Spending Christmas With Boyfriend

My boyfriend won't be spending christmas with me? Is this normal?

I know it's too early but I wanna know your opinions. So this is the second christmas we had in our relationship. On christmas day, my whole family (aunts,uncles,cousins etc) gather together and plan to have a large meal. Last year we didn't celebrate it together cause we weren't that serious. This year I thought that it would be great to invite him, but he said he usually spends christmas with his family (so in a way he said no) :(

Is this normal for a couple not to spend christmas together?

Ps. All my siblings and cousins bring along their boyfriend/girlfriend to this large meal. And I will be the only that her boyfriend didn't want to come :(. I'm 20 he's 21.

Should I spend Christmas with my family or my boyfriend's family?

If you made a promise, you should keep it. However, Christmas is OVER A MONTH AWAY (very early to be even thinking about it, actually). Negotiate with him in about a month or so and figure out what he'd want to do. Perhaps, both families can spend Christmas together. I mean, if you truly love him, you may marry him soon, and that's what will happen in your later years each Christmas.

But if this doesn't work, I would say spend the first half with him and second half with your family, just to make things easier for you distance/driving wise. If you'd like it the other way, that's fine. If you want to do this on separate days (Christmas eve and Christmas), that would work too, but you have to figure out who's family is on what day (I recommend your own on Christmas day) It's ok if this doesn't work out at all, you still have other options. Just make sure that everyone is happy.

Should I spend Christmas with my family or my boyfriend's family?

If you and your boyfriend have spent the last two Christmases with your family, I think that it would be fine to go with your boyfriend to Canada to spend one with his family.

Relationships are about compromise and give and take. I'm sure your parents will understand when you explain it to them.

Just be sure to set a date with them when you and your boyfriend can spend time with them for the holiday, like the weekend before or the weekend after.

Boyfriend doesn't want to spend Christmas with me.?

My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years is a widower. His wife died Christmas morning 4 years ago.
His 3 adult children all owe him $, family has been awful to him in the last year. He's been thinking of not spending Christmas with them. Understandable.
Today he said he's thinking of going to another state by himself for Christmas.
"You don't want to spend Christmas with me?"
. "It's not you, it's me."
I get this is a painful time of year for him.
If his family was treating him better he wouldn't be considering taking off.
I'm not being awful, causing problems; I've been kind and supportive.
I'm not a factor. My feelings aren't worth considering.
I'm very hurt.
. I matter too.

Boyfriend Will Not Spend Christmas with Me?

I honestly think you're over dramatic his family is missing one son and you want to take another? it doesn't matter how old the son missing is.. you mention your mom getting him a gift that can be given any other day you seem to not be able to compromise? not to sound harsh. In my family its considered disrespectful to leave to you're significant others on family days especially when you can see him any other day. I honestly doubt he will stick with the separate holidays its all about how you react you cant force things he probably feels like youre pressuring him to move faster than hes ready if he is comparing holidays to marriage

Should i spend christmas with my family or boyfriend?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 11 months, this will be our first Christmas together. My sister, her husband and my nephew are going out of state to visit my dads family who I haven't seen in six years. I was able to get off work last minute to go along, but my sister says the rental car they've gotten is too small. So basically I can come but my boyfriend would be an overcrowd. Everyone seems to think I'm being immature because I want to spend our first Christmas together, rather than spend it with my grandmother who is getting older but also doesn't call all that often. For the record my boyfriend says I should do whatever makes me happy but would of course be sad if we were apart. What should I do, I'm so torn? Am I being immature like everyone says? Advice please!

Is it wrong to spend Christmas with my boyfriend instead of family?

I am also in my 30s and plan to spend Christmas with my BF's family. As an adult in a serious relationship there is nothing wrong with spending holidays with your BF's family IF you are in a serious relationship that might lead to marriage (or if you are against marriage..expect to be in that man's life for the rest of your life or years). Explain that to your sister. Explain you HAVE purchased gifts for the kids but your BF BOUGHT tickets already and you want to respect him and go see his family. Tell your family that he is important to you, just like your sister's husband is important to her, and that you have every right as an ADULT to spend holidays with whomever you choose.

Go away and don't feel guilty! As long as you bought her kids gifts (and a gift for your own parents) then that is enough. Visit your relatives before or after christmas...whenever you can BUT make sure to go on the trip with your bf!
If you have been in this relationship longer than 1 year then be with your BF! Because you need to invest time in this relationship if he is important to you. Show him he is important by being with him on Christmas!

PS: I don't really want to see my BF's family but he wants me to be there so I am going with him to his aunts house on christmas day for a christmas party. One of my adult brothers is with his wife's family for christmas so I plan to open gifts with my family when my brother arrives after christmas to open gifts with our parents. My BF will be coming over to my parents home, tonight, for christmas eve though.

As an adult you need to make up your own mind. Don't let your sister who is married dictate where you, an adult, goes for holidays! She made her choice and is with a man who was once just her BF too! I am sure she spent plenty of holidays away from your family to be with his family!

Is it wrong to spend Christmas with boyfriend instead of family?

My sister and her family (my godchildren) came from out of town (I fly monthly to visit them) staying at my mom's with my other sister and her children (both combined have 7 children). I'm single in my late 30's no children finally in a serious relationship. He already bought tickets for us to spend the whole day ay Disneyland today, we'll get home late and be together Xmas morning. My sister and her husband are extremely mad at me about this. I already spent so much money on all their kids gifts as usual and honestly am sick of Xmas it's all about what presents I got for all the kids like I'm a sugar mama and a chore to go through not having my own kids. The one year I have my own plans I'm feeling guilty. I was thinking of dropping off the gifts at some point and doing an all day visit Monday. Is it really wrong of me to choose to be with my boyfriend?