Should you reject your ex boyfriend's friendship?
STOP BEING FRIENDS! This is only the beginnings of T-R-O-U-B-L-E. Tell him that you’re broken up and you have better things to do than text him! I’m sorry, but you will only get hurt again.
How can I reject my ex-boyfriend's friend? He has a crush on me. What can I say to him? I have no feelings for him at all.
What do you mean by how can I reject ??What if he's your ex's friend ?You love him say YES . You don't you say NO.You don't have any feelings for him and you are not you when you're with that guy and what does it mean when you say HOW DO I SAY THAT ?? .I guess your parents have taught you to say no because you keep saying it all the time !!No,I'll not go to school in your childhood.No,I'm not eating.No,I'm not staying in the home.Nope for some personal reasons.You daringly say NO.When you say NO it's NO.That's it.Period.
Can you forgive your narcissistic ex boyfriend? If so, how?
Yes. I forgive him because it’s a much healthier place for me to be.I also pray for him.He was horribly mean. He lied. He created situations to trigger me so that he could complain about me to friends. He stared at other women, flirted with every girl he saw, and hid his online activities -like a guilty person.And he was the Angel I needed to find out how much I need to heal.I forgive him because I know that he is extreamly emotionally unhealthy. I know that he has ptsd, depression, and has experienced unacknowleged abuses. I forgive him because I know he is in pain. I forgive him because I have to believe that forgiveness may help him chose to get help himself. I do forgive him because my continued love for him requires that. I won't forget his words or the loneliness I experienced being with him. But I forgive him because he doesn't know any better than I do how to turn the trauma of our childhoods and past relationships into a healthy happy successful melding. I forgive him because he wasn't alone in the dysfunction and toxicity.I have so much work to do. Without my experience with this man, I would have continued in my complacency and acceptance of a shell of a life. Without this experience, I wouldn’t have come to the realization that boundaries and expectations are valuable and necessary. So, yes, I forgive him, I pray for him and I thank him for everything I learned about myself.
Is it wrong to date your ex's best friend?
The flat out, less complicated answer is hell yeah it is.Well, under certain circumstances. ( I’m gonna get so much crap for this)I once dated this guy who was 21 when I was 18. I thought he was pretty cool, coming from someone who had JUST graduated high school. We were coworkers for a few months, and then one day, he confessed his feelings to me. We dated on and off for almost half a year, and let me tell you, it was awful. He had a lot of emotional problems. He didn’t know how to love me. Some days I was his girlfriend, some days I wasn’t. He brought up having an open relationship and polygamy a lot, which I refused since that wasn’t my cup of tea. He held me on a string and used me for emotional support and sex and company; the list can go on and on. I started to feel like I wasn’t worthy of love at all, as if my only purpose was to be a puppet and a mother to someone who didn’t even try to fix his problems before entering a relationship. To this day, I feel ashamed for allowing myself to accept anything less than the love I deserved.And this is where I finally answer your question.In the place where I worked, I had another coworker who was best friends with my ex. I absolutely loved hanging out with him. We would go on hikes, play video games together, spend hours talking about how much we hated our current relationships and helped each other out with that. It was completely innocent, he and I thought nothing of it… at least until we were both single. He was a caring guy, I could tell he loved me in a platonic way. But he gave me everything I needed; support, love, friendship, a shoulder to cry on, and so much more. Eventually, I told him how I felt and it turned out he felt the same for me. But we could not be together until he talked to my ex. He was uncomfortable with the thought of dating his best friend’s ex girlfriend without talking it through first. I waited about a week until they talked. My ex had told him that he saw it coming, because he was caring for me, because he was capable of loving me. A year later, he and I are still together and I’ve never been happier.Under certain circumstances, it is ok. If you have the opportunity to be happy, do it. But be careful, don’t be devious. Do it because you cannot see yourself with anyone else. There are plenty people in the world.
Just found that boyfriend has been hidding porn magazines and dvd's don't know what to do?
Don't get too upset by this. Many guys watches porn and likes it. It's a perfectly normal thing. My boyfriend watches porn but I don't mind. I guess it's kind of like girls liking to go shopping, and doing things like that. You shouldn't take it too offensively. I'm sure he still loves you but just watches this porn as an activity he enjoys, not an addiction. He tried to hide it, meaning that he acknowledges your feelings towards this matter. That means he thinks about you, and cares about how you feel. Hence he hides it. Most guys don't even bother and just watches it simply like that. In my opinion, if you break up with him just over a simple matter about porn (which seems to be making a big impact on you which it should not) isn't worth it. Do you really think you should divorce? Which means leaving your four year relationship behind, alongside with your son who will get greatly affected by this? How would he think that his parents got a divorce over porn? I think that sounds and is not reasonable. Men watches porn and it's not a bad thing. I think the main problem here is that you have self esteem issues you need to figure out first. You said you gained weight after having your child and you are trying to lose it. Take your time and don't stress over it. You can try to spice up your relationship by going for a vacation and a night out (Then find someone to babysit your son). These are just suggestions but you don't always need sexual needs to satisfy a relationship. Yes it can be a highlight in a relationship, but you need to work on your self esteem and the closeness between your husband before focusing on that. You can do many other things, and at the same time have a healthy diet and do exercises. It shouldn't be just losing weight for your husband but for yourself to be healthy. Lastly, I just want to say again it is very natural for men to watch porn and a lot of men do it. It is just an activity someone chooses to do and you shouldn't take it too much on yourself because it doesn't necessarily mean its your fault because it isn't. Just be optimistic and find ways to cut down the fights and don't argue over this because it'll just make everything worse. Try to spice up your relationship with your common interests and do things together to bring back the old times. Good luck
My ex boyfriend dumped me and he's very persistent about being friends even though I rejected him so many times. Why does he want to remain friends so badly?
One of the possible reasons for this can be that he still loves you from the core of his heart.He might have had broke up with you not because he wanted to but he had to.He still misses you, loves you, adores you, and wants to remain as close as to you.He might be scared at the thought of remaining away from you, and that's why he is pretending his love to be just a friendship.Now it's up to you what to do next. If he was a good genuine guy, who didn't love your “body” but you, who didn't be with you for your physical appearance or for his physical needs but loved you,It's high time to give him a second chance. Clear out things with him, atleast give him a chance to apologise, there might be many misunderstanding between you two, so try to get clear of them ASAP and try to give your relationship a second chance.Because now he knows what does it feels like to not have you in his life and he will make every effort to keep this relationship alive forever.Believe me on this, if your bf was the one as I mentioned, and if he is trying to get things right again, he is a rare find as they will not just be with you for their sexual needs, but will be with you forever no matter what the situation is.For them, sacrificing things they want to do for you is not at all a big deal.So follow my advice on this just ask wether he loves you, if yes accept it and make him your prince charming once again and follow wonders happening.Cheers to your eternal love story.
Insulted that my boyfriend wouldn't let me pick him up at the airport?
I need to start this off by saying I am having a VERY VERY bad week. My father left the country on short notice for business. My job had a computer meltdown and we lost everything we have ever done on and saved on our servers and have to tediously bit by bit reboot and download everything from our internet based back up. THEN my cancer stricken mother broke her arm and is having surgery to repair the break and investigate wether or not the cancer has spread to her bones. I kid you not all that happened in about four days time. My long time boyfriend has been out of the country as well and I have not gotten a chance to tell him about all that has happened because we really can only email back and forth. He complained before he left that he was worried his unreliable brother wouldn't be able to pick him up at the airport, and I offered MULTIPLE times to go get him. I really did not mind. Even back and forth in our emails he said he though his brother wouldn't come, and again I offered to pick him up and he said 'okay i'll let you know'. Last night I finally got a phone call from him saying 'yeah my brother won't do it, but don't worry I already called my little brothers best friend to come get me.' I'm pissed off ONE because he paid to call his brothers random friend before me, and TWO I offered all week to get him! Sheesh it would have been nice to step away from my hectic life for an hour and to hug my boyfriend after three weeks apart. I'm pissed off. SUPER pissed off and insulted. I feel like I'm directing some of my frustrations for the week on him and I don't know what to do. I need some advice to calm me down or maybe justify that it is okay to be mad at him for not taking up my offer. Sorry that was so long :/
My girlfriend slept with one of my best friends before me?
This happened a few months before I started going out with her, it was a one night stand with my friend (who was in a relationship at the time). She says that she regrets doing it a lot, it wasn’t an issue at first but now its really starting to get to me. She hates the guy (and she says that he is disgusting and unattractive ect.) which sort of pisses me off more because it makes me wonder why she did it even more. At the time apparently she liked me a lot, on the night it happened we were round a friends house and I went home, apparently this left her feeling lonely and rejected which is why she did it. Its not like she lied to me I knew it happened and It wasn’t an issue, but not im not sure I can deal with it, sometimes its all I can think about, I cant stand both of them being even in the same room, its really staring to get to me and I think its stopping me love her, I really don’t know what to do??