This teacher is totally singling me out?
Emawee, tell this gal if she does not get her act together and treats you equal to everyone else she will be facing some discrimination charges. Document the evidence as these things happen. Thank you and good day.
My friend is singling me out as an asshole?
Whenever my friends joke around and laugh around him (not even about him), it's fine, but if I laugh or joke around, he assumes I'm being a d*ck. And then he yells at me and I always tell him to stop freaking out and take a joke once in a while and "everyone else laughed too, why are you singling me out?". And I've talked to him about it many times. It's never out of context, so I'm not bringing it up out of no where. Last time I talked to him about it, he seemed to think it was 110% my bad. My friends agree that he's the one being a d*ck, not me. He's always an asshole to me for no reason (unless I'm missing something). Always telling me to shut up, go away, excluding me, and again singling me out as an asshole whenever other people are doing the same thing (I'm not influenced by the other people, I'm just being me). I really don't know what to do. It's been like this for about a year on and off. And it's not like I can just ignore him, because we have the same friends and I'm not willing to give up all my friends just to leave one bad one.
How do you handle friends who have singled you out and exiled you from them? What should I do?
How do you hanlde friends who have singled you out and exiled you from them> I don’t. Their loss.What should you do?Get out there and find better friends who will love your for all that you are and what you can’t be. Volunteer, take classes in relation to your interests, be kind to all - friends appear.Take a hard look as to your part, if any as to why the friendship might of ended, so you don’t just keep
How do I deal with my friends singling me out?
Per a suggestion by Simon Huggins, I will give you some thoughts. When I was bullied in grade school, my mom, God bless her, gave me the worst advice: ignore it. DO NOT IGNORE THIS. Unless you have the guts to leave them behind.Moving forward from these jerks- tip#1 don't let people walk all over you. Believe it or not, it gets harder as an adult because you are expected to be "mature" in your responses. When you are young, which I assume you are, I think you can practice more options like "don't cross me @$$hole" or "did I act like I wanted you to talk to me?". I like Simon's response "You've been mentioning my mom an awful lot lately, are you obsessed with her?" Humor and wit can put them out of commission. Most bullies don't want to be taken to task. Practice being tough now, verbally, so it is not so hard later. Remember when I mentioned above I was bullied in grade school?I managed to skate through high school without much incident but I was bullied TWO YEARS AGO (I am now 43 years old) at a job and I had no healthy responses for the bully's sh*tty comments. I ignored and ignored and ignored until I EXPLODED and I was the one who looked like an arse. Now, I am learning:Tip#2 Part of the bullying is self-inflicted. Insofar as these people are poop-heads, you are also dramatizing and "woe is me"ing the situation. STOP this is just as badTip#3 Do not give them the powerTip#4 Moving forward, ignore the insignificant people and move on to others who appreciate you. I know you feel like you've been betrayed but in the future, don't put so much trust in others. Tip#5 They are like mosquitoes- bat them away and don't let them think they bother youTip#6 Life is not fair, enjoy every moment, however "ordinary"Tip#7 When you love yourself, this comes across in interactions and people like that, just don't take it to the extreme to arrogance/lack of empathyTip#8 Don't ever back down. Most of these guys are all talk. If they actually take it to the next level of physical confrontation, learn how to defend yourself. PM me with questions.
How do you avoid lending money to friends who cannot take no for an answer?
from: 10 Guilt-Free Strategies for Saying NoSaying No for the Sake of Your WalletRequest: A friend in need asks for a Trump-worthy loan.What you should say: "I wish I could, but as a rule, I don't lend money to friends."Why it works: It's clear that you are not singling out this person as untrustworthy.Why you shouldn't feel guilty: Lending any amount of money can cause problems, says communications trainer Don Gabor. "It can change the nature of your relationship if the person doesn't pay you back."How to avoid the situation in the future: Never lend money to friends and you won't get a reputation as a walking, breathing ATM.also visit: How to Refuse Lending Money to Family & Friends& 10 Reasons Why You Should NOT Lend Money to Friends & Family
Why is there always that one friend in a clique we always take the piss out of?
I actually had this type of friend throughout middle school and high school. Our “group” would always make fun of him when we wanted to be funny. He would just dismiss it because he was innocent, but he was too innocent. I never knew why it was him and no one else. I realized in sixth grade, that he was the most friendly, loving, caring person out of all of us in the group. He was the easiest to target because he would never retaliate.Through my years, I learned to never give a part of your body to anyone. Maybe a few ounces of empathy, but not more than that. Trust me, EVERYONE, I mean EVERYONE will betray or disappoint you at least once throughout your life. I had to learn that the hard way. That was problem with this kid. He gave too much of his empathy and, therefore, couldn't strike back to any bullies.Another reason was also because he wasn't street smart. He is book smart, but when we watch videos on YouTube, he always had to have me explain to him what the meaning or joke of the video was.Whenever we're mad, we make fun of him. Since elementary though, our “group” kind of disassembled if you would say. But I know for a fact that the friend you are talking about is definitely the most loyal and will stay by your side everywhere. I should know because he is the only one I actually communicate with now.TL:DR because that person is too innocent and won't stand up for themselves.My first answer.Wish me luck.
What do you think about the friendship between a student and a teacher? Is it possible?
You are a teacher. They are your students. The roles are fixed and your status is also fixed. I would be wary of forming a proper, deep friendship. A certain distance is best. For both sides. However, there are more shades than just black and white: you can be sort of friends with your class without singling out a special person.I have been teaching young adults and adults and I have liked most of them. We have had very good times in class, lots of laughs together and overall the atmosphere has been good.Some of my students have come to me with personal problems and I helped them as far as I could. Some have come to visit me at home for a chat. I have also invited an entire class to prepare for an exam at my home. I have been asked to be a godmother to the child of one student. Some write messages to me every other month or so, just asking how I am doing. So, for me, this is a kind of friendship, too. I would not want to get more involved in their personal lives.
Do your friends ever annoy you?
so this happens to me alot, mostly with my older friends though. like u know how friends are mean to each other, well they take it a bit too far, and if i complain they say "omg u know were just kidding" but still it bothers me. and like one of my friends always wants things her way, & she gets so hyped up about certain things, and if u dont wanna do it her way she gets all pissed. and its so annoying, and she always tries to control things. like i love my friends but sometimes they annoy me so much! another 1 of my friends NEVER EVER EVER has a ride anywhere, like the first around 10 times it was ok, now its like no have your frickin parents drive u. so do your friends ever annoy you, and what do they do that annoys you?
What does " single out " mean ?
If you single someone out, it means that you are referring to them and no one else around them. For example, if a girl was in a group of boys and someone shouted something to her specifically, she will be singled out. I think thats right. =)
So, my friend pretends she's going out with Harry Styles. How do I deal with this?
Ahaha, I'm sorry. I never understood the fangirling thing but I understand wanting something to be true so bad that you just go ahead and pretend it is. I drove my friends crazy with this one until we were about 8 and then i got over it.I pretended I understood animals. Like could literally talk to them.I just loved animals so much and wanted to be a part of their world. I ended up writing out how I thought different animals would “talk” and proceeded to talk to not only pets in this language, but also my friends pets. Needless to say I stopped getting invited to people’s houses.What do I suggest? Make up your own thing. I know Harry Styles was a singer in a boy band but not much else. “Date” one of his singer buddies and suggest y'all go out on a double date. Hell, arrange to meet at an Applebee's or something and bring along a cutout of your new bo. Pretend to share a smootie with him. Keep rolling with the story until she either gets annoyed with you too and stops her own fantasy, or realizes how ridiculous the whole thing is.