Help my boyfriend almost broke up with me today :(?
it was like that with me and my boyfriend.. we fought all the time, then all of a sudden during one fight he just just said "fine, im done! i dont what to be with you if your gonna keep on like this" and walked out. he came back and said he was sorry, that it was just the heat of the moment etc. we went thro phases of me wanting to break up, us going on breaks and basically it was just really rocky. experts say its because the "honeymoon period" is over, and its the true test of the relationship. if you really love eachother and want to be with eachother, you have to accept eachothers faults. its nothing to get too worried about, if you love eachother you'll get thro it. im with my boyfriend over two years now, and i really believe that all those fights made us stronger. i really hope it works out for you good luck!! :)
Just broke up with BF, please help!?
I have been with an albanian man for almost 5 years now. We have had many issues; he has not made an effort to make me part of his family, there have been numerous cases of infidelity, and I always seem to fall last on his priority list. I broke up with him today because pictures I saw posted on his brothers facebook page of him at an albanian party. I am okay with him going out, all i ever asked was for him to be open about his life and to let me know. For the first time in 5 years, I called and talked with his sister (seriously i have never had a conversation with any of his family members). She left me with the feeling that all the things I listed above, all the things wrong in our relationship, is just part of the albanian culture. For example, she is pregnant and her husband made her leave the house so he could have a guys only party. My question is, was it the right thing to do to leave this relationship. Has anyone ever been with an albanian man and experienced all this?
My boyfriend and I broke up today. He told me how he needs to figure out stuff such as his sexuality and what he wants. He’s bisexual. We both have feelings for each other, and it is still there. It hurts. What should I do?
Well, sweetie, I can’t tell you what you should do, but I can tell you what you shouldn’t do, and that’s wait around while your now ex boyfriend is living his life. It’s gonna hurt sweet pea, it is, but I’m guessing you’re young and you have so much tonlook forward to. Now, I want to cheer you up, so please go get your shades and listen to this song, then tell me you’re not smiling and feeling better.The Future's So Bright (I Gotta Wear Shades) Timbuk 3 [HQ]Honey, it’s better that you two broke it off instead of him dragging you through Lord knows what on his mission to find his impossible. Freedom. Ahhhhh. It smells nice. Now go get em! The World, i mean, not him. ;) take care, sweetie.My best and warmest blessings,K
Just broke up today, how do you guys move on?
I recently broke up too so I’m on the same boat; however, I’m in a better place than I started. I can give you few advice that has helped me tremendously. Go to gym and workout. Set a routine and do it because it helps out sooo much more than you think. Pick some of your close friends and vent to them. Initially I didn’t do this so it was hard for me but this has helped me out so find few close friends you can talk to. Do not text or call them or check up on their social media. This will kill you especially if they move on quickly or they are the one who broke up with you. Look at your progress on a weekly basis rather than daily basis. It shows you how much progress you have made. Listen to motivational speech on youtube as well because that has helped me be in a better place as well. Most importantly, take care of your well being. Don’t drink excessively.
Heartbroken, questions. Help me please?
So, me and my boyfriend brokeup today. He told me he loved me yesterday, and said he never wanted to lose me. But today when i go to see him, another chick is over there which i knew who she was, and his/my other friend. And once i saw her i knew something was up. He didnt talk to me, or sit near me. So, i knew it was something. And so i told him to go inside so i could ask him, and we did. Then his mom came in and said that it was messed up, and wrong for him to be dating him. And he got mad, and went out the door because he thought i didnt know. So, i texted him, and he said they were dating. And said he didnt wanna be the one to tell me, and that yes he was a dick. His mom dont like her, and said i could still come over anytime i wanted too. But i feel heartbroken... i loved him so much, and he did this. And my friend said that he got her number, and talked to her himself. I cant beleive i fell for love again. I thought he was the one, you know. Everything was great, and then she screwed it up, and i wanna die. I love him so much, but he dont even care about me. And after i foundout, and after she left, me, him, and my 2 other friends were sitting on their porch, and he would mes with me, trying to hit me with his phone, just playing around.. But i cant take this... my friend said that the chick texted her, saying that she wasnt ready for a relationship. So, they might breakup soon. Should i take him back after all of this? Or would it be another stupid move? I just love him so much, and we talked about our future and everything. Please help :/
My boyfriend and I almost broke up today. Advice?
Are you seeing a professional who's helping you get over your fear? If you aren't, I think that would be the best thing to do. It seems like you have a lot of things that you keep bottled up, which isn't good. The first step would be to go to your doctor and tell them you need a professional to talk to, they'll take it from there. Sometimes you can't get over your fears by yourself, you need someone to help you. Since you said you don't really have friends and your boyfriend is busy, a therapist would definitely be the best way to go. As far as your problems with your boyfriend, I think they will get better if he sees you actually doing something to help yourself. If you really want, you can take him with you, and you guys can get help together. Good luck!
Im so sad my girlfriend broke up with me. HELP?
My girlfriend of a year broke up with me about 2 months ago and we have been talking since then and i have been trying sooooo hard to get her back and she wont budge, she wont give in and give our relationship another chance so today we said out final goodbyes and its killing me. I love her so much and i cant stop crying, im crying right now as i type. I want her in my life but she wants nothing to do with me, i have wrote her letter and givin her gifts and tried everything. Nothing works, she just doesnt care about me and i cant accept that, i cant live like this!!! I feel so hollow and empty, i dont understand how someone who was so in love with me before could be leaving me and not care anything about me. Im in so much pain and she is so content right now, no tears for her. She is out tonight having a good time not thinking anything about me and i hate it! I hate that i cry night and day while she doesnt care. Im 20 years old, im shy, im not good with girls, i feel like she is the one for me, and i dont feel like i will meet anyone else. Please just give me some advise on what to do, how to stop crying, or just talk and share anything you want. I feel so low.
Me and my boyfriend mutually broke up today. He was mentally abusive and expected me to buy him things. How do I terminate my feelings for him?
You can't just turn off your feelings for someone. It sounds like you might have some c0dependency issues. Most people do. The feelings we have for those we are close to are complex. It's possible to love someone and accept them as a person while still not being okay with their actions as they affect us. What you did was set a boundary with your boyfriend. He behaves in a way that isn't acceptable to you, and you said no. Good for you. You are quite right not to want to pay for someone else's living expenses, are under no obligation to do so, and if you continue to do so will resent him. Mental abuse and manipulation are unacceptable. If he is really manipulative, he will likely try to get you back because the arrangement sounds like it's working pretty good for him. Doesn't have to work, gets his food paid for, what's not to like? Holding him accountable is the best thing for him, though he may not see it that way. His refusal to get a job is his problem, not yours.How to say no and really mean it? Be aware of your feelings and honour them. Don't make it a tug of war between "I really like him" and "He does things that bug me" on opposite sides of a constantly seesawing scale. Both are true. You cannot change another person's behaviour. You can only change the way you react to those behaviours. At the end of the day, you have to do what's best for you.You might want to check out Co-dependants Anonymous or Alanon. They are great programs for people in your situation. It's not easy setting healthy boundaries. You've made a good decision. Now stick to it. Best wishes. P.S. The phrase is, "once and for all." Meaning once (now) and for all time.
My girlfriend and I broke up today what should I do (read description before answering)?
You are in a toxic relationship if all your questions are about your girlfriend, her ex, you, and situations surrounding the three of you.Sorry, had to look up previous questions because the situation sounded familiar to previous asks I had declined.My guess is: you two are both young, guided by hormones, and not sure about what you want. Now, I also fit the former two categories, but the third, I do not. By young, I assume you are in your teens. That's a decade of development that has yet to be reached. In that time, you learn that you don't need to be concerned about every moment of every thing that happens in your relationship. And you also learn what your deal breakers are and what things you do that are deal breakers for others. Well, hopefully you learn all that anyway. Or are continuing to and will continue to.This wishy-washy, on-again/off-again, am-I-in or am-I-out business, I was never a fan of, even with my friends and family. Why put yourself through all that strain, doubt, and drama? Unnecessary, painful, and just ridiculous, really.Do what you feel you should. After all, every relationship is a learning experience... Don't expect too much out of it, and don't worry so much. If you can't trust your partner, what is the foundation of your relationship?
My boyfriend broke up with me today and I can't function properly. I cannot think for the pain. I would rather die than feel this. I have been cutting a lot. How do I cope?
I know that it hurts. Love does that, sometimes.I don't think anyone have loved and not felt like you do right now at some point. I know that I have. Several times, actually.So please trust me when I say this: It will pass. You will survive this, and you will be okay.Don't take him back, even if he tries to start it up again. He knew that this would break your heart and he still did it. He is not ready for the kind of relationship, that you want. He may turn around at some point, but for now you need to distance yourself from him.It will only bring you more pain to be with him. So let him go, okay?Treat yourself good for the next couple of days. Eat ice cream or chocolate or whatever you want. Talk to friends. Cry at lot. Watch stupid movies and cry some more. Beat up your pillows and cushions. Scream if you want to. Get it out of your system.You have a right to react to your feelings, as long as you do not hurt anyone in the process. So go nuts, explore your pain and find out who you really are.You sound young, are you a teenager? If I am right, then I will also be right about this:In a year, he will be nothing more than a memory, and you will have loved someone else. We have all been there, and just as we got through it, you will too.But I remember the pain and I don't envy you the things you are about to face. It is a rough ride. Clench your teeth and work your way through it. There is nothing else you can do.----------EDIT:Okay, I missed the part about you cutting yourself. Sorry.That part requires a different answer than my original one, but it is in my opinion also not related to this situation, though the emotional pain might work as a trigger.If you cut yourself to transfer emotional pain into physical pain, then you have a serious condition. You should seek help immediately. I am not kidding about this.If you respond with your location (just a city name and country) I will be happy to try and find someone that can help you.