My roommates are so mean to me, HELP!?
So I have college roommates who exclude me from everything! I'm a very nice girl, I'm nice to them. I think they are really close and that's ok with me because I never did anything to them. I'm just in college trying to get an education AND meet good friends. We're all freshmen and we didn't know each other before moving in. They do things like they knock on each others doors in the morning to all sit down and have breakfast. We will all be sitting together in our living room area and one of my roommates will ask the other two do they want to go eat in our school cafe. They'll just me sitting there. They work out together, they call and text each other all day.....once again leave me out and I've done NOTHING but be very nice and try to fit in So tonight one of the girls sister and dad wanted to meet us. So she only introduced my other two roommates to them, not me. So when she got out of class, her sister asks if they wanted to go out to dinner. I was sitting at the table doing homework when they all got ready and just left to go eat. Said nothing to me. it hurts because I do want friends. Is this rude or am I just sensitive? THANKS
Was my roommate being nice or mean?
My roommate was talking on the phone to someone in charge of housing he missed the deadline and wanted to know if he could still get a room the people at housing did not have a definite answer so he thanked them and hung up. He got very mad and violently hit the table at least 10 times he was really upset. So 3 minutes later Im on the phone with my mom and I was explaining to her why so many kids drop out. She said the university looks so organized I thought it would be good and I said yea the school is organized then my roommate yelled across the room Does your desk look organized I though it was rude because I was not talking to him I was on the phone with my mom. So I ignored him and proceed to talk about taking a class over the summer I told my mom I was thinking of taking 2 classes in the summer we discussed it and decided it was better to take 1 while talking my roommate yelled out again and said im taking 7 classes. I ignored him again since I was on the phone then finished talking to my mom. So After Im done talking to my mom here how it went down Roommate: Are you a special needs kid me: No why do you ask Roommate: I was just wondering Then he talked to me for 25 minutes saying I needed to make my own decisions which means standing up to my mother. He said I was too nice and asked if I had a girl waiting for me at home I said no and warned that people like me will end up lonely while I watch my friends getting girlfriends and getting married.
WHAT DOES POTLUCK ROOMMATE MEAN?
It means that they will assign you a roommate and you won't have a choice about who it is. You get the "luck of the draw". Hopefully you'll get someone you can relate to, but you may not. Good Luck!
I had a dream my roommate killed me....?
nobody can understand dream perfectly at this age. but maybe (remember maybe), he/she will...... saying "have a nice dream". just be careful.
My roommate is really mean to my dog. what can i do?
I have a 13 year old miniature poodle, and I have just moved in with a friend I've known for five years. She does a lot 'teasing' she claims to yoko (my dog) which includes pulling on her ears, yanking her curls until she yelps and putting up her dog dish when I'm away at work. My dog is kennel trained, and I put her in my room when I'm away, I just found out this morning from my neighbor that she has been taking yoko next door, and allowing strangers to walk and play with her. (From what my reliable neighbor says) this also means she has been sneaking into my room. I've confronted her on this treatment, and she just shrugs it off, claiming that she can do whatever she wants because she pee'd on the carpet twice. So to my roommate she's justified in this. I'm shocked, because I didn't think she was this heartless until after about a week of bringing her up here. I've lost all respect for my roommate, and she hates how fustrated I am with her. But she pisses me off wayyy to much. I can't afford to break off the lease. I've had my poodle for 13 years, and I don't know anyone to take care of her until I can get things settled. What can I do?
What is a nice way to ask my roommates how they would like to split clean without sounding too demanding or controlling? Also, how can I ask them to clean up after themselves and not leave crumbs and stains on the stove without cleaning them?
I would do up a board or a “house rule” list that everyone living in the house/apartment must had abide by these rules as a means of consideration and in keeping the place tidy or everyone’s comfort. Nobody should be cleaning up after anyone that’s the 1st rule. If certain people won’t clean up every time then you’ll get a cleaning person to come and clean and send the bill to the untidy person to pay.
My roommate said, "I like to test people" what does this mean?
That's not a good sign. He likes to play mind games with people and see if they react according to how HE thinks they should. I would tell him that you would prefer that he just ask you what he wants to know and engages in an open and honest conversation with you. When people are testing you, they are playing games and making judgments about you. That never ends up well. Ask him to be upfront and assure him that you will be, too.
How do I deal with the situation when roommates are being mean for minor easily reparable damage to their stuff but forget the times when they did the same and I did not react?
The best advice I can offer is lock up your personal items in your room, and do not borrow or use any of your roommate’s personal affects.But here is the other thing, I’m betting you and your roommates are pretty young, like early twenties young. When you are young you give a fuck about the most trivial small things. I know because I was young once too.When you are young you are susceptible to catastrophize small events that don’t really matter, in the big scheme of things. Your perspective on life is narrow at such a young age so who could blame you.But As you get older and gain life experience, you realize this trivial shit you used to lose your mind over is not such a big deal. You have been through enough bad shit in your life that a small events such as your roommates leaving the lights in the kitchen on at night, or not cleaning their dishes doesn’t register on your “I give a fuck meter”.There is a really good article on this by Mark Manson. I like his writing style and maybe you will too.I kinda got off topic, but just keep this in mind when your roommates lose their shit over a petty issues. You only have so many fucks to give in your life, choose wisely what you spend them on.https://markmanson.net/not-givin...