Is it bad to be socially awkward?
I am a very awkward person. Everything I say and do is horribly awkward. But normally it doesn't bother me. Normally I wouldn't consider myself shy, either. But lately a lot of my friends have been calling me shy, and I was wondering if that is prohibiting me from getting close to people. I live my life in my head- I am constantly thinking. So I normally am not paying attending to what's happening around me and often miss things people are saying. And I stay away from most social situations (like parties and things with a lot of people) so people have all these inside jokes that I'm not apart of, which causes me to zone out and become even more out of the loop. Again, normally I don't mind, but I'm going to be going to college soon, and I don't want this to prohibit me from making friends. Even when I am with my friends now, I refrain from saying things because what I'm thinking might be a little mean, and I don't like saying mean/hurtful things. Or I simply won't have anything to say in return. Also, when I'm in uncomfortable situations or with people I don't know, my brain shuts down. I don't know what to do or say, so I don't say anything. I don't know if this has to do with anything, but I have been known to have anxiety attacks, and new situations and crowds have been known to increase my anxiety. I like who I am, and I don't exactly want to change. I mean, I'm not fond of 90% of the people I meet (which might just have to do with the immaturity of high school students) and would much rather be by myself than around people I don't like, so that pushes me even farther from people. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I don't want to be alone forever, but will my actions keep me away from people? Or are there people out there who are like me, or can love me for who I am? My little sister is a lot like me, and we are best friends, but we can't be the only people like this.
How can I stop being socially awkward?
I'm tired of being that quiet guy in the room. I don't socialize because I fear I will mess up and make a fool of myself. I fear what people will think of me. Right now I mumble when I talk, I always look sad and depressed, Im not capable of socializing with girls or other people. Right now I'm an incomplete person who is always self-conscious of he does and things around him. I know I have it in me but I just don't know how to let it out.
How to stop being socially awkward?
I am sooo shy. Especially at school. And I always find that eye contact is so awkward. Like yesterday I was deeply listening to my science teacher teaching since I had to catch up on topic since I was absent for 3 days. He must have found it awkward and he quickly looked away. Even in the lunchroom when I'm heading to a table I get really nervous and start feeling awkward since I feel like everyone's staring at me. How can I stop feeling so shy/awkward all the time? I'm starting to hate myself.
Is it ok to be socially awkward?
you're shy, lonely, or have trouble talking to people those things can be very discouraging and frustrating, and prevent you from getting what you want out of life. It's completely understandable that you'd want to get rid of those problems, and this site can help with that. However, at the same time, being socially awkward does not make you a thoroughly and fundamentally flawed person. It doesn't make you a "loser".Many people are very hard on themselves. Whether they've consciously thought about it or not they believe being socially awkward is one of the worst things someone can be. They think if someone is that way it makes them all-around worthless as a person. It's not hard to see how they might come to think this way. Many awkward people grew up hearing hundreds of messages from their classmates, family, and society about how there was something wrong with them because they weren't super dynamic, outgoing, and "normal". As a kid it's easy to uncritically take these messages to heart.Neither of those two ideas are true. First, being socially awkward isn't that bad. So someone clams up and can't think of what to say when they get nervous at a party? That's hardly comparable to being a child abuser or a con-artist who swindles senile widows out of their life savings. Social awkwardness of one flavor or another is pretty common, not some curse that only the rarest few are afflicted with.Secondly, awkwardness isn't the single determinant of someone's worth.Deep down they worry that if they were easier on themselves they'd lose all their motivation to get past their social problems. In my experience that won't happen. If you have a social weakness and it truly interferes with your life then you'll still want to change it. However, self-acceptance may cause you to drop goals you actually don't care about and are more tied into your insecurities.
What does it mean to be "socially awkward"?
Being "socially awkward" means that you are ill-adapted to, or clumsy in, certain social situations. I do not believe that it is a pathological label. It tends to be situation-specific. I think that everybody feels and/or appears this way at times, but that some people experience it more often than others. Often it stems from lack of self-confidence. The lack of self-confidence may result from a fear of the unknown. Often we do not really know much about the people with whom we interact and thus fail to appreciate where they are coming from in terms of their own capabilities and vulnerabilities. We let them intimidate us. I am not sure whether a speech impediment would deter you from finding a spouse. I have known some people with speech impediments who have been married and appeared to be normal. The father of Queen Elizabeth of England also had a speech impediment. As well, the former prime minister of Canada, Jean Chrétien had a paralysis of the side of his face on account of a birth injury. He was able to make it to the position of head of government in Canada. The wife of my brother also stammers. It is not a constant problem for her. I also get the impression that she thinks it is her role to ask for things she maybe should not be requesting. I think that friends and acquaintances can be "taken" from people behind their backs through deals and negotiations without explanations. I suspect it has happened to me. Regardless of what has prompted it, social rejection, in turn, can sap a person's self-confidence and cause further awkwardness and intimidation. It can influence the way others react towards us. It can become a vicious circle. Try to learn more about what is going on.
I hate myself for being so socially awkward!!!?
Look if being socially awkward is the worst thing about you, then your an awesome person. First off ignore the guy who said, "Do you not like me you seem nervous?" That is extremely rude on his part. Everyone is self-conscious in there own way, and everyone gets nervous in different situations. Some people are awkwarder than others, just like some are fatter, angrier, meaner, happier etc.... Being awkward isn't a bad thing. People also don't dislike you because you are awkward, if they make fun of you because of it, then they have an extremely low self esteem, and have a lot of insecurities themselves. Look, there are so many girls out there that would love to have a guy like you. If you date someone and she doesn't like you for who you are, then she's not the one. Their is someone out there for everyone, she will turn up I can garuntee it. Awkwardness can sometimes result into a social anxiety disorder. That is where you fear social situations. Talk to your doctor about how you are letting other people get in the way of your life, and about your social problems. Therapy is a lot of help and so is medication. I recently got prescribed Zoloft and it is working wanders for my social life. It has some side effects though. Talk to your doctor about your anxiety disorder, maybe medication is right for you, and if you are against medication try therapy. Being awkward is nothing to be ashamed of though, like i said earlier if thats what you think is the worst thing about you, then your an awesome person.
Is being socially awkward/ unsocial bad?
Being awkward is NOT being unsocial.English speaking countries try to avoid awkward far too hard - for the rest of us, it is a completely normal part of human interaction, of being social.Most people you’re awkward in front of, if they have any social skills, will neither be offended nor judge you for it but instead simply know you are not the most socially active person - or indeed are just having a slow and bumpy day (which happens to all of us, no matter how socially fluid).It’s an unhealthy social obsession of people not very socially adept to be trying to avoid awkwardness so much - that in itself prevents widespread sociability.
Why is it that girls can get away with being more socially awkward than guys?
Possibly because of the image and expectation that men are supposed to be confident and alpha male. Both women but especially men may perceive fellow but socially awkward men as wimps and as boys.You don’t often see women make fun of a fellow women who are socially awkward. But you often see guys making fun fun of fellow but socially awkward men.I have one such guy at work. Fact is, he sits at the very same table as me. Every guy around me makes fun of him and he even plays along. He never stands up for himself. Instead he often belittles himself and makes even more fun of himself. They keep hinting stuff at him but he never picks it up.They make fun of his car that is barely holding keeping together as an hint that he should either repair it or get a better car. They make fun of his super long and untrimmed beard because he looks like a homeless guy. They make fun of him speaking before thinking. He can say some really hilarious stuff that sticks with the group for a very long time.Whenever he tries to portray himself as a man they keep pointing out that it lacks a little bit more than what he currently possesses to be a man. They think he behaves like a woman and that he is emotional like a woman.Perhaps they are mean or perhaps they just mean well. Nevertheless, they are not cutting him some slack for being socially awkward.