People always say I try too hard, is this a bad thing? What does it mean to try too hard?
I can only give examples of what I have done to make people say this. 1.Went to school full time and had a part time job, and a casual job....so that I could travel before college. 2.Got tired of being overweight, started exersising for an hour each day and watching what I eat, avoided junk food like the plauge..lost 80pounds. 3.Didn't want to be shy anymore, so I put myself out there and started showing interest in other people and the world. 4.After my little nieces favourite teddy got destroyed by the family dog, I spent a day doing nothing but finding fur to match his colour and rebuilding him. 5.When my friend said she was having a bad day,I went over to her house as fast as I could and treated her for the whole day. ..etc...... I think all of these things are valid, do I really try too hard? and is that a bad thing? What dies it mean to try to hard?
What do u do when ur guy doesn't want to have sex?
I think you need to find out why. You can't just assume he doesn't want sex because he may not like it or whatever. He could just want to wait for religious reasons, or because he wants to be in love, be married, be impotent and be embaryst to tell you. Don't judge him. Talk with him. If he trust and confides in you then he will be honest. Whatever his reason, take it seriously because he will be.
I love my girlfriend and I know she loves me too but I try so hard and it doesn't seem to be enough, I don't know what to do anymore. What should I do?
Sit her down and communicate how you feel. Don't hold back. Explain to her how you are trying, how you feel she isn't appreciative and how that makes you feel. Doesn't have to be confrontational but you need to be very, very clear with her that this problem is draining you and that it cannot continue. Try to get her to open up. Ask her exactly why she isn't satisfied and why she feels the need to withhold approval.Once you have both communicated how you feel make an agreement on what both of you can change. Make sure that both of you agree to make changes and try to be more understanding in the future. Do NOT back down and apologize if she refuses to give you a good explanation as to why she never is satisfied with you. This will only continue the cycle and poison the relationship.Ultimately if you cannot communicate your feelings to her and get her to understand you should consider breaking up. That might sound harsh but in the long run you do not want to suck it up and stick with a relationship that gives you nothing but stress.Screw the "love conquers all" nonsense people spout. Plenty of unhealthy, dysfunctional relationships started from a place of passionate love. Love is not enough to make a relationship work. You need compatibility and communication. If you don't have those two things the relationship will always be dysfunctional no matter how strong the hormones your brains produces are.But that's just a last resort. Like I said, communicate your feelings and create a plan that you can both follow. Don't back down because you want to avoid discomfort: be very clear that you want her to be happy but that she needs to meet you halfway.
How does it feel when you try so hard but you can't succeed?
Literally I felt totally exhausted and experience this situation umpteen timesbut we should not let go that thing if that is really add value to our goal.Remember what history told to us since from our childhood“ Sir Thomas Edison failed 10000 timesbefore inventing the bulb but what hefelt despite of that setback you know “Iam not failed but I discovered 10000ways that won't work “So, the above quote is suffice for us to renovate our ideas that hadn'tsuccessful and not only that he invented that great thing when thingswere not sufficiently available at that time but we had everything at our doorstep to do if we have a great desire to achieve the goals
Why when you try so hard do you get such bad grades?
I have been in the same boat as you...and now I am a teacher. First you need to find out what criteria you need to meet in order to get a better grade. Talk to the most evilist teacher alive, and let her know you want to get better grades. Ask her if she has a rubric for grading her papers. Perhaps you are not getting or studying the right information...such a waste to study something that really doesn't matter. Good luck!
What do you do when you work very hard for something but you still don't get results?
Well, there is a very logical answer to your question. How desperately do you want to achieve what you were aiming for?Given the fact that you worked hard I ASSUME you did want it, hence I'd recommend you read further. Are you being realistic? If you are trying to achieve something utopian, no amount of hard work can help you. Now you assess where you went wrong. You analyse your weakness, you analyse your strength. Sometimes hard work is not enough, you need to work smart. I personally feel planning your time is the key. Make sure you have time for friends, family. Something to get your mind off what you want to achieve for some time. Think twice before you take this advice, try once again. Follow these points I just stated, ask some close friends, read what others have to say and try once again. In case you fail (which I honestly hope you dont ) wait until you reach that point where you are fed up and only then give up and choose something else. This is what I would do. How I could help :)
Why is it that no matter how hard I try, I still fail?
This question reminds me of a conversation between Bruce Wayne and Alfred from Batman Begins which goes something like this:Alfred to Bruce : “Why do we fall sir? So that we can learn to pick ourselves Up.”Lesson learnt : It's good to fail as long as you are ready to learn and rise again.Having said that, it's not always good to keep trying to succeed at something for infinite number of times when every time the the approach and the outcome are the same and the lesson learnt is NIL.So if you are failing at something consistently even after working hard then change your approach towards solving the problem. Get help from your peers if required.Problem cannot be solved with the same mindset that we created them with.
My girlfriend doesn't respect me. What should I do?
Love is not all you need. We all need respect, especially from those who are closest and most intimately connected with us. Respect is a pattern of behavior that is found in healthy relationships. You have to give respect in order to get it, and it is something everyone deserves.In a relationship like your are, people must respect each other, support the decisions and build trust. Now, as you are saying that your girlfriend does not respect you, how do you know? And if you are sure, you must do something. Talk. Talking is the best possible way for solving any kind of problem. Before expecting respect from others, we should learn to respect ourselves.We should not be feel pressurized in a love relationship. We shouldn’t do things just because everyone else is doing or someone makes us do it. You have opinions and you should stand up and express your opinions to feel good about yourself. Put-downs, belittling and verbal abuse are some type of disrespects that can be there in a relation. They make the relationship unhealthy. So, go stand up and talk. But keep your poise. Ask her calmly and straight way. If she is the one who loses her temper and starts shouting or something (which can do as she do not hold that respect for you), you have your answer. This is not a relationship. This is bearing somebody who doesn’t love you. Because respect and understanding is crucial than sweet talks and kisses.You need not to do the same kind of thing with her. Do not disrespect or try to hurt her. That makes you a discourteous and ill-mannered man. And you are not what she is. So, just resolve this thing with her otherwise leave her with her arrogance. You have better things to do and better people to love.
I try hard, but I fail?
We all fail, no one if perfect. Failure is an event, never a person. ~William D. Brown, Welcome Stress! I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. ~Thomas Edison Supposing you have tried and failed again and again. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call "failure" is not the falling down, but the staying down. ~Mary Pickford Failure doesn't mean you are a failure... it just means you haven't succeeded yet. ~Robert Schuller You can't have any successes unless you can accept failure. ~George Cukor Nothing fails like success because we don't learn from it. We learn only from failure. ~Kenneth Boudling It is a mistake to suppose that people succeed through success; they often succeed through failures. ~Author Unknown The men who try to do something and fail are infinitely better than those who try to do nothing and succeed. ~Lloyd Jones
Why do I try hard at something and fail?
Story-A Panther and a crocodile decided to race.Panther smile inside ,that he can easily win the race. As he is the fastest animal on land.But on the way of the race their is a river, Panther could not pass the river, but crocodile did. And thus crocodile win the race.Moral -it doesn't matter how strong you are.you have to choose the right path to achieve the success.