What should I do when my brother hits me?
My Indian brother is the same. He was verbally and physically abusive and has slapped, punched , kicked me; called me a 'bitch' and much much worse. I've cut him off from my life and my heart. I no longer speak to him or acknowledge that he is alive and do not consider him my sibling. Your parents are cowardly. The typical Indian parents who favor the son and indirectly shift the responsibility for his violent behavior on to your head. Mine were the same. It's NOT your fault. Your brother has mental issues and he is venting on you, using you as a punching bag. Your parents are NOT protecting you as they should. By blaming you and not rebuking your brother, they are reinforcing your brother's violent behavior. My advice is IGNORE and STAY AWAY from him. DO NOT let him hurt you physically. STOP talking to your brother. PRETEND that he does not exist. Keep your interactions with him minimal. If he tries to start an argument with you DO NOT engage him, ignore him, go to your room and lock the door. Study hard, get a job and move out.
When does SPM get out of jail? i feel he is in jail because he isnt a f/king illuminati?
The man is a sexual predator and has attacked more than one person. He impregnated a 13 year old girl when he was 22 which we all know is "rape" according to the law and "child molestation". The guy is sick and is exactly where he belongs. He will not get out early if he is on his best behavior every day of his life. He has a "fetish" for extremely young girls and his chances for rehabilitation because he re-offended more than once are slim and few. Sad thing because he wasn't a bad musician at all. He'll be almost 50 when he gets out. If he had any commen sense he would have gone and gotten some mental health for his problem so he could have stayed out of jail and not hurt anyone else like he did. He made his choice now he's locked up. The Illuminati had nothing to do with this one. He clearly made a choice in his lifestyle and it wound him up behind bars for much of his life. Imagine if one of those girls were your Sister or Cousin or someone very close to you...then you opinion may change. Peace, Love & Happiness
Should I visit my son in jail?
Ask yourself this question: Are the things you're doing for him actually helping him get better, or are they just enabling him to continue the same behaviors? If your interaction with him is actually causing visible progress, and he is slowly getting back on the right track, then double down and get your son to clean up. However, if he's not getting any better, then all you're doing is going down with the ship. He is a complete wreck either way, and you're only making yourself a second and unnecessary casualty. I know he's your son, but he's been an adult for three years now. You need to realize that he is fully responsible for his own actions. I've seen this kind of thing before many times. I know how hard it is to close out a family member. But, when people are addicted to drugs that badly, they stop even being a real person anymore. They are nothing but a ghost in a human body whose sole purpose is to get more drugs at any cost. He certainly doesn't see you as a person, or as his mother. He sees you as someone to abuse and take advantage of as he sees fit. Why would you feed this? He's not your son anymore, and he won't be unless he takes control of his addiction. Get out of this abusive cycle. You're not equipped to handle this kind of thing. You're a mom, not a rehab center. Hopefully, one day he will get the help he needs. But, that level of care has to be provided by doctors, psychologists, specialized facilities, and probably some level of law enforcement. Please, for both of your sakes, get away until the situation resolves. If he ever truly cleans up and changes, take him back with open arms.
What are some cultural faux pas when interacting with Jewish people?
My sister was dating a Jewish guy. My mum loves to cook, and Mike loves to eat. He's a great guy and treats my sister really well. (Mike’s dad and my dad are both dead).A couple of years in, my mum decides to invite Mike’s mum for dinner. She lives in another city, but she is visiting. My mum decides to really push the boat out, and decides to cook lobster. Mike loves lobster.So mum spends a lot of money buying a generous quantity of lobster, cooks it to perfection, and brings it to the table. Mike’s mum is visibly horrified. She turns away from the table and won't even look at the lobster.My mum is mortified, realising she has given grave offence, but not knowing how. It wasn't like it was grilled pork belly or anything (which, incidentally, Mike also loves).Mike’s mum accepts a little salad, and that's all she will eat. She refuses to watch Mike munching happily on his lobster (and going in for seconds since there seemed to be an extra portion).My mum is hurt and confused, and the evening passes very awkwardly and uncomfortably. My mum and Mike’s mum never hit it off, though my sister and Mike are still happily together after more than a decade, and he still likes his bacon sandwich on Saturday mornings.Knowing Mum as I do, she was doing her best to be hospitable. She really wanted to get to know Mike’s mum. She assumed that, since Mike ignores kosher, his mum must be pretty relaxed too (not so!). She didn't think for a minute that kosher prohibits lobster. And crucially, she didn't send that get-out-of-jail question: is there anything you don't eat?Mike’s mum must have thought: Mike eats at Mum's all the time, so it must always be good kosher food which is served up. She assumed Mike was keeping kosher, which of course he isn't (this was clearly a source of some tension between them that evening). And crucially, she didn't send the get-out-of-jail message: just so you know, I keep kosher.For me this is an illustration that, despite the very best efforts of good people, misunderstandings can still occur when cultures meet.
What could we do with my boyfriend's mentally ill brother?
My boyfriend has a mentally ill brother that lives with their mother currently but shes really ill and old herself. One day their mother basically said hes going to have to live with you if anything were to happen. This probably sounds very mean, and my boyfriend also agrees, but quite frankly we don't want him to. His brother tends to have sexual tendencies, especially to me, which makes me very uncomfortable to be around. I've had some very creepy and almost scary incidents with him, and I honestly don't think I could live with him. Before people freak out and swear I'm overreacting, I'm definitely not. If this was a non-mentally ill person, they'd probably be in jail right now but I know hes mental so I let it slide. I could list a few incidents of things that has happened and we currently don't even live in the same house. Anyway we thought about just buying his own apartment very close to us and paying for all of his bills, which wouldn't be a problem, but he has seizures so that was a concern. Which brought us to the idea of a home similar to one for eldery couples. I don't want him to feel like its a prison though or anything. Is there such a thing? Any ideas of any other kinds of living arrangements we could make for him?
If you go to jail what do you do when your on your period?
I spent a night in jail last summer...dui. While I was in there 2 ladies were on their period, the gaurds gave them cardboard Tampax and only in regular size. they do not give midol.
What is ettitquite in dating a much younger widowed women in dealing with her ex's parents/child's grandparent?
ok,i am a divorcing 38 yr old male and i met a 26 yr old mother of two.We seem to get along wonderfully,have been seeing each other for aprx 3 mths,and she just introduced me to her children during Thanksgiving. She has told her daughters deceased father's mother about me.The lady tells her I am too old for her,that when she is 50,i'll be 62,yada yada,and wants to meet me when they visit for christmas.I told the girl i am seeing that i would feel extremely uncomfortable meeting her child's grandmother so soon,and would rather do that next year,assuming we are still getting along ok.Mygirlfriend told me that is fine.I am curious as to what is proper in this siutation.By the way,i do not beleive in divorce,but my wife obviously doe not beleive in marriage and keeps trying to have me falsely thrown in jail.
What form of social interaction is normal in your country but strange in others?
Millions of Indian women donot call their husbands by name.An interesting social experiment was carried out in a small village called Walhe near Pune, Maharashtra, by an NGO called VideoVolunteers. Some women were asked to call their husbands by name in a social setting.And this is what happened.‘One woman decided to call her husband by name at dinnertime in front of her entire family. When her mother-in-law glared at her, she got scared and said that it was a mistake. Another woman said that Video volunteers told me to do it. One participant’s husband was less understanding and the situation ended in violence’.[1]But most husbands were fine with their wives calling them by their name, but ONLY IN PRIVATE !![2]Because calling your husband by name in India is a sign of disrespect.Because it is a prevelant social norm across all regions, religions, caste and class in the patriarchal society of India.Especially in rural areas, joint families and people of older generation.So, how do Indian women refer to or address their husbands?Indian women come up with innovative ways of referring to their husbands. For example-In all social interactions, my mother refers to my father as ‘ Meghna’s father’ or “Yeh (He)”.My mother-in-law refers to my father-in-law as “Papaji”, as do all her children and grandchildren.In order to direct address their husbands, women usually say, “Sunte Ho” (Hindi) or “Chudu” (Telugu). Please listen or please look.Calling your husband by name in India is considered a privilege of so called modern, educated,feminist, urban women.Every time I call my husband by his name within my mother-in-law’s earshot, she flinches.Since his name is the name of a popular Hindu God, I assure my mom-in-law that it is a good way of remembering God. Will God consider calling out his name aloud a sign of disrespect ?!I hope NOT :-).Source-Women say their husbands’ names for the first time. By VideoVolunteers. Rohini Pawar.Footnotes[1] Indian women break tradition of silence, call husbands by their name[2] https://www.google.co.in/amp/s/w...