Is a 26-year-old virgin (woman) a good thing?
I feel like this question is asked a million times on the internet, but we have to know what other men (and women) TRULY think about it. My friend and I are both 26 year old, professional, and attractive women. We go on a lot of dates (separately of course...) and find that as soon as the guy finds out that he probably won't "SCORE"...the calls stop. The dates are over. And, he's out the door. My poor friend has had some pretty rude remarks thrown her way by guys who she REALLY falls for, but me on the other hand...I always get the kind phrases like "what? I would not have guessed that, I mean...I could see if you were ugly or didn't have a nice body...I can't believe you're waiting until marriage. That's kinda old fashioned." But, even with that...the guy ALWAYS loses interest. Should I just sleep with someone to get it over with?! This has become frustrating for me. My best friend wants to know the same thing. OR do you think that being a virgin at 26 is a good thing and patience is the key? I don't know what to really believe anymore...my morals say "stay the course...sex is not ALL THAT...everyone tells you that." But there are times when I'm like "WTF, I know I'm good-looking, getting my MBA, and want to sleep with this dude!!! aaaahhhhh". There was one time last year when I almost lost my virginity and the guy just froze in the middle of things and said "...this is so wrong, I can't. It would be really wrong...I'm sorry." It was SO AWKWARD I didn't know what to do. I just got dressed, thanked him for past 3 months of dating and was like "don't worry about it...we don't HAVE to have sex just yet..." But, two weeks after that, he called to say that it was over and he didn't want to "hurt my feelings by being a jerk and sleeping with me just becasue of physical attraction". I was stumped! But, now...I'm growed accustomed to being a bit confused by it all. Lastly, why do you think guys are suddenly "scared off" once I/We mention the fact that waiting until marriage (or atleast a serious relationship) is the goal?
If you are just dating and you enjoy his company, it is fine.If you end up living together or marrying, you may end up caring for him when he has a major medical illness. Strokes, dementia, heart attacks, cancer, and surgeries get more frequent as people age. It doesn’t matter if you are male or female. Also does he have adult kids? Do you? How is the thought of everyone getting along together?If you are attracted to him and enjoy his company, you can do whatever you wish. Remember, he was born in 1951, and you were born in 1962. When he was 21, you were 10. When he was 31, you were 20….When he was 41, you were 30.That is a significant age difference. For me, that is too old. I would go a bit younger (maybe my own age or within 5 years my junior), as I have always acted younger. I realize everyone is different. Just think about it from all angles, with “eyes wide open.”I have a friend who married a 45 year old when she was in her early 20’s. They are still married, LOL. It was her first marriage, and his third marriage. He had children who were a couple of years older than her.It is all what YOU want. Don’t listen to me or anyone else. Just listen to yourself.
Is it moral/healthy for me, a 20 year old woman, to indulge porn?
Hello, There's a battle going on for your mind. The enemy wants you to compromise what you know is wrong. Yes, while watching porn/masturbation may be a way of relieving stress and tension, you allow a seed to be sown by the enemy into your life. Like any natural seed, it eventually sprouts into a harvest. In this case you're sowing a corrupt seed, hence you will reap a corrupt fruit in some shape or fashion. Yes, if you repent and ask for forgiveness, God is merciful and will forgive you, but in this case you already know the difference between right and wrong and are choosing to disobey God. Galatians 6:7 says, " Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, this he will also reap." Also, even though you are by yourself while watching porn, remember God is always present. He's in heaven, on earth, and even in hell. He sees everything. He knows your thoughts. He knows more about you then you do. He is also truth; he knows everything about everything. Therefore, he knows the other side of porn and how it is purposely designed to corrupt you in ways you are unable to imagine. God want the very best for you. He's not holding anything back; however, we are in a spiritual war and we, as believers, have to constantly stay on guard. I don't know how your personal relationship with Christ is, but try to spend more time reading and studying the Word (even if you have to listen by audio and read along for understanding). This has helped me. I am by no means perfect and I say all of this not to condemn you in anyway, but I just to remind you of the consequences of sin and help you make the right decision. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_bc-8lIBk... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wm1LbIlmt...
Is getting married at 21 too early?
Well...... I got married at 18, hubby was 19. We have four kids and are currently trying for our 5th, and are 31/32 now...married 12 years October 10th. Do I think we were too young? hell yea Would things have been better if we would have waited? i don't know All I know is at first our marriage was not that great...it wasn't until we were about 25ish that things felt more "serious" even though we had been married for 7 years! Maturity is such a huge issue. We are lucky we made it. We did though, and NOW we have a fantastic marriage and I am so glad we stuck it out...but....wait if you can. Wait until at least 25. Things really do change that much and you never know...the divorce rate is huge. A lot of our issue though was money. I mean I was a teen mom that got kicked out and got married. His parents did the same. We lived in a car while I was pregnant, then in a really bad neighborhood in Kansas City. It was depressing and miserable which I am sure contributed to our problems. We never had affairs, domestic violence, anything like that..just immature crap. For us it was getting out of a really horrible depressing situation that the dark clouds started peeling off of our marriage. Whatever you decide....congratulations and hopes for a wonderful marriage sweetie!
There is always a right time to do a task in life.For example,Start school at the age of 5Complete education by the age of 25, so as to start earning and get settledGet married at the right timeIn your case you're already 30 given that you are not ready to take the responsibility, so let's put up a possibility scenario -Let's say you'll be ready to marry in 5 years at the age of 35And considering a late case scenario let's say you're getting arranged marriedIt will take at least a year for you finding a girlThe problem in finding one would be that you'll either get a girl not of your choice or a divorcee (not that these women are not better but I'm thinking on a general Indian mentality)You'll get married at the age of 36Let's say you'll get settled with your wife in two years, now your age is 38 yearsYou'll plan your family at the age of 39-40 (consider a round figure of age 40)So now, when your child will be in -Class 1, you'll be 45Class 5, you'll be 50Class 10, you'll be 55Graduation, you'll be 61The purpose behind this calculation is that, you'll be too old when your child will be an adult.Your child will have parents which are the age of grandparents of his generation.You might enjoy your bachelorhood till as many years as you might, but once think about the future I narrated to you if you want a future like that.Good luck with your life.
Why not? Let me put it this way: I am 52 and my husband is 73. We’re married for almost 28 years. We have two children (although when we began dating neither one of us wanted children). We get along very well, with ups and downs as in every relationship, and we still love each other a lot, have sex and have fun together. Why on the earth the reversed situation wouldn’t work?!? Anyway, everybody here assumes that a 33 years old man would want to ‘marry’ a 52 years old woman, but the question simply involves “being interested” in a 52 years old woman. That means that they might just date for a while, have a relationship of x years or marry and stay married until death do they part. I remind you the case of the renowned French writer George Sand who was romantically involved during all her life with a large number of well-known figures of her times, mostly writers, mostly some years younger than Sand. When she passed away, at 71, she was living with a much younger man who loved and took care of her until her death.So, yes, definitely, a man of 33 would feel interested in a woman of 52. And a woman of 33 would feel interested in a man of 52, too. That being said, of course everything would depend on their looks, compatibility and health, also. But this is valid for any couple, let’s face it.
We can not say that a 43 year old man can married to 26 year old woman or not because it is totally depend on the women that she wont to get married to that person or not as it is the personal choose as if u love someone the age factor does not matter as per my experiences.As my parents have 11 years age difference between them so from that i m telling that it total depends on the women that she love that person then she can and if he loves the women and women agreed with her comfortableness then a man can married a 26 year womenI know a person whose age is 45 and he got married recently to 22 year old women so nothing wrong in it as they both were in love with each other they decided to be together so as i told early in my answer it is totally depends on the men and women as they love they can get married only when both are agreed not any one of them.
Practical aspects of a 20 year age difference in marriage?
I'm 35, my husband is 20 years older. We don't ever get mistaken for father/daughter...maybe he looks young and I look old, LOL. We've been together for ten years. I admit it was hard to imagine when I was 26 what live would be like forty years later being married to an older man. But any thoughts I had on the subject were proven unrealistic. For one thing, you spend every single day with this person. As you age, so does he. You don't necessarily SEE huge physical changes. Its true that when you're fifty he'll be seventy. Whether or not you will become his caregiver is really dependant on many things, including his health and your health. I know many married couples of the same age who end up being the caregiver for a spouse. Something I did think of is the likelyhood that I could be widowed early in my marriage. Meaning I don't have the opportunity to spend the next forty or fifty years with my husband. Many women my age will still have their husbands with them, while I could be widowed. But really, what it comes down to is I absolutely adore my husband. Leaving him on the possibility that we won't have as much time together is crazy....that leaves us NO time together. We have kids together, he was a father for the first time at 48. He's very attentive to the kids and is much more settled than a younger dad might be. He does all the stories, cuddles, bathes the kids, etc., he knows what is important in life. He had a chance to live as a single guy for so long, he doesn't need to hang with his buddies instead of his kids/wife. I hope you are very happy together....age won't matter if you're truly in love.
Personally NO!1)Your partner is 25 years younger than you and he may want kids, which you won't be able to provide.2)It wouldn't look right to be walking outside together as people may think of you as a cradle snatcher.3) Massive generation gap. How can you relate to each other in terms of life experience?4) Sex is important in a relationship and you may be awesome but when your libido goes he's likely to dump you to bang someone near enough his age.If you both REALLY love each other and have an understanding on what to really expect then there's no issue for you to be in love and marry. TRUE LOVE COMES FROM THE HEART, NOT FROM MONEY.