trying to interfere and mess with me by her steadily being in the middle. I've tried to explain my thoughts, and feeling to my friend but she claims that she doesn't want to judge her actions and doesn't do anything to stop her or discourage her behavior, which to me it looks as tough she is enabling her. It's a tough situation. I feel like my friend is letting me down, by being nonchalant about my problem with this girl. The last time she called again to invite her to an occasion, I asked my friend don't you see what she is doing, I told her that the least thing she can tell my enemy is that I am with her and she should be able to understand. I believe if she doesn't take a certain stand for me as her friend she is enabling this bad behavior and not helping it. I told my friend that while she is taking part like this and not acknowledging her behavior, I will have to step off. that means stop hanging out with my beat friend which I now have preservation's as to whether she is really my best friend. I truly believe we as people have to train people how to treat us, especially when people are behaving badly. I am tired of being disrespected, and feeling like I am being walked on and feeling like my feeling are not worth anything, especially when I am trying to do good. Please give me your opinion and tell me know if you think I am right to stay away from by best-friend while I think and feel she's enabling my enemy. Thank you in advance.
You know, this is a very complex issue. Obviously, there are things you like about him, or he wouldn’t be a friend, and you wouldn’t have initiated discussions about oral sex or been willing to try.He has ended up taking the role of persuader, with you offering resistance.Now, to be politically correct, he is completely in the wrong, he is not being respectful enough and ensuring your consent.But, realistically, he has found out in the past that you wane and wax in enthusiasm for trying sexual things with him, and he is feeling he has to work on you to bring you to agreement again. He has been trying to figure out why you are backing off, and somehow he came to the conclusion that if he did more things to please you, that would help. Not that odd a conclusion for him to come to, even though it really wasn’t relevant to how you see things.You have not been clear on your boundaries with him, and this is frustrating and confusing to him. He is attempting to be more firm and directive with you, as a way to deal with your back and forth dance.And why are you unclear on your boundaries with him?Why, because you aren’t clear with yourself as to what you want. You are ambivalent and indecisive on this issue.I don’t see it as him being a sexual predator (dry humping isn’t much on the agenda of sexual predators), I just seeing him just trying to find a way to deal with your ambivalent behavior while dealing with the very overpowering carrot on the stick that is his own sexual drive.Put the poor fellow out of his misery and let him know how things stand.Obviously, while you are tempted to do more with him, you aren’t entirely comfortable yet, and you do feel pushed. Something isn’t quite right for you to feel good about proceeding sexually.Let him know this, very clearly.And propose what you think should happen, such as going back to platonic friendship for now, without any sexual exploring, for the indefinite future.Even if you were tempted to do some sexual exploring, you were in fact pushing your own boundaries too much, and needed to slow down to show yourself respect for how you feel. That is the message your feelings are sending you.Take a break on this for now.If you loose his friendship over this, well, these things happen as we start exploring our sexuality when young. You make mistakes, you have to feel your way around. This is life.