Should I call the girl who is texting my boyfriend?
My boyfriend keeps getting text messages at all hours of the night from a "female friend." He never talks on the phone with her, (around me at least.) I suspect something is up. I've looked through his phone and some of it is innocent but half the messages are deleted. We have a newborn and there are nights where she has texted at 1 am!!!! I flipped on him n she hasn't done it again. I've never met this girl. They met while we were split up. If she is just a friend why wouldn't he have us meet? Should I call her myself and see what she says is going on between them? He says nothing now and nothing ever has but the whole situation is VERY suspicious. Maybe I should insist on meeting her? If he refuses then does that mean he is cheating?
My friends never call or text me?
I meet these people. Get their phone number. BUT THEY NEVER CALL ME or TEXT ME. They do these little events behind my back. I reach out. BUT they don't reach out back. I never get any phone calls, text and they never write on my wall on Facebook. What the hell am I doing wrong? Honestly. This been going on for quite some time and its starting to drive me nuts. They the ones saying don't be a stranger, but then they never call me up to speak to me or anything. What freakin' gives? They don't even invite me out. I cut them out of my life completely. Not only new people. But older ones too from high school and such. Best answer gets 10 points. This problem must end already. Its driving me insane.
What would you do if a friend stood you up?
Sure you are, but it's no reason not to be friends anymore. You just have to put your foot down that you won't be treated that way again. Simply return the email and say "it's fine if you need to cancel on me sometimes, but please let me know in the future so I'm not sitting there waiting on you or worried that something might have happened on your way." Although I will say not returning any calls is pretty $hitty. I once had a friend do that to me, and tell me she was on the way to pick me up. She never showed and I found out later she ditched me for another chick to go hang out with some skeezy dudes in my town. Because she never did just call me up and say "I made other plans" and she had a history of lying, I had to let her go if you know what I mean. But it's your call, ya know? If she's generally a good friend and just made a mistake, then I'd forgive her since life is too short to be angry. But if she's a repeat offender, I would take into consideration that asking her for some consideration may not get you anywhere. Those kind of people you just have to realize that they only care about themselves and they don't make life any more fun to have around.
Why does my so called friend only call me when she has a problem?
She's wrapped up in her, not you. These personalities can be narcissistic, self-indulging and focused only on their own needs. I have a friend like that. She feels she can call me when she can't sleep, and any advice I give her is ignored. I don't take calls after a certain hour, so she'll leave messages, as if it is an emergency. Since she has been an acquaintance (no longer a dear friend) for years, I take her with a grain of salt. She yelled "Wolf" too many times. BUT, our mutual friend takes her calls, listens to her moan and groan, and repeats the advice over and over again. I'm talking about years. What is the difference.? I have a life, my helpful friend is single and feels needed. I set boundaries. She doesn't feel close enough you, she just knows you will listen. When you are assertive or set boundaries, she eventually will find someone else to call. These individuals have a terrible time making decisions, so they poll all of their friends, or at least the ones who will take the calls. My friend(acquaintance) was a mommy's girl, and very dependent on Mom helping her with every decision. Mom recently died, so she is looking for someone to replace Mom. Your friend is immature and needing to lean on someone else to help her decide, rather than growing up and taking the responsibility for her own choices and decisions. A lot of energy can be wasted on these types of relationships. It is a choice we make if we want to do the dance with them or not. Sadly, it isn't that we are valuable to them; if that were the case, it might feed our egos to be there for them. But, when I stopped taking my friend's calls, she simply found someone else; She now calls our mutual friend twice as much. Sigh...how I love the freedom of knowing I'm not her wailing wall.. By the way, this is all about our friends with personality disorders. If a friendship is taking too much energy, we need to look at what WE are getting out of it. We all need to be caring but those with personality disorders, everything is still not enough. Don't do for them what they can do for themselves is a good thing to keep in your thoughts. Have a good day.
What can I do if my boyfriend won't pick up my calls or return my texts?
Trust me I did same things to my gf when I found she is lying to me. Then she did what you exactly did to your bf. So from that experience what I observed is if she had tried some other way I would have called and talked with her instantly. So I am listing below some of the things which I believe she should have done..When you know he is avoiding you even if he don't say directly, instead of contacting him about why he is angry or upset stop and pretend nothing had happened.Do all the things alone which you usually do along with him and make sure with social media he gets to know about it.Is there any situation where he feels jealous with your previous ex, then reproduce it and again use social media to make him feel jealous..….. Once you are in the process message him as usual how you message when you are in healthy relationship, don't let him know you are doing this intentionally. Trust me he will surely back to you.These are some more onservstions let me know how these are working (I belive these must work) so that I can share remaining
I feel like I'm the one holding friendship together. No one calls or checks on me. I'm the one calling to see how they're doing. Should I let them go?
You have mentioned in question that your friends don't call or check how you doing, so in this case specifically about calling or to be in contact through phone you have said but you have not said how they treat you ,when your with them or when you meet so in this case . My perspective is there are two kinds of people . one who know to be in contact no matter how far or near you are . And second kind of person , they always have you in their mind but they don't show or its not their style to show closeness through msg or call but when they are with you they give you all the respect and care you deserve . And I am saying this from my own experience of my two bestie and I said two kind of person, they relate to these two kind of person . They both are very close to me but one friend call and text when we don't meet for long time, at least on important occasion when she is supposed to call and sometimes I get call casually . Last month she texted me and asked is everything alright with us because after our graduation we don't meet so often, so often means in college days it was everyday, she used to be at my home or I used to be at her home used to study together assignment or just whatever timepass . Now college over, those days are over . And my second kind of friend she don't come to home often , didn't call often but my friendship have changed her I always taunted, her scolded her for not calling ,for not missing when we don't meet for long time, then she said its not like that its just I am not used to these kind concern but still I used to scold, sometimes she used to be angry but now she take all scolding with smile as she see affection in my anger . Now that situation is past . Now this happen when they are busy or when they know I am busy . Whenever you feel something wrong with any person or between you people just analyze the whole matter and prepare yourself to talk to them and just make it clear and make yourself free from all may be may not be thoughts .