On social media, everyone with mental misery seems to get validating comments. Isn't that really an unhelpful way to respond that will only embed a negative thought loop, instead of people being aware of CBT, ACT and NLP to dissipate the misery loop?
I am not a therapist, but I was a victim. I say was, because I made a choice to not remain in the victim state.When a person is miserable, from victimization or from other circumstances, there is a true need to be understood. For me, the first step in my recovery was feeling validated. I never felt like others were validating my misery though, I felt that they were validating me. In return, that validation renewed in me a sense of dignity.Once I felt stronger, I was better able to feel hope. This hope is what propelled me to find real help. For me, this help came in the form of EMDR sessions to deal with the PTSD that resulted from my traumatic experiences.Perhaps I was fortunate in never feeling that being validated was pushing me into remaining a victim. I honestly don’t believe that I would have felt enough hope in the possibility of a bright future if others didn’t lift me up with their understanding. It may be different for different people, and perhaps some do remain miserable due to the kind responses from others. For me, however, I needed that kindness and validation. The understanding from others was the beginning of my salvation.It is very easy for those who have never suffered misery to pontificate how best to help those suffering around them. I would like to caution anyone quick to judge, that misery is often not the fault of the miserable. Overcoming the misery is, truly and sadly, the job of the one suffering, yet the path out of the darkness is rarely successful without understanding, kindness, and validation from others. Please never judge the path of another, as you have no idea what they have been through or are going through.
Is it serious to be diagnosed with bipolar disorder?
Yes it is very serious. If not properly treated it will make your life and the life of others a misery.
With great knowledge comes great misery, Why is this so?
Okay I'm learning a lot about government, the food industry, prisons, the medical industry and some holistic health alternatives, and most of the things that I read about our trusted services are out to do us more harm than good. The average person does not know about these things and I kind of feel torn because I'm struck in a place where the majority wouldn't understand or care to. I feel powerless and what I can do? These things are really out of my hands. Should I just try to fit in and be "normal" and petend like I didn't read these things? And why does knowledge cause misery?
Is it fair to say Islam has brought nothing but bloodshed, misery and death in recent times?
Nope . Its all to do with the right hand pointer finger . AKA Trigger finger .
What type of human misery touches your heart the most?
I'm with Margaret, self inflicted ignorance.All problems in this life are solvable, if we (ourselves and others) choose to find a solution.Mostly we don't want to give up our self inflicted misery long enough to seek a solution to our problems.Instead we choose to be miserable so we can blame others.How many times have you heard about someone who would rather others lose what that first person envies, instead of gaining for themselves what they want?
How should mass shootings be covered by the media so coverage is responsible and actually helps?
Apparently, I’m the only one of the three answers to directly answer your question.I’m not clear that the media coverage of mass shootings is not responsible, and how it hurts.It depends which media we’re discussing. Cable tv? Network tv? Print? Social media?Socmed news:There’s little responsibility in general in socmed news media, because until the business model changes, they’re ruled by click-counting, so they will continue to generate pieces that exploit the most emotion, because emotion generates clicks, and clicks generate profits.Cable tv:They have problems generating enough feed in the first few hours, because not much is happening that’s captured on camera. So they have endless talking heads while continuously looping what feed they have, which is commonly aerial shots of the area showing police cars and people milling around.Network tv and print media have the luxury of time, so they tend to be the least exploitive.Unless you tell me what you’re referring to, I don’t have excessive criticisms of how the media covers mass shootings. Sure, it’s flawed, but not grossly irresponsible. As for being “helpful,” would we be better without media coverage? I don’t buy that at all.
Is it good to share your misery and problems with everyone?
No, its a very bad idea to share you misery with everyone, but its always a comforting act to share with someone in whom in you can confide to. Let me try and explain and make more sense to you.Everyone has their own share of perils and problems in life. Life is not a bed of roses as we see in movies or on facebook timelines of other people. Its a big pain trying to shelve everything within yourself, keeping calm and behaving as if things were normal. These problems may be a very much hypothetical things, a procreation of events around you which inadvertently made you feel insecure or created some kind of discomfort. These emotions tend to put you down, push to the wall and put you in a corner. Now, it a concept of physics which says if you push something hard, its bound to come back with a greater force. So, when some of these emotions and feelings make you feel low, corner you, one is bound to act in an insane way unless you let go of the feeling and the best way is sharing with people. Thats very much comforting, telling others what made you feel low and getting a warm hug in return. Works like wonder 99% of times. The problem happens when you tell your worries to someone who is not a enthused audience(is not actually bothered to hear about your problems). Thats when people start talking and when this person talks to others, he/she adds his/her predicament and judgement to it. And the judgement may be completely wayward and uncalled for. Worse, people can actually take advantages of your situation by making you feel worse.The best way to cure yourself of this is to figure out a person who can be your best confide. Share things with that person only(can be anyone, you mom, sibling, spouse or even a colleague). Remember this person is one who you know will not turn your back against you even if things turn sour between you guys.
Why are people so mean to each other?
Just like the saying goes, "Misery loves company." Most people today are very unhappy and frustrated with life in general. We are over-worked & under-paid; told that we are not good-looking enough without surgical enhancements or starving ourselves; bombarded with negative events in the news every hour of every day; we're taught that we have no control over our actions and don't have to accept responsibility for our behaviors (it's always your choice); lacking disipline, values and proper guidence; etc; etc. In a nutshell the selfish ones only want everyone else to be as miserable as they are.