Should I be the bigger person n reach out AGAIN???
Pretty much I'm tired of always being the one that reach out to mend so called friendship . This one girl n I didn't get along at first but I was the one that went up to her to work it out n been cool since. We stop talking n January n I reached out n July to work it out. Here it is nov n we not talk again. I feel like I shouldn't have to keep reaching out
Should i talk to him first or wait !?
There's this guy and he really likes me and we've been feeling each other and stuff, talking, calling etc. then the other night he was really rude and tried to make me feel jealous by saying he was talking to someone else anyway..... Afterwards I think realised he was wrong and he called twice and left some messages. Today he hasn't spoken to me and I won't lie, I miss him, so should I say hi first or will that make me seem like I don't care about what he did. Should I wait it out for him to contact me first or is that just petty ?
Should I talk to my boyfriend first after a fight or should I wait for him to talk to me?
What do you think whose fault was it? Why did you end up fighting each other? What do you think who's hurt more?If you seriously believe it’s you who was at fault, then you'll do the right thing if you talk to him first. Let's say, it wasn't your fault, rather it was his. But if you carelessly spoke something to him which shouldn't have and he might've been hurt, then you shouldn't back yourself. Approach him, speak to him and express your guilt.It doesn't really matter who made the mistake or who started it. What matters is how sooner you both patch things up. The sooner you get it done, the more better is for your relation.Lack of communication is what kills a relation. Try to avoid any such thing that'll fill you with remorse. It's better to deal with things as long as they can be dealt with. Later, what only thing that you can do is ‘Regret'. This is only a small word yet it's such a drag, such a burden. You might end up in depression (I'd been through).Forget the past and look for the future. Past is past, it's gone. What comes next is future, save it. You could either save it or ruin it, that depends upon your next step - either talk to him and let your good times roll or wait for him to speak to you until you both feel sorry.I would say rather to go with option 1. It's for the sake of your future with your boyfriend.Good Luck and Good Day!
How do I ask my friends why they don't talk to me unless I talk first without sounding like I'm complaining about them (I'm not)?
You don’t.People only talk to their friends when they’re bored, or until they are bored of their friends. It’s common, in this day and age, to completely ignore someone because you’re bored of them. It just happens. There isn’t a concrete reason for it.Likewise, people don’t really care about how others feel these days. If they did, they would talk to them more. They can’t understand how you feel about it, because to them, it’s normal. Worse, if you show that it isn’t normal, they might just call you off as clingy, and dismiss you everytime you try to talk to them.You need to understand that behind every friendship is a social contract. We do certain things for people, and they do certain things for us. When our usefulness runs out, as in, when they get tired of our attention, when they don’t derive anymore pleasure from talking to us, this contract is abruptly cut short, only for it to come into action again later on.
Why am I always the one texting someone first? And how do I make them text me first?
You can’t make anyone text you first, but man, it sure feels lonely to be the one to always initiate discussions.Consider frequency, perhaps you are reaching out first because you are simply the fastest and the most communicative. This is not a negative! This is rewarded in the work space.When you’re the initiator, there is always a feeling in the back of your mind that perhaps the other person doesn’t want to talk to you which is why they didn’t text you first. This may be the case. Is the person you’re thinking of someone who you like more than they like you? If so, you may be better off trying to distract yourself from that person vs. trying to get them to text you.And lastly, there is also just straight up asking. I have great friends who just are lousy at plans — they want me to text them, but rarely initiate it. I didn’t know this until I asked so don’t be afraid to do so as well.
Should I talk to my mother?
Hello Nathan.As a person that comes from a family that has endured wars that tore my family apart, I will tell you this.Sometimes the pain cuts so deep you can't sleep at night and if you happen to it's not without tears. But my mother and I fought for a very long time, for an extended period of time I couldn't stand her at all. Here's a fact;Hurt people, hurt people. People how have been wounded by others wound people.I am begging (which I don't do often) because your story is drawing out my heart of hearts, even though it hurts forgive. You'll have more power because if you just drop all your emotional charges against her she'll be dumbfounded. You will be the conqueror. Even though she manipulated you and she always blamed her problems on you. You have the chance to be the bigger person. You have the chance to change the story.I hated my family. I was angry and hurt. I didn't trust them and I built walls for YEARS. When gravity and time brought them down, I was lonely. And after forgiving and apologizing for the times I hurt my family, we built what was once broken. You too can do this.Yes Nathan you will regret cutting your mother out. When your kids won't sleep and they're so sick they're shaking, when you are out of ideas and nothing is helping, you'll want your mom. When the person you love the most in the world leaves you and you're heartbroken and you don't understand why, you'll want her voice and her embrace. You'll always be searching for some love or some woman to fill the hole your mother should be in.For your sake, for her sake for your family's sake, use your divine power to lay down the hurt and be the bigger person and forgive. That being said, you don't have to endure emotional abuse. When you forgive you can firmly state what you want and what you don't (manipulation, victimization).I apologize for the sense of urgency in this answer, but I connected deeply to your words. If you need advice on what to say or how to respond, I can help you every step of the way. Feel free to contact me.I wish you the best Nathan,Clarissa
Should we text people we like first or should we wait for them to text us so we know that they are interested in us?
Let's say that there are two people, Alice and Bob. Alice quite likes Bob, and Bob rather fancies Alice, too. Got it? Good.Now let's try a thought experiment. Suppose Alice and Bob believe that if you're keen on someone, the right thing to do is to wait for the other person to speak up first. What happens? Poor Alice and Bob sit around until the stars burn out, each waiting for the other to say something. I can't speak for them, of course, but to me, that does not sound like a satisfying outcome.But if they believe the right thing to do is to talk to the person you fancy...oh, now things get far more interesting! Now they learn that their interest is reciprocated, and the fireworks start. A much better result, don't you think?If you like someone, say so! That's what lets the magic happen.