LIFE LONG SOCIAL ANXIETY. WHAT TO DO?
ive always had social anxiety. as a kid and in my teens i had crippling social anxiety. so bad i hardly talked to anybody. with girls AND guys. i didnt know how to conversate and had a lot of fear. with girls i liked, it was even worse. terrified of them that i would never say a word. even afraid they would catch me looking at them. i thought of them as some foreign creatures. srsly. like they were so high up and different that i wasnt even on their level to be in their prescence so i never approached one. but these days i see them as normal but for some reason still have a lot of anxiety to approach them. i never had a girlfriend. im 23 years old. i can socialize with guys now, no problem. but i still am the opposite of an extroverted guy. i rarely approach random people for some small talk. ive only approached a girl less than a hand full of times in my life. i still have the social anxiety that i cant get rid of. i feel that its weird goin up to a girl i dont know. they would think, why is a stranger like me coming up to her bothering her and breaking up her day. and im not a social guy, i dont know how to crack jokes, not a good conversationalist. i dont know what to talk about with some random girl. so i know i will get shot down every time. and i absolutely HATE rejection.
Working as a cashier, with social anxiety?
We all have anxious moments for some reason or another. With me it has been job interviews, and you have already passed that one with flying colours; well done by the way! I just accept that I get anxious at job interviews but resolve not to let them get the better of me; acceptance seems to be the key for me, and lots and lots of practice. Just remember we all have to put up with these moments but keep your resolve. Most people (normal ones that is) are not going to be difficult for you, just smile and try to pay attention to what they say, then say thank you to each and every one also - for their patience. Your new boss does not expect you to be super fast to begin with, just pay attention to getting it correct. The machine you use shouldn't require maths skills anyway, just practice your procedures. If you are really having difficulty with an accent have a pencil and paper handy; apologise to them and quietly but politely ask them to write it down for you. Usually (well most times) the written words would be easier to understand. Most would do this happily for you. Ask for assistance at times when you need it, as this is to be expected on a new job, so take advantage of this, paying attention to the help that is provided so you don't have to ask again. I think you will be fine. Go with the attitude that these nerves will be with you anyway but you are not going to let them win. Good luck but I don't think you'll really need it. Evaluate yourself after the first day and you'll realise just how well you did really.
I'm terrified of going to school because of anxiety and depression!? Help!!?
I'm 14 years old and in 8th grade. I've missed so many days of school because of my anxiety/depression. The last thing I want is to be held back but that's what's gonna happen if I can't change now. If ihave to stay back that would absolutely ruin my life. I don't have any problems with people at school and my grades are average but I'm TERRIFIED of going to school. I have social anxiety and because of that it made me really depressed . I'm going to get pills soon and I'm seeing a phycologist. I've never had problems with going to school until this year. I don't even know why but i physically am unable to get myself to go to school. My parents have tried everythig to get me back to school. They even called the cops twice and tried dragging me to the car but I just can't do it . This year I lost about half of my best friends who decided to ditch our group and join the popular group. Some new girls who I kinda knew before sit with us at lunch now but I'm kinda shy and I feel like my opinion just doesn't matter to people and they all could care less if I'm not in school. Also I constantly worry about everything. I care way too much about what people say about me. I dread walking through the halls at school and try to not to do anything stupid. I can't stand the gossipers and I don't even wanna know what people say about me in school. My mom wants to home school me but i don't wanna leave the friends I have as if now. She also offered to send me to a private school but I'm terrible at meeting new people so I'm scared my life at the private school would be worse than at the school I'm at now. I just wanna disappear sometimes. Sometimes I just want my life to end. I wanna be NORMAL and go to school easily like NORMAL kids do. Everyday I say I really wanna go to school but I just can't. I wanna go to school so bad but I'm too terrified. And it's hard because the longer I stay home the harder it is to go back. Please help!! :( I can't take this anymore.
Social Anxiety? Have to sign for a parcel later on?
It could be that you're not getting enough sleep, fruits, water and that is making you scared of others. So get enough of those things to solve this problem. To me it seems like paranoia. There is nothing to be afraid of. All those things are safe for you. Nothing to worry about. Just receive the parcel, ask your dad and keep your and his id ready just in case. Don't worry, everything will be fine. No one is going to harm you. You can email me anytime. Just try to relax and focus on doing things you love to do. Don't be scared of others. Take a deep breath. Go out in nature and get lots of fresh air. You could be panicking due to staying indoors too much and being in a suffocated room. So open the windows, get enough fresh air. Watch some cartoons on tv or on youtube. I would recommend pink panther but you can watch anything. Just follow my suggestions to destress and you will be fine. Don't be scared of doing those things, they're all safe and you can't be harmed by doing any of them.
Social Anxiety-I'm Embarrassed:/?
Ok so I have never been diagnosed with social anxiety by a doctor but I know I have anxiety issues. I've struggled with it for years now. I get embarrassed and blush easily over anything. Like I can't talk on the phone in public and Im always anxious even just thinking about a social situation. So today in class my teacher noticed how there was a quiet student who spoke up for the first time this whole semester and my teacher then said "Hmm now Im wondering who has not talked all semester.." and well for some reason I feel like he was talking about me and I started to turn pink because I get embarrassed easily, then he looked over my direction and said "I think you're turning the same color as your roses" (I was wearing a white cardigan with pink roses all over it) and at that moment I was like FML. Now Im just wondering if the whole class thinks im weird or something? Or do you think they have completely forgotten about it already and don't care?
Afraid of working at cash register? Social anxiety?
my boss is going to train me a little bit today so I can work the cash register because I open the shop three days a week, and close one of those days as well..but I feel afraid because I suffer from panic attacks, social anxiety and I'm not a big people person, people say I look depressed sometimes( which sometimes is kinda true), I need this job, I'm 20 years old and i'm planing on moving to another state for college in about a year so I need to keep that job..I don't want to deal with rude costumers who might judge me because I don't know how to work the cash register at first..I need some help at it and my boss with help me today but I'm still extremly nervous about it, how do I just relax and not embarassing myself or look like an idiot in front of costumers???
My parents don't understand my social anxiety?
I was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder, which I have had for a long time now. I'm terrified of most social situations, I won't speak up in class or anything, because I'm afraid they will think I'm stupid or laugh at me. I don't have many friends, if any at all. I would love to have friends, but I'm so terrified of what others think of me, that it holds me back from making any. My parents just think I'm antisocial and rude. They tell me to get over it and that it's not that hard to talk to people. They don't understand how hard it is. I'm not being rude, I'm just uncomfortable..I can't just "GET OVER IT" it doesn't work like that..This has held me back so much that I regret all the lost chances of making new friendships and whatever else. I'm tired of how badly this is holding me back, yes I am beginning treatment soon, but I want my parents to understand instead of saying "Get over it" or "You're just antisocial" because I'M NOT antisocial. Is there any way to get them to understand me? Is there anything I can do? I'm tired of them saying I'm rude, inconsiderate, and antisocial..