Parents wont let me study abroad?
Japan isn't the dream country you think it is. It is no better and no worse than where you're living right now. To be honest, you don't sound mature enough to be studying abroad yet anyway. Going to a foreign country requires a lot of maturity, and threatening to run away (not that you actually would be able to anyway, though) is not very mature. And I doubt you could afford on your own the expenses of studying abroad. Most programs require you to pay for your own plane ticket, you know. And the average ticket is $900+, and if you study abroad a year you won't be able to buy a roundtrip ticket, so this means about $1800+. In just getting to Japan and back. Then you think about the fees of the program and the HIGH cost of living in Japan, and I highly doubt your piggy bank has all the money necessary for you to go without most of the support coming from your mom. Your mother is still your legal guardian. She makes the rules and you follow them. It's as simple as that. If she doesn't want you to go on an exchange program that isn't through your school then she has her reasons for it. Many times when students study abroad with programs that their school does not partner with they return home to find that none of the course credits they took overseas transfer back home and they have to *retake* everything. High school OR college, this problem exists. So suck it up and consider studying abroad in college instead. Studying abroad in college is better anyway. You're more mature, you don't have to worry about curfews or other rules, and you have a lot more personal freedom overall.
How do I convince parents if you want to study abroad?
I read your long story after answering the question. In short, you have studied here, seen the corporate life as well, how slow and boring it is. You wish to grow further, and you believe studying abroad will help you give that exposure and skills to succeed further. Also the opportunity to be independent and earn in a foreign currency. All sounds fantastic.But what if you can study abroad and not pay the international student fees? First earn and then think about studying? How about that? You are a software engineer, you can apply for a work visa in Canada, and Australia. It will cost you way less, and you can start working from the day one, plus you also get PR from India as well. So even if decide to study there, you would pay a local student’s fee. Search about it or meet a immigration consultancy to help you further.I want to tell you from my first hand experience, studying abroad is not as amazing as it seems from the outside. And you start realizing it when it’s your first semesters exams, you have spent more time on your part-time then classes, your assignment is pending, and you need more than 50% marks to pass the exam, and cost of reappear is $900, and began to wonder if you made the right decision.I know a lot people who went to study abroad after getting married, and it was so much easier than going alone. So think about why you really want to study abroad, most student who wish to study abroad are generally bored of their situation. So think hard before you make the decision.
How do I convince my parents to let me study abroad to multiple places in both Asia and Europe?
Dear Chelsea,I do not know how old you are or what or where you want to study. I think it would be a good idea to write down what you want to study,where you want to study,and why you need to study abroad. Get all your facts writen down. All your reasons in a row. Then sit down with your parents and quietly tell them your plans. It would also be wise to write down the costs of the programs you are interested in. You also need to write down living expenses. Be very reasonable. Do not cry scream or pitch a fit be very calm and reasonable. If it does not work now try again . Sometimes it takes a while for parents to understand your dedication to an idea.
Is it fair to leave your parents and family in India and study abroad? How do you feel about it?
Thanks for the A2A. I'm not from India and have never even visited, so I couldn't even pretend to speak for your culture, but here is my perspective:It's perfectly healthy and often necessary to put yourself first, even if your society and your family is insisting that you sacrifice your own dreams. It's normal to miss your family and even feel guilty for moving away, but it's not as though you ran away in anger or went off to chase something frivolous. Education is a noble pursuit, and no one should hold you back.Furthermore, you will be better able to support your family if you stay in school. Even if they are pressuring you now, they will see the benefits after a few years. The smart thing to do is think long-term.If you have specific reasons for needing to be with your family at this time (e.g. a sick relative) then only you can decide what to prioritise. I personally feel that your education is most important.
My parents won't let me study abroad for University?
I really want to go to UBC (University of British Colombia), or a university in somewhere other than the UK,but my parents wont let me study anywhere else other than the UK. I want freedom, since I'm doing the IB diploma program (as I'm a British student in China) and I really want to study somewhere where the English isn't SO hard, since my English is no where near the levels of UK students. They told me that they can afford to send me there barely, but cant pay for anything else. They told me I cant get a student loan in another country etc. I told them ''WHY THE HELL AM I BLOODY DOING IB THEN?!'' and then they told me they could send me to some Chinese crappy wannabe British A-level school. I don't want to leave, I love the IB program, and I have a lot of friends. ALL OF THEM ARE GOING OVERSEAS, AND NOT TO THEIR OWN COUNTRIES. Don't you know how humiliating it is to go to an IB school, yet go to your OWN bloody f****** country? They told me I can only freaking go if I get a scholarship. I told them that its so hard but they just shrugged. UK UNIVERSITIES ARE CRAP NO THANKS. THEY ARE INCREDIBLY HARD TO GET IN TO AND THE BLOODY PROFESSORS ARE SO BLOODY SNOBBISH AND STUCK UP. I want freedom, I feel like I'm trapped. They also said I can study in one of China's run-down universities. Also, they want me to study there because my Mum's friends daughter wants to go there and she agreed she'd send me there with her. I DONT WANT TO ******* GO TO THE UK. HELP ME! ANY TIPS?
How to convince my mom to let me study abroad?
Dear Vanessa, Wow, you do really pour your heart out...nothing wrong with that...but it goes to show that you are able to put on paper your deepest thoughts. These abilities show that you have the right "tools" to bridge the current communications gap to reach your Mum. I hope you do not mind my calling it a communications gap but as an objective observer, I see that your Mum loves you very much. By asking that you let her know you have come home, she is actually telling you how worried she was that you have not come home. By heading straight to your room on returning home, you may be tired but you may also be conscious of not wanting to disturb your Mum at that late hour of the night. This is mutual love and respect in operation. Unfortunately, our emotions often over-take us, whether we are mum or daughter, and things come out wrong. The key is often in taking a step back to see the good intentions in every situation, to appreciate and act based on that rather than our initial reactions. In the broader scheme of things, i.e. your wanting to come to Singapore or some other overseas country to pursue your studies, it is a very positive thing - you have lofty ambitions. You want to do well and I believe all parents want their children to do well too! So again, both you and your Mum have common ground on this issue. Where you differ is the approach to the same goal. Again, the key is communications. Heart to heart talk, of sharing aspirations (yours) and concerns (your Mum for your safety and well-being when you are overseas), etc. Finding a suitable time to talk or to WRITE (as you have done here) is a great way to open and improve the crucial channel of communications between your Mum and you. Try email or SMS or whatever works in your country. Very often, when we write, we think through the issues and think again, taking out negative emotions, which can only be a good thing. It may not take off at the first try but hey, try again and again, you are family. Hope it all turns out well. All the best. Alex
Lonely study abroad student?
I'm spending the semester studying abroad in France. So far, I've been here 3 days, and I'm miserable and wishing that I never left home. My program is one that sent over around 20 students from my school for this program, and while I know some of them from previous classes together, none are friends that I hang out with when we're not in class. I thought I would make friends pretty quickly, but it seems like everyone had friends when they came here and they've stuck to those groups. In addition, I'm not exactly the typical college student, in that I don't like drinking or clubs, and it seems like everyone on the trip does. SInce I'm very shy, parties overwhelm me, and I find it difficult to talk to new people. I've made every effort to be as friendly and outgoing as I can be here, but I just feel like I'm not going to have any friends this semester. I can go off on my own, but this is a strange city and my French is not perfect. And I know that people will be taking weekend trips, and I don't think I'll have anyone to go with. It took me a long time to make friends back at my university in the U.S., and I'm terrified that this semester's going to be a waste and I;m not going to have any fun in Europe. I know that i'm lucky to have this opportunity, and I would feel really guilty about the money my parents spent on this trip if I didn't make the most of it. My parents really want me to have a good time on this trip, I really want to have a good time on this trip, but right now I've spent the last 2 nights, where we had free time, in my room crying. I just don't know what to do. Any advice would be really great.
What do I say to my parents who make me study all day and don't let me go out with friends?
Ask your parents if you can invite a friend to come to your home and study with you, making sure that it is one of the friends that you would like to hang out with. Ask your parent to call your friends' parent(s) first to introduce themselves and set a firm date and time. This will help continue the feeling of prescribed study time your parents have set, nd put your parents questions ton rest regarding your friend and their family. Hopefully once your parents become comfortable and familiar with the other family they will feel ok about reciprocating and allow you to study there. Perhaps then this will lead to you being to hang out with your friend with a chaperone.Do you have an older relative or a family friend in their peer group that could speak to them on your behalf? They might be more likely to listen to another adult and consider their suggestions.Have you tried asking them what you can do to earn some time with friends? Is a matter of trust (of others and not you), or transportation, or area, or something else? Culture can also play a big part in strict study discipline parents require of their children. Firstborn/older and only children also tend to live this more than others.You don't say how old you are, or what your idea of “hanging out” involves? You might have to tough it out for a bit if you are too young in their opinion.Are their any issues of trust abuse in the past (not just you, but a sibling or relative?), or problems with school or grades?There are so many things to take into consideration before offering more suggestions. One answer does not fit all situations.However you proceed, have patience, go slow, and don't abuse any trust they begin to bestow on you. And if you want to be treated as mature enough to warrant different treatment, be sure that you act mature enough in all aspects of behavior, and really are mature enough to handle it. Good luck to you.
How can I convince my parents to let me study Psychology?
First let us try to understand why parents behave the way they do.Parents always want their child to be in comfort and safe zone. They don't like their children taking risks. This the natural tendency of most of the parents. That is why they make choices which ensure that their child lives in comfort zone. They assume Comfort Zone = Happiness of the child. Unfortunately that is not the case. The happiness varies from person to person. In my case it is working with computers. In your case it is psychology. This is my life incident.When I started learning web development in my second year of Engineering , my parents were against it. They had all the reasons varying from why are you doing this now to It will effect your CGPA but I know that is my thing. I love playing with new technologies. I love learning them but the only way to learn them is to code in real world which takes hell lot of time. I pursued my path.In the process I worked as a free lancer and earned my first 2000 rupees. That is more than enough to convey my parents that I am sure of the path I am taking. That conveyed them I am dead serious of the thing. From that moment things changed. At present, my father has no problem with me doing web development.. He is more like get our own shit together by yourself as you know what you are doing. He still asks me to maintain the CGPA but it is just a nominal call which I ignore as usual. My mother is still worried about CGPA but she asks me to balance both of them. it is no longer don't do web development thing rather it changed to handle web development along with CGPA. What did you do to prove your parents that you are serious? 2. Did you have a plan which takes into account all the risks involved with your choices?If answer to either of the above questions is No , you are not ready to take the risk. You will know how to convince your parents , once you have an yes to both the above mentioned questions.May Krishna provide you strength to make the right decisions. :)
My parents are putting a lot of pressure on me by telling me to study. They keep many restrictions if I don't study well. I get frustrated and I can't study anything. What can I do?
I remember my dad being very strict about my academics. He was a real hot head back then due the work pressure. As far as I remember we hardly ever talked about anything apart from my studies. There was always a fear mounted within me whenever I wanted to talk to him. He used to tell me about why getting good grades is important and where will I end if I don't study.Trust me I had the same feelings too,but never was frustrated or upset about it. Our parents always want us to live a better life than the one they have given to us. Parents won't be there to take care of us forever. They have seen many bad seasons and hard times. All they wish is their child should not go through the same.Its been seven years now since I have moved out for studies. Trust me the world is very difficult place without your parents around. Until my BE final year I remember my dad asking me if I was taking my studies seriously. The day I got my first job (which was a few months back) there was a new glow on my dads face. Its was also the first time we hugged each other. Best the feeling of all is to see your parents smiling at you.As far as your question, I would suggest you to just listen to what they say. You might not feel doing all the things they want you to do but trust me buddy its all for your good and one day you too will realise it. Note: Excuse me for wrong grammar or may be my English. I'm not much of a writer but then you don't need to be a writer to share your experience.Peace!