Is it rude to arrive too early to a party?
I think if you call ahead asking, "Hey is there anything I can do to help you get ready?," it will be likely interpreted as a thoughtful gesture.However, if you show up 45 minutes earlier than asked expecting to be entertained while your host is frantically trying to make sure food and drink is ready by the designated start time, your host will surely not appreciate your early arrival.They'll try their best to juggle the two and will likely not mention your lack of sensitivity to the many tasks they have to accomplish by X o'clock, but if you put yourself in their shoes for a moment, it becomes very clear why this is not a very good idea.Five or ten minutes is acceptable in my book. Any earlier is rude.
Is it rude to leave a wedding early?
In that kinder and gentler time past, it was rude to leave before the bride and groom left. But, as you say, the goal for a wedding reception these days seems to be getting as drunk as you can, the bride and groom included. And the bride and groom are no longer in a hurry to go on their honeymoon. And they stay until the end of the reception, and often have post reception parties. So, it is perfectly acceptable to leave the party before the drunken behavior gets going. Most people stay through out the meal, the toasts and the cake cutting, then leave. But judge the situation, and if things are getting rowdy, just go. And don't be afraid to ask another couple of female guests to watch you get to your car, or actually walk you there. And practice good safety techniques on the way to the car, and home. Loose the high heels, put some socks and tennis shoes in your bag. And weddings are hard to predict these days. Some people, being charged by the hour for reception space, have a curfew, and must have the place empty by a certain time to avoid further charges[or annoying the wedding party booked just after theirs]. Others with late night receptions must observe legal alcohol drinking laws. I would say an hour for the meal, an hour for the toasts, speeches, cake, and first dances. and an hour for entertainment is kinda average.
Was I rude in leaving the party early? I feel horrible.?
First and foremost, I'm 22 AND asian (that's the key word). I still live with the family so of course they're still gonna be nit picky and cruel. I'm honestly a good girl - I don't go out every weekends or get super drunk. Times when I've tried to go out before, my parents would use evil guilt trip on me not to go or even forbid me....it's embarassing but whatever, something I had to deal with. They're getting better but...it's still difficult. (I still have to sometimes "lie" about where I'm going...aka bar or club on rare occassion). Also, most of the time it's hard for me to go out b/c my mom works saturday nights so the car's taken. Anyhoo, tonight my close friend and her husband were having a get together. She lives pretty close - less then 10 minutes away. She knows i have strict parents (she's dealt w. it when she was my age) and i'm pretty sure her husband knows. Tonight, I actually had the car and took advantage and went. We had fun, playing games, watching a game on TV...they surprisingly didn't call as much (like before) but got the expected txts from my sister about one of them being worried. I could have taken advantage and stayed an hour later but I didn't wanna push it and ruin my chances later or give them the wrong impression and I actually was getting sleepy. Around 1AM, i politely told my friend i was getting tired and I had to leave. (before that, we were having fun...actually pickin on me from "truth or dare" but in good taste). RIght when I announced I had to leave, everyone just got quiet and the mood changed. I apologized and told them how much fun I had but i was very tired and needed to get up for church and just kept thanking them. I don't feel super guilty but I really hope I wasn't rude. I was just wondering why everyone got so down and quiet when i left?
What party in your life did you want to leave early?
***My own wedding party/reception***Firstly, I do not like parties and avoid them as much as possible. On top of that, I cannot handle being the center of attention (to the point that I took a failing grade on a high school assignment where we had to give a speech). At your wedding you are the center of attention and are responsible for everyone else having a good time.That was just too much stress for my 22 year-old self. I got my very first migraine from the stress.It was a very very warm Saturday in September. It was well over 100F/38C by 11am. I do not even remember the ceremony. I have little snippets that pop into my mind and I have photos that others took, but I do not remember the ceremony itself.The ceremony was only about an hour. After the ceremony we adjourned to the reception hall a few miles away from the chapel. We had set up the reception hall the evening prior. Before the ceremony we took all of the food we had made (we had a sandwich buffet with a few sides) and the cake to the hall, so everything was ready when we arrived.I endured the toasts…and then it began!My head was splitting open…I could feel my brain oozing down like rivulets through my head and neck; well that was how it felt at the time. I had not eaten due to nerves. The stress, being overheated, and the anxiety could no longer be held back.I made it to the washroom and spent the next hour violently vomiting. Hubster came in to check on me several times and I made him go back thinking that it was almost done only to have it return. After an hour of this we decided that I needed a cool shower and to be in an air-conditioned room. We made a departure speech and finally made our way out.Everyone stayed a few more hours and had a grand time.I did not have another migraine for almost 20 years.So you see, I have an excuse to avoid parties. Parties make me physically ill!
Is it rude to leave a bat mitzvah early?
It depends. If your leaving would disrupt the service, then don't go. If you can leave without disrupting the event, then just let your hosts know that you will need to leave early to work. As far as a gift, it depends on how well you know the girl and the family and what you can afford. A small gift ($25) in value is fine.
I need to leave a bachelorette party early and the bride is so angry at me!?
Your beloved friend has the typical problem that controlling brides tend to suffer from: Bridezilla. To expect 15 people to take that amount of time off from work is not only unreasonable, it is down right selfish. Attend for as long as you can and then go with your husband to his work related affair. If she is not happy, then that is her problem. If she makes a huge fuss about it, that is her problem. You shouldn't feel guilty or apologize for anything. You are affording her that vacation with 14 other girls and it is incredibly ungrateful of her to treat you with anything other than respect. You have already told her your plans, so follow through with them. If she says anything else about your obligations, just tell her that once she is married, she will understand that a husband's career is important and a good wife supports her husband. If this girl allows your plans to interfere with your relationship with her, then that is all on her. Make no apologies and give no excuses because once you begin explaining, you will find yourself in a debate of defending yourself. Do not second guess yourself, you are most certainly making the right decision.
Is it rude for the best man to leave the reception early?
Okay, hear me out. I am the best man at my brother's wedding. He has already told me I will hate the music at his reception (rap/hip-hop), which is ruder? Leaving early? Or sitting at the wedding party table all night looking bored and miserable? On top of this our 21 month old son will be there and gets cranky if it gets too late. Thoughts? Suggestions?
Is it rude to leave a party without telling people?
I am really sorry that you had to face such a situation. Typically Indians are warm people. They welcome their guests and treat them respectfully ensuring they are always taken care of. However, there could be exceptions. The group that you were hanging out with could have gotten carried away and hence not noticed your absence and the fact that you would have been feeling out of place. India is a country that houses a lot of regional languages and dialects. I have faced situations too when I had felt out of place at a party. I try to make small talk in a common language and see if it works. Else, I leave the party. When I do so, I try looking for the hosts to thank them and leave. But at times the hosts are so caught up that it becomes difficult to grab their attention. In such a case, I leave the party and drop a text to the host citing the reason for my early and uninformed departure.
Why do girls leave the club early?
they dont like waiting for the guys who are just waiting for their beer goggles to take focus...no one wants to be "that girl"
My friends always leave places/parties early?!?
I love my friends, they've been so much fun for the last year in college that I've known them. However lately in the last month, one friend has constantly been going home early from bars or parties. Whether I take her myself or a friend comes and picks her up...its pretty consistent that she won't finish a night out. I know she's dealing with some family stuff also. All of a sudden my other friend last night decides to leave early because of some of her own personal drama (guy related). So they both wanted to leave at that moment and I DROVE and I wanted to stay! I consider myself a good friend and I love these girls. I'm always here for them to offer help and advice, but I just feel like if we pay good money to go out, let's have a good time no matter what comes in the way! Even though they are dealing with their own personal issues I feel like they should just suck it up and put a smile on if we all make the decision to go out? We have YET to leave a place early because I want to leave...so I just feel like, why can't they be the same way? I just dealt with a breakup and some personal drama too that could ruin my night, but I don't LET it ruin my night. Side Note: I'm starting to analyze this because I'm moving in with them in a month and I'm nervous it's always gunna be this way.