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Why do I feel so drained after talking to my sister?

Same with my sister shes younger that me. She has had a lot of family problems as well has health issues. She drains me sometimes she calls me when she needs a shoulder to cry on. I have ofter spend hours on my mobile calling her back as she only has so many free minutes. She knows i pay for unlimited call. I visited her 3 times this winter to cheer her up and be nice company for her. We booked a holiday together but she met a guy and argued with me. That was may 2017. Now its summer ( she lives by the sea). She ignores me all my family live in Devon. So im stuck in Lindon. My daughter in her 30s feels for me. My sister got on my Whats up and told me i need anti depressants. She ssid shes with a new guy who takining her away. She showing off to me shes getting a new car. Funny in the winter she will be back when she needs me. Im not drained anymore she used me and now shes moved on she does not love me. I feel no good vibes. I felt bad for months but now im picking up. My persanality is coming back. Ive no one to criticise me. Ive an older sister shes an alcoholic. Shes abusive when i call her and shes drunk. Do i have nothing in common with her. So i do miss having a good sister. My best friend died so its a loss as ive no one whos there for me. Im a carer so i really need a break away. By the way my younger sister may love me but she never apologises she just gets more abusive and i had to walk away. Feel empty buy im trying to be happy i just got over chest infection so im so happy im well again. Its my life and now ive no sisters at all.

How can I, without hurting her feelings, tell my sister that she is gaining a lot of weight? She gained 30 pounds in three months. She's studying for medical school so she's super stressed out. All she eats are fast food sandwiches and milkshakes.

There is no way to tell her that guarantees you won't hurt her feelings.Beyond that, the right thing to do depends on who she is and who you are, and I don't know her or you.However, if she's in medical school, she's used to a competitive environment, which includes a lot of blunt feedback. While her weight gain suggests that this is likely beyond her comfort zone, it shows she can survive and benefit from constructive criticism.That said, I would say something like,"I'm proud of you, and I'm just blown away by what you're doing at medical school. I'm also worried about you, and your health. I totally get that you're under a lot of stress, and I see that you've been gaining weight. I realize this stress isn't forever and I wouldn't say anything about it -- in fact, I almost didn't -- but I also see what you're eating and it just seems to me that you're eating a really unhealthy diet. It comes down that this, and then I'll shut up because I know this is your business: I love you. I'm proud of you. I don't want anyone hurting the sister I love, even if the person hurting the sister I love is the sister I love. Stop hurting my sister! Take better care of my sister. I'm serious. Please, let me know how I can help."Be prepared for tears or anger or both, but don't change your attitude. You want to help, you don't want to do harm. You respect her. Back off, but don't abandon her. Be there for her at a distance if she's angry. Best you can do. Should work :-)

How do I convince my parents that my sister is too young to get married? My sister believes she's not ready for marriage yet, and that it will curb her independence. My mom is terminally sick, and wants to see her get married while she can.

Your situation is a little difficult. I would suggest you make a list of logical reasons you think she shouldn't get married now. That'll help you stick to the point instead of getting angry and coming across as obstinate when you talk to them. Here are some things to consider.. 1) Communicate with your sister and gauge her maturity and wishes. In my opinion, a lot of 20 year olds may not have the maturity to decide whether they are ready for marriage or not. I'm not sure whether that's true in your sister's case.2) If your sister doesn't live in a hostel and goes to college in the same city as your parents, she's probably had a very protected life. It's a good idea for her to get out and explore the world a little. Maybe come live with you and work for a couple of years. This does give a person a new perspective in life and broadens the mind.3) Working for some time & earning money will give her the confidence to walk out of a bad marriage should she end up in one.4) She may not have typical "bright" career prospects, but she may have other interests she wishes to develop.5) Lastly and this may sound cruel coming from a stranger, but maybe you want to ask your parents if they would have married her this early had your mom not been ill. If not, then maybe they'll realize that they are not keeping her best interest in mind..

I am having an affair with my sister-in-law. How do I divorce my wife without putting myself in a legally, ethically, and morally weak position?

So let me get this straight, you are asking how to jump into an alternate dimension, or a parallel universe, because you have totally destroyed your life in this one? You must be aware that your only hope is to jump to warp speed and find a worm hole out of here, right?If you live in a community property state, such a California, you will be fine legally, (unless your sister-in-law is under 18). As for being in an ethically and morally weak position…ahahahaha! The ship of morality has already sailed so far away that you will drown of you try to catch it, but go ahead, jump in and start swimming. See if anyone, anyone at all cares at this point. You sir are toast, wet slimy toast!Oh, and your sister-in-law is wet slimy toast as well.If, however, you are actually serious about wanting to be an ethical person, then please, please develop morals and put them to use. To do this, you will need to be honest with your wife. You can start with being generous with any divorce settlement, thinking of her needs before your own. You will also need to break it off with your sister-in-law, so that you do not destroy your wife’s entire family. After you have done this, please, please, spend some time alone. Work on yourself.What frightens me the most is your talk of not wanting to be in a weak position. If there is to be any hope for your future, you need to be thinking the opposite. It is through humility that we grow, not through shows of strength. If you aren’t willing to take responsibility for the truly epic failures in your relationships by making amends and trying to change, then you are likely going to go through life very unhappy, and very, very alone.I say this with sincere honesty and concern, I truly do hope that you learn from this and change. Many before you have blundered then changed; I hope that you will be one of them.

How does it feel to be in an incestuous relationship with first blood relatives or siblings? How does it begin?

It was with my dad. It began with me liking the way he looked at me. I wasn't pretty and I didn't have large breasts which seemed to be the two things the boys in high school were interested in. When I was in 9th grade I seduced a boy my age. He was a shy only child; he was nice but way too shy. He'd never kissed a girl. It took me weeks to get him going with kissing and touching my breasts and things. One moment we were both virgins and the next moment we weren't. Ho hum.A couple years later my dad began taking an interest in me. Not in a creepy way but in a kind and genuinely warm way. I noticed him looking at my breasts and I liked what he did. He didn't ogle like the boys did, he looked quickly at my breasts, looked me in the eyes and smiled and sometimes winked and that was it. He praised what I was doing in school. He came to my swim meet once and took me out for a snack after and told me he admired my improvements. Back in the car, he told me he was proud of me; that was the first time he kissed me. I wasn't expecting it and it was only a short kiss but it was on my lips.The next week was an away swim meet. I went on the school bus with the rest of the team. After the meet he told my coach he would drive me home. He took me to dinner and we talked nicely. After, we got in the car and this time we got in the car and really kissed. I was wearing the team sweats; they were dumpy looking but also loose with no impediment to him touching me. He unhooked my bra as we kissed and then got his hand under my panties and fingered me.The next week was a home meet. He took me for a snack. I wanted more but there were too many people around. Week after that, another away meet. Instead of dinner he took me to McDonald's and then to a motel! That scared me. I didn't know what I wanted. But he turned the lights off and began kissing me and once again his hand was under my sweat suit and on my breasts and soon we were in bed. He did ask if I was a virgin and then we were making love for the first time. As soon as he was inside me, my concerns evaporated. He gave me a memorable climax.It wasn't easy. There were many times I wanted to make love but he wasn't available. There were times we had quickies in the garage. There were times we got irritated with each other. There were a few times we got reckless and made love in my bed or in my mom and dad's bed.

What is it like to hate or strongly dislike your brother or sister?

Oh boy. This one popped out to me because I was thinking about it just now. Before I can answer, let me explain. My sister has always been kind of rough, especially to me, who stole her status as the “only child”. But when I was 13, she said some things to me that I will never forgive. I was supposed to write sentences as a punishment, I forget why, but my sister liked to jump all over my case about it. She yelled at me constantly, didn't give me a moment of reprieve for around 10 minutes. I forget most of what she said, but some things really Stan out. We weren't living with my mom, she hated her guts. So here's the g is of what was said.“Fuck you! I can't believe you're my brother! You're going to end up crazy like your mother, and you both can be alone! Even your girlfriend is crazy, she hears voices, and she's trash!”At that point, I was boiling. I stood up on my chair and yelled back at her.“Don't you dare talk to me or them that way! Do you understand?”It took a moment for her to recover.“See? You ARE crazy! What will people say when I tell them you stand on chairs and scream?”At that point I ran to the bathroom, her following me and shouting, and locked the door. She messed with the handle until it broke. She yelled at me through the door and left. I knew I couldn't stay, so I ran away. Im now living with my “crazy” mom. We love and support each other through anything.If my sister was to show up right now and beg me for forgiveness, I wouldn't accept.“You said some very cruel things to me the last time we spoke. That was 4 years ago. But that's not the only thing you did. You shut me out my whole life, all you did was show cruelty. That's something that I'll never be able to forgive. And if you leave forever, I wouldn't really give it any thought.”That's what i would say. How does it feel to hate a sibling? Burning anger. It boils in you. You feel ashamed for not standing up for yourself and those you love better. You feel awful that you let her have the upper hand all this time. Then, nothing. Well, sort of. The anger is still inside, but it's dulled and buried underneath the utter lack of emotion you feel. It will resurface like a volcano if given the chance. And you can say everything you ever wanted to her face. That's what it feels like. Thank you.