Why should i even bother staying alive...?
You were brought into this world to make a difference for someone or something. We may never know the real reason but most important is that you are here. When depression hits, it can take you into this black spiral down a long winding journey where you begin asking questions like you just have. Life is difficult for everyone, some people have different ways of dealing with it and some are lucky enough to not be taken in by depression. The first step is to look up in the sky and see light. Tell yourself you have as much right to be here as anyone else and then give yourself a big hug. Take a journey on learning to Like yourself and with that love will follow. Take this one day at a time because that is all we have - today. There are quite a few books out there on this subject. Spend some time at a bookstore and enjoy yourself. You are a great human being.
Should I even bother ever having sex?
Because I believe my penis is small? It measures 6 inches in length and a good 5.5 inch girth, but to me it seems small. It makes me think that its not good enough, and it really bothers me. I'm 19 years old, and I have lots of chances to have sex, but I haven't because this is killing my self confidence and I'm too insecure about it to go through with it.. Am I just worried over nothing?
Why should I even bother with school?!?
Now, I can see why you might want to leave school, and I'm not going to say that you will have a crappier life if you leave school early, but you should think beyond the whole "I hate that place." School is not just a place to be miserable, it's a place to be miserable and learn that it's still a damn sight less brutal than the rest of the world. And okay, you don't always need a degree to do things, and life can teach a lot of important things, but an education (even if only at a high school level) is one of the most effective ways to get somewhere. It proves that you are able to tough something out, which looks better on a CV than you might think. But if you do decide to leave school, do make sure you have a path of some sort to follow and have things lined up in advance, don't just rely on something to happen as if it doesn't, you're up Sh*t creek minus one paddle... And also, who says you need to be either an academic or an artist? What's stopping you from indulging in an artistic enterprises whilst having a "job." Our passions outside of our careers are potentially more important and more personal than those within. Anyways, the best of luck with your decision, you'll make the right one... EDIT: Also, to the people who are calling this person a loser, she's asking for advice regarding one of the biggest decisions a person can make, in what looks to be a very difficult personal situations. That they are willing to ask for help when they need it makes them far less of a loser than you. The fact that you have nothing better to do than criticise someone for trying to make a choice rather than give any form of advice means that you have little empathy or respect for your fellow human kind, so maybe you should develop some before you make more of an *** out of yourself.
Why should I even bother being in the friend zone?
It's painful to be in the friend zone...and I think most have been in that situation. The talking everyday as friends has to make it even more eye opening that you are a friend and not a girlfriend, but maybe by being in the friend zone you will get introduced to his friends and start something that is not friend zone. I have lots of female friends that are in the friend zone for some reason or other and although I enjoy the friendships I would also be happy to have them introduce me to a friend of theirs I would enjoy dating.
My wife didn't even bother to get me a birthday card... should I be mad?
Here is the deal. Money is tight right now due to a job change for my wife. She was unemployed for a little over a week and so we are trying to catch up on bills. Anyways... she and I agreed that for my present I would go and get my hair done (something I dont get to do very often). But don't you think that atleast a card would have been nice? My feelings were very hurt!! and on top of that she was a BIG jerk all day long. She has been acting very strange lately. She basically seems bothered by anything I say or do. Unless of course it is making her dinner or having sex. We have a good marriage and a great friendship so this is out of the norm for us. She has been working long hours and is physically exhausted every day but so am I. We have 2 boys 4 and 1yr and I work full time. I do all of the cooking/cleaning (inside anyways) and almost all of the parenting so I am EXHAUSTED TOO!!! I just don't know if I should be mad/upset about the b-day issue or not?
Does it ever bother you being average?
I love being AverageI am MediocreIt doesn't bother me. While some are excelling in every kind of skill/academic possible. I find time to enjoy and cherish every moment. My parents remain happy looking at their average child growing up.Being average provides me with the opportunity to explore everything. I know that nothing is god-gifted for me. I am not supernatural or spectacular. It gives me the responsibility to do hard work in order to succeed.I am average in studiesI am average therefore my parents don't have hell lot of expectations from me. They praise me for every minor achievement. They expect me learn rather than to score marks. I am Mediocre and I can just do anything which i wish to, I am not constantly being reminded about studies. I am neither a failure. I am on average line like any ordinary child. I can improve and I know it.I am average look wiseI don't have fancy relationship neither do I date a new girl every month. Girls aren't interested in talking to me. Being average gives me the opportunity to wait for true love than lust. Being average means I will have to achieve her. My face isn't going to do if it for me.I am average wealth wiseI do understand the value of each penny. I don't have luxurious wishes. Just a basic life. I don't even want to be super rich any day. Just a smple life that's it. My father hasn't made any empire for me to rule or buisness to look at. I am neither working to survive. I have a decent life. I am thankful that God isn't cruel to me either. I will have to do everything on my own. Being average gives me the opportunity to explore.I find being an average person to be a blessing. I am neither down nor up. It depends upon me which side I choose to be with.I am thankful that I am not depressed or burdened by the society since, nobody cares for Average person but I like it.Neither I am breaking any expectation nor fulfilling. I am just made to live and enjoy. I am free to choose and free to make decisions. No pre assumed thought is going to bind me.That’s how being average feels like
Why should I even bother having a Facebook?
Hi. May be I won't attempt to analyze why Facebook doesn't interest you anymore; but I want to share why I deleted mine and how things have changed after that. I'm sure you are feeling the same now. This new year, I deleted my FB account and promised myself never to return again. It has been just over a week and you know what, I feel kind of relaxed and free. I have more time for myself. I read more, write more and most importantly, I contribute more on Quora and learn something new every day. I no longer worry about what people think of me. I no longer feel my life is miserable and that everyone on the planet has a more happening life than me. I really do feel happy. So here's some of the reason I decided to delete my Facebook. 1. Utterly meaningless and mind-numbingly stupid timeline posts. Everyone feeling sad or excited and blah blah blah with X, Y and 100 others is just not what I care about anymore. 2. Posting tonnes of picture of their food - breakfast, lunch, snacks, dinner and every freaking thing they put in their mouth. It's food. Stop posting pictures and eat it for God's sake!3. Checking in to every place you happen to visit. It's like you are posting open invitation to the kidnapers with the latitude and longitude of your location.4. Posting pictures of various Gods and goddesses and asking for 'Like' and 'Shares'. Apparently, you even get 15 years of bad luck if you don't. *Hypocrisy at its best.*5. Posting hundreds of duck-face selfies and tagging all your friends. 6. On a more serious note, the privacy of my photos and other personal information is a major concern for me.7. Besides, I have a very few number of close friends and I feel its much better to talk to them in person rather than broadcasting on a public forum. Now I'm so happy that I was able to get rid of the baggage.Cheers :)
As a guy with Asperger’s, should I even bother with dating since the statistics are against me?
Of course you should date. As you are aware Asperger’s is a spectrum illness. The fact you are aware of it is the first step in working with it to optimize your happiness. You are not broken, but like a lot of other people you need to overcome any issues which effects your happiness.First step own it. You have Asperger's. If you are not ashame of it, no one else will either. It will likely take some patience and understanding so you can educate those you would like to get to know. Most people have no idea what Asperger even is.Next step, identify those areas which seem be the largest barriers to dating. Likely it will involve communication. Work on those specific areas and improve them. In reality, most people need help communicating more effectively with the opposite sex.Finally, be yourself and stand tall!!!! You want to find someone who accepts you for you…including the Asperger’s. You are not looking for charity, but someone who just understands.You don’t need luck, so I won’t wish it. You need to accept, make an effort and have confidence.Note: Thow those studies away. You are not autistic. In general, Asperger's is considered on the way high end of functioning spectrum compared to autism.
Why should I even bother with girls if I have always been rejected by them?
Ask them. Seriously. Just be open and honest and vulnerable and ask these girls why they stopped texting, put you in the friend zone, disappeared, etc… It’s very possible (and likely) that it wasn’t you at all. And if they do give you some feedback about yourself, accept it graciously even if it stings. After all, you asked. And remember, just because something bothers one girl, doesn’t mean it will bother ALL girls. We all have our preferences, same as you fellas do. But if you ask ten girls and they all tell you it’s because you don’t brush your teeth. Start brushing your teeth.You might also take an honest look at what kind of girls you’re pursuing, too. After all, if you’re chasing “easy lays” then you can’t expect them to stick around. They like to play the field and aren’t looking to stick with one guy…but they will use you for awhile before they toss you aside. On the other hand, if you have certain expectations, some girls aren’t going to toe the line. For example, if I date a guy and he insists that I MUST join his church or he can’t see me anymore, I’ll drop him like a hot coal because I’m not interested in being bullied like that AND I figure he should just go date girls who are already IN his church. Same applies for anything. If you like brunettes, don’t date a blond and insist she dye her hair. It isn’t fair and she’ll likely dump you for it.So, there it is. Ask them AND be honest with yourself about what’s going on on your end.
Should I stop caring about someone who doesn’t even bother about me?
It's not our choice to care or not care about someone. It's a feeling which we feel for others, their's no switch to turn it off and it's never bad to care about someone, it's beautiful, positive and satisfying, just don't expect it in return and you will be happy that you are caring for the person you want and it's not hurting if that person is not giving you back same care. Just enjoy it(spreading love and care). This is what you want to do, to care. Let other choose what they want to do. And most importantly be happy with your choice, doesn't let yourself effect by others choice. :)