When somebody insults your character, are they insulting you?
how about having a rational conversation and learning to communicate with your husband? Why were you arguing? Were you even justified in having an argument about what ever it was? Was it worth the effort and the hurt feelings to have an argument rather than a conversation? Why are you still bothered by what he said "days later?" I'm not asking these questions to be critical...I'm asking cause if you can logically answer them, you might find yourself having fewer arguments or learning how to communicate better. To answer your original question...one's behavior is part of who they are. Can you admit he might have been right in saying you're being childish or stupid and that's what bothered you so much for days later--knowing he was justified in calling you childish or stupid. I can admit when my behavior is less than satisfactory, it doesn't mean justifying my behavior, but taking an outsiders perspective and saying the way I was acting wasn't cool. Being able to admit that your behavior isn't how or who you'd like to be will make you more aware of it and possibly stop you from acting like a child or stupid in the future. If you reflective after your emotions have cooled down and you feel he was unjustified in calling you that, then approach him and give him logical reasons as to why he was not justified. Good Luck!
In Of Mice and Men, how was Lennie helpful and hurtful to other characters?
So I spent like 6 month studying this book for GCSE English so here's my answer. Lennie clearly has a disorder of some sort. His brain doesn't function properly. This causes people to be more soft hearted to him, as he is as innocent as any child. This is extremely helpful to the members of the Ranch as it allows them to explore their soft side, which many have lost touch with due to the wall street crash The downside to this, is due to Lennie being as innocent as a child, he needs all the care and attention that a child needs. He needs to be constantly told to be careful, what's right, what wrong. However the Ranch members do not have the time to take care of Lennie, in a way of a child. This is no doubt the reason why he accidently kill's Curley's Wife. Which as we know is why George Has to kill Lennie. This is hurtful to George as he has just had to Kill his best friend. Curley's Wife is obviously very hurt. And Slim is about to be hurt as he has to watch George's hurt. Okay so I know I should back all this with evidence but I really can't be bothered to go through the book to find the evidence
My dad calls me hurtful names!!!!
Well my dad and brothers call me very hurtful names, most are concerning my weight! One that i hate the most is "thunder thighs". There almost always about my weight. I don't think i am fat but i am beginning to wonder. I am a flyer in cheerleading and i wear a small in shirts and a double zero to a double zero in pants. But some of my pants are too tight in the thighs. I have tried to go on diets but they don't last but 2 or 3 days. I have tried to tell my dad to stop but he justs says it builds character. How can i tell my dad to not call me these names. also if he keeps on going like this will it possibly cause me to have a eating disorder?
What do you think of these Naruto characters?
1.Pain- (I actually always thought it was spelled Pein...hmmm.) He's not my favorite character but I think he's a bit better than some of the characters in the past (Orochimaru being one.) 2. Konan- She's pretty cool. I like her origami as well. 3.-Diedara- Proably my favorite Akatsuki. Afterall art is a BANG! 4. Kakuzu (dont worry you spelled his name right!) He's alright but he has a very short temper. If he was a person in real life I would proably get irritated with him. His techniques are pretty cool though. 5. Hidan- When he first appeared he surprised me because I didnt think anyone could ever possibly swear in every other sentance like he did, especially in a show like Naruto! I dont like him that much though, he killed Asuma. 6. Tobi- Is awesome! At first he annoyed me with his third person talking but I grew to like him. 7. Zetsu- Another awesome character! 8.Kisame- (Like Kiss Ah Me) I always enjoy watching him fight, especially his fights with Gai Sensai! I also like his sword. 9.Sasori- (does he live on drury lane? :-D ) I personally did not like him at all. Im glad Sakura and Chiyo kicked his butt! I've always been afraid of puppets though so that may have something to do with it. The only person I think you forgot was Itachi but people either like him or hate him, I dont think theres an in between. Also, sorry but it says the pic has been removed! :-P
What's it like to know or suspect that a character or situation in a book/movie/show/etc. is based on you or your life?
A year or two ago a friend I grew up with had a book published and she used my name for the main character and title. I was flattered, but as I have a very unusual name I agreed that it made a great choice for a whimsical story. When her book came out I asked her for a few copies and as soon as I get them, I sent one to my parents. They knew this family friend well, too, and had seen her grow up and knew her parents. Plus they gave me my name, after all, right?Well I got a phone call from my mom a few days later.I hadn't had a chance to read the book yet, but my mom did. It turns out that not only did the main character have my name and characteristics, but my siblings and even sister-in-law were characters as well. Which would be really fun, except for the part where the whole book revolves around the plot where they have to destroy the evil dark Queen who is hideous and ugly and cruel and abusive.Who was named after my mother.So, yeah.I would never have sent her a copy if I'd known, but I had no idea. I don't know why my friend would have used my entire family as character sketches for the book, or even just used all our names, but she did. I wouldn't even care in general, but it ended up being really hurtful because I had given my mom one of the books as a gift. She took it badly, and it ended the relationship. There was no easy way to say to the author, "Hey, I see you used the names of everyone in our family for your book, and made some of them 'less than flattering,' and then gave me copies of that book. So uh what's that all about?" The end result was a ruined relationship.I write myself, and I don't think there's anything wrong with drawing on life experiences to form your stories. Not at all. If people didn't want their stories told, they shouldn't have acted in ways that would embarrass them in the future. However, I also wouldn't write stories about people I know without changing names and small details so that it wasn't directly antagonizing. Go ahead and base a story on people you know, but don't be a jerk about it.Edit: If you want to know specifics on the book, PM me. I don't want a flood of people following links from this answer to the Amazon page, because I don't want the author - who is realistically a good person - to become curious and follow back here. You could try searching Amazon under my name too, but I'm sure there are probably a billion books about sonnets (the poem) so there's a lot of noise to cut through.
Why do people become so hurtful, offensive (like name calling) and defensive when debating hot button issues?
Why do people become so hurtful, offensive (like name calling) and defensive when debating hot button issues?A lot of reasons.For some, their beliefs are part of their identity. If a person’s stance on a “hot button issue” is derived from their religious beliefs, and their religion is a core part of who they are, an attack on their stance might well feel like an attack on them. From their perspective, there’s not any real difference between attacking the stance and attacking the religion. (This is probably most true for the “defensive” part of your question… that can lead to hurtful or offensive behavior, but the root of that behavior is that they feel like they’re being attacked, so they’re lashing out to defend themselves.)For some, they don’t have anything better to offer. They’re pushing an issue that can’t be won on logic or rationality, so they use emotion. They attack in the hopes that their opponents will retaliate in kind, reducing the debate to a screaming match.For some, it’s a result of frustration. It’s not where they wanted to start, but after years of fighting and being ignored or getting nowhere, they’re frustrated with the opposition, frustrated with things getting worse… and in frustration it’s often hard to tell the difference between the people who have been ignoring you for years and someone new who’s honestly trying to have a discussion. It’s not good or admirable, but it happens.For some, they’re just rude. Or trolls. They don’t actually care about the issues, but they like getting reactions and riling people up, and they know talking about sensitive issues and calling the other side names is a great way to get those reactions.There’s not just one explanation for this… but often the best response is to try and remain calm. The situation will only rarely improve if you respond in kind (and I can’t actually think of any examples of that off-hand), but if you remain calm you can defuse most of these situations, especially if you’re not actually attacking them.
Can you describe your favorite Harry Potter character without saying their name?
Shy, clumsy, and seemingly weak at first, but shows hints of great strength and courage at his core even in the first book.Loves his pet toad, even though he keeps trying to run away (and eventually succeeds). Also loves the rare plant his great-uncle got him in Assyria, and manages to win it over quite successfully by the end of the book in which he acquires it.Might have done well in Hufflepuff but was put in Gryffindor anyway, and the Sorting Hat was proved quite correct in the end.Brilliant with plants, terrible at Potions, although some of that may be the Potions teacher intimidating him and making him anxious - he tends to do best in general in classes with teachers who err on the “kind and gentle” side rather than “strict and overbearing”.Devoted to his parents, though they are too damaged to parent him properly. Like Harry, gets Christmas presents that are monetarily and practically worthless- but while Harry’s gifts from the Dursleys are given and received in utter contempt, his gum wrappers come with all the love his mother can demonstrate with her broken mind, and are received with love and cherished. Has been told all his life how brave and strong his parents were, and wants very badly (and works very hard) to live up to their example. Eventually succeeds beyond his wildest dreams.Desperate to please his demanding and frequently harshly critical grandmother and the rest of his family through acts of courage and magical skill. Eventually succeeds beyond his wildest dreams.Brave, selfless, and kind enough to stand between the Carrows and those more vulnerable to their cruelty than himself, over and over, and to continue fighting and leading the war underground when all seemed on the verge of being lost. Stood up to Voldemort even when all seemed actually lost, and refused his offer to save his own skin by joining the Death Eaters.One of three in the series shown wielding the Sword of Gryffindor, which comes only to the brave and worthy.Might have been the Chosen One - instead, had to choose his own path, and at every step of the way, chose the path of risk, danger, and hard work, rather than the path of ease, selfishness, and safety, because it was the right thing to do.
One of my colleague is spreading hurtful rumours about my character and personal life at workplace due to old enmity with him. I don't want to talk with him and end this forever. How do I do so?
The first thing, and I'd tell you my mother taught me this. In Bengali, there goes a saying, “Tumi odhom hoile, Ami uttom hoibo na keno?”.Roughly translated this means, “If you can be bad, why can't I be good?There's another quote by Hasan Minhaj which goes, “Himmat honi chahiye Bhai, Himmat honi chahiye. Aur tumhari Himmat tumhare darr se badhkar honi chahiye.”Which means, you have to be brave, and your courage to make things right should be greater than your fear.Following these two anecdotes, I'll tell you this. Life is not fair to anyone, and anyone on a daily basis does something wrong which might affect you. But you have to be the bigger person.Say good things about him. Act in a way you'd normally do. Be calm about the scenario. Some people are just bad, and to get over them is to make them realise their fault, make them feel guilty, and you can do that by being the bigger person. You don't have to talk to him. Block him out of your life, but if the initiative comes from the other end, do make a conversation.Tell him you don't regret your time together, so that he realizes that you are not the person he thinks you are. To rise above the enemity is in your hands. The ball is entirely in your court. Whatever he is spreading, it is his opinion, and opinions don't last much long. He may be able to influence a few people with something wrong, but when the people come up to you for something, help them, so that they know in their hearts that you cannot be wrong.See, the hunter is the hero because the lion cannot write. But you can. Be the better person. Your friends believe you, they know the story, so rely on them for the moment. And take everything casually.The more affected you show yourself, the more encouragement he finds knowing his doing is having some effect on you to 'destroy' you. Your vulnerability is his fuel. That's the baseline of every revenge story. So, deprive him of that. Continue with your normal schedule. He is human only, and he too would get tired of continuing with the rumours. If he doesn't, people are eventually going to know that if a person can accuse someone else of so many things, that person can never be right.So, its all on you to let people know how good you are. This is an opportunity. He is giving you the pitfall, and anything good you do would relatively outshine you. So do that. Be the better person. Rise and shine. Much love.
I need funny Viking names for a book I'm writing.?
I don't want anything particularly real, meaning I don't want names like "Olav" or anything like that. I want names LIKE the ones in How to Train Your Dragon, such as "Snotlout," "Fishlegs," "Gobber the Belch," "Hoark the Haggard..." things like that. They don't have to start with the same letter in both the main words, like "Ruthor the Rancid," "Bellow the Clarion," or "Bantron the Boisterous ( thank you, Brittney )." Those names are great too, but I want some that don't begin with the same letter, like "Trotterbreath the Gutsy" or something... I'm amazed I could come up with that. I greatly appreciate all answers and anyone who gives me answers has my full gratitude. Thank you. K.A.C.E./KellyEdis P.S. I'm also giving credit to those who give me answers that I will use, and who leave me their name and age or town/city + country/state. Thanks again! P.P.S. What do you guys think of the name "J'ril?" It's pronounced "drill." The reason why I'm asking you you about the name "J'ril" is because that's the currant first name of my main character. Here's a link to see her picture in anime - http://naminghelp.moonfruit.c
Have you ever known or heard about someone who changed their name multiple times?
I knew a girl who changed her name three times. And then another person I knew also changed their name three times. That’s the most I’ve ever known personally. I’ll keep their privacy though, out of respect for both their well-beings.First was my best friend who was born as Lavender.Eventually after a traumatic childhood and some hurtful memories with her name, at 13 she became Serena (named after her favorite video game character). Legally she was still Lavender and her legal guardians couldn’t go through the system to change her name due to technicalities so she had to wait till she was 18. By the time she hit 18, while she still liked Serena and the name, she changed her name to Sere, to stand out. As far as I know, she’s quite content with her name and will keep it as is. I’ll switch between calling her Sere or my childhood nickname for her, Lazzy (I’m one of the select few allowed to refer to her past name)The second was a college friend, Samuel.Samuel was a chill guy but unbeknownst to everyone (except his fiancee), he struggled with gender identity. Just before we graduated, Samuel became Samantha. While Samantha did have some issues regarding the change, all our friends accepted her. Still, gender identity is a bit of a mystery to this person. They feel 75% Samantha, 25% Samuel. To mix them together and convenience on signing forms, she became Sam a year or so after graduating. I don’t keep in contact as much with Sam nowadays but she’s pretty happy with her supportive fiancee and new sales job.