Genderly speaking, what's wrong with patriarchy?
Nothing is wrong with it when the man treats his wife with all due respect. Its not about one being over or better than the other, its about each focusing on certain roles so they get accomplished more effectively. Otherwise, everyone is just taking on too much, and doing it all half-assed. If both spouses put the others needs above theirs, both are always looked after.
Modern feminism: Does it encourage women to be strong and independent or perpetual victims?
Arrrrrrrgh! What is modern Feminism, as opposed to ancient Feminism? I have no idea any more. My definition of Feminism is as follows:"The advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men."Does Feminism encourage encourage women to be strong and independent or perpetual victims? I would like to think the former. But I really don't have a monopoly on the truth. Hopefully, Feminism encourages all women to be strong and independent. Does it encourage women to perceive themselves as perpetual victims as well. Maybe for some but I've never met them. The only place I have encountered this notion that Feminism encourages a victim mentality is from those who oppose Feminism. So it suggests to me that this is not the case. Is Feminism achieving what it sets out to achieve? I would say yes it has and yes it will continue to do so. Women's equality has been enhanced by Feminism. We work outside the home. We vote. We have relative reproductive freedom. Sexual harassment is less prevalent than it was in the past (or at least more subtle). Women of all races, creed, colour and sexual orientation have the means to combat discrimination. We are people - yes, there actually was a court case in 1923 that questioned whether a woman was a person or not. We can discuss feminism without being censored - at least where I come from.
Is it wrong to feel, as a trans person, that genderfluid people invalidate me?
As some others have mentioned, your feelings aren’t wrong. You are entitled to them, and you own them. In a world where people try to strip the rights and identities of others based on nothing, feelings are something that we can hold onto and keep without someone trying to take that away as well.But I am curious as to why my gender identity would invalidate that of anyone else. My gender identity is a fundamental part of who I am. It is not a profession, nor is it a hobby. It is the way I see myself, physically and mentally. And in the same way as someone else’s identity is not my own, my identity is not someone else’s.Our identities are unique to each and every one of us. Unless there is something ridiculous going on, like being that asshole who claims to identify as an attack copter or some stupid shit like that in an attempt to make fun of others, then there is no reason to feel threatened by the identity of others or to not see them as they are.As a genderfluid person (and yes, we do exist despite what a few others have said here), I do not deny you who you are as others do to me. By the phrasing of the question I assume that you are either a trans man or trans woman. And that is okay with me, because why wouldn’t it be? It does not invalidate me because you are not me. So my identity should not invalidate you.