Is it legal to have a child christened without both parents consent?
My Ex-wife had my daughter christened without my knowledge. I have good contact with my daughter and have never had any legal problems regarding consent before. Where do I stand? I am not religious at all and have always said that if my daughter decided to follow any religeon, as long as it was her choice, I would respect it. I feel it is wrong for anyone to decide someone elses religion.
Need of spiritual guidance of disipining 5 year girl?
You tell me you are becoming a Christian woman, and then that you don't believe in spanking? The Bible teaches you that you must live by the word of God, it also teaches you to "spare the rod and spoil the child" that means give the child a spanking when necessay. People are using "I don't believe in spanking my kid" too much as a cliche, to make themselves or other think better of them, reality is kids need a spaning, but the difference between doing it right and wrong is spanking them for the wrong reason. It's like when people go to court, a fine for doing something small, death for doing something very bad. If the kid deserves it, grab her and give her ONE hard smack, Ive seen parents go all out and that's just wrong. Reality is smacking is necessay, just the right amount, be responsible and do whats right, don't not do it cause you feel bad afterwards.
What is the best way to discipline a toddler without breaking their spirit?
First, try to understand their behaviour. There's usually a reason they are doing something different to what you want. But they may not be able to understand the reason themselves, much less articulate it.So second, communicate with them. Tell them what you're thinking, ask them what they're thinking, ask if you're understanding them right. Physically getting down to their level (squatting down, usually) really does help a lot.Sometimes it also helps me to remember that I don't have to pretend to be a perfectly impartial, objective participant all the time. I have to do my best to be fair, but I'm allowed to feel frustrated, and if I do, it's usually best to tell my daughter that I am.Third, negotiate. In many cases, there may be something they need to do (e.g. finish your breakfast); in some cases, you may be able to waive part of the requirements (eat your banana and you can have your toast in the car); other times, it may be a case of bribes (eat your toast and I'll give you a cookie if you're still hungry) or threats (you'll go hungry and be tired and grumpy if you don't). Just try to use bribes and threats that are reasonable, like natural consequences.Overall, remember kids are people, and people deserve respect. The goal of parenting is to have a good relationship with your grown-up kids. You can't start working on that after they've already grown up.
How vivid are your toddler’s (3-year-old child) dream?
I can speak from my heart on this. When and if a young child has a DREAM or perhaps SEES,FEELS, HEARS or even THINKS something and tells you about it, he needs to feel “heard” by you. They are so pure in spirit that they have no way of lying about the things that may seem way beyond their years. We, as parents must never ignore, dismiss or ESPECIALLY mock them. We are all spiritual beings living a human experience. Believe it or not, many children are here to TEACH.I believe in paying close attention and remain interested in anything they want you to know. I feel by doing this, we are allowing their hidden talents to eventually come through. These subtle hints are not meant to be dismissed or forgotten even if they speak of DREAMS or THINGS we don't believe in. Im assuming ANY parent would want their precious child to eventually be able to become WHO and WHAT they are here to do. Once again, it requires, us as parents to always remain TEACHABLE. I don't believe in not allowing a child to express himself and explore who they are. For this is why we/ they are here, in this moment in history, to absolutely have the freedom to eventually fulfill the purpose or intent of their existence.Personally, I think a lot more parents stand in judgement of their childs interests than what they realize.In order for our children and all the generations to come, to be successful and productive citizens of society, we must not just HEAR and ACKNOWLEDGE them, we must also ENCOURAGE them. That's when WE are the doing the TEACHING. When I say ENCOURAGE, I mean to the point of letting any of our dreams for them be set aside at least temporarily. Only to an extent. We can introduce them at different points in their lives. This is a hard pill to swallow when you are JUDGEMENTAL, such as them being GAY perhaps. Some parents have been unable to evolve with this new idea of it being acceptable now.If their dream was vivid enough for them to take the time to tell you, in my opinion, it is definitely one to be HEARD. We all know how “hectic” their little lives can get. LolI would like to say that my answer here does not include being in ACCEPTANCE of anything that may seem to come from darkness. If it happens to be disturbing, we are responsible to get them help.I wish you LOVE and ENLIGHTENMENT always. Hope this helps.
Do babies/fetus's have "gills" when they are in the womb? Some dumb kid told me that, and I don't believe him.
No, babies are not fish. Babies do not need to breathe in utero, they get their needs met thru the umbilical cord. Sometimes babies will involuntarily "swallow" amniotic fluid causing them to hiccup, but this is not due to breathing.
What attitudes do responsible parents Need and why?
One primary role is being a responsible leader. The leader does the best of everything they can. Safety and security on all levels is top priority in a loving family unit. Security...also in the way, you know you're securing a good future for your children in many ways...spirituality included. A child must see the leader "share" from their heart. Greed must be frowned upon. The child must learn the difference when a person tries to take advantage of their kindness. Children start at a young age mimicking their parent's actions. (I've seen kids pretend they're smoking) If a child sees the parent hold a job and pay debts....they remember it later and realize it will be their turn someday. If a child sees irresponsibility in a parent....they may try to slack off too and have a rough life. To correct a child, is to love a child. (best done early as compared to watching your kid in court later) It's true that laughter is the best medicine. Having fun together is free and you don't have to vacation to have a blast.
Letting children choose their own religion?
My parents did that. They also didn't try to impose their own religious beliefs on me. "Test it, make it prove itself" my parents would say, "don't be gullible and believe it because some book says so". By the time I was a teenager I was as confused as the rest of the teenagers, too much info and too much rebellion (must escape the nest!). At least by then I had sifted through most of the info and only had to work through logical testing before making my decision. Is that better? Is that worse? As a child I was less secure about the universe and my place in it and children need security. Psychological research proves it, over and over. But I would NOT exchange my childhood for one with blind faith! We can't put all children in the same boat. Some need more security, more structure. Some are spiritually adept and able to understand that everyone has different spiritual needs and different reasons for choosing their theism/atheism (aka: religion). Chose a course of action that best suits the child and don't purposely give them more than they can handle.