I fell in love with someone who doesn't love me?
I didn't want or intend to, and I wish I could forget about him, but he's still the first thing I think about every day. The pain, depression and tears just seem to go on and on. I suppose it will ease in time, as I repeatedly tell myself (and others in similar situations). I've stopped all contact with him since a couple of months ago, and am trying to get him out of my system. My mind keeps saying 'What if this, what if that? What if I'd done this or that differently? Might it have worked then?' but deep down, I know I have no choice but to try and find acceptance of the situation. I feel very stupid for having let this happen to me even though my emotions have been completely out of my control ever since I met him. I have feelings of self-hatred, and when I look at myself in the mirror, I see the lack of attractiveness that failed to win his love. I really understand the many people who say they have feelings of not wanting to go on living. I have sympathy with all the thousands of people on 'Yahoo Answers' struggling with similar situations. I read and answer other people's questions to try and distract myself from my own heartache. It's slightly therapeutic to realise I'm not the only one in a painful mess emotionally. I'm caring and genuinely like to help others, and at least I can offer advice based directly on my own experience. I carry on with my work, make an effort to socialise with nice friends which I'm incredibly grateful to have and just hope that time will heal, as they say. I suppose this isn't really a question as such, but I'd still be interested in relevant comments if people have any to offer. Thanks for taking the time to read it.
I'm crazy about someone who doesn't like me back. How do I deal with it?
Here's how I have looked at it, and it's helped me get over some broken hearts. 1) There's really only going to be one person (hopefully), that you fall in love with, get married to, have a family with (if that's what you want to do - it's what I wanted so I'll use that example). You may fall in love with other people before that, or think you are in love with someone, but remember - there's only one that will be THE ONE. (How exciting is that!!) 2) Every relationship you have before THE ONE will end (I'm talking romantic relationships, not friendships). They may be great, awesome, fun, whatever... but if it doesn't work out, and feelings aren't reciprocated, they are not THE ONE. 3) How exciting! Even though this isn't THE ONE, THE ONE is still out there! Will you meet the one tomorrow? Next week, next month, next year, ten years?? Who knows! It's so exciting to wonder and think about it! 4) The reality is, not everyone in this world is going to like you or reciprocate your feelings. THAT'S OK! You aren't going to like everyone in the world and reciprocate their feelings. That's ok too. 5) The feeling of loving someone and having someone love you back is amazing. Way better than what you are feeling now. It certainly sucks that the person you thought might be THE ONE isn't, but try to think about the fact that THE ONE is still out there. And you will get that amazing feeling of being loved in return when you find them. These things always helped me through. I knew (as you should) that I deserved to be loved back in return, and did I really want to be with someone that didn't want to be with me? Ultimately - no. Realizing that made it much easier to move on, and retain the excitement about what was to come. Any day, he could cross my path...... (and he did!). Hang in there. :)
Does love make a person crazy?
If you are asking this question then I can bet that you definitely haven’t seen the strange smile on the faces of love birds.You must have heard the hindi song “deewana saikdon mein pehchana jayega”When a person is in love,the actions which usually change are:-1)A person who could never remain awaken after 12 am at night,now he doesn’t even think of sleeping before 4 am.He keeps on smiling in a strange way while he types texts for her girl.2)A person who is never on time because he used to say that I hate waiting for anyone and waiting is so boring and sucks always,now waits for hours for the calls and texts of her girl. Soon he starts saying that “Intezaar mein jo mazaa hai woh kahin aur nahin,…..Andhere ko taaron ka intezaar hai ,taaron ko chand ka intezaari,chaand ko chandni ka intezaar hai…and all that”(translated:-The ecstasy which is there in waiting,is no where else.The darkness waits for the stars.Stars wait for the moon.Moon waits for moonlight.And all that.)3)In the vision of the world,A normal person is the one who moves slowly and in calm way while he is walking.But once you are in love,you walk dancing in such a way that anybody could doubt on you as “has he gone crazy or what?”4)A boy who does not used to go outside from his room while it is chilling night and always gave the pretending that it will catch cold if he went outside his room;after falling in love,talks with his girl on cell even without wearing a sweatshirt.5)He sees even the smallest creature closely and find something very beautiful in it.The essence of love has touched him. So,moves like crazy people,observe beautiful things and write poetry describing their beauty.6)A person who could not remember even the basic formula of the subject,now remembers each and every dialogs of her girl.7)He now repeatedly keeps on telling the words i love you ,i love you and all that.8)He tries to do something new always , so before meeting to her girl,he keeps on practicing on his room and does rehearsal on her male friends like holding their hands with a strange smile .And they all shout at him “Pee ke aaya hai ky” (translated:-”are you drunk?” )But she finally becomes succesfull in holding her girl’s hand and happiness overloaded finally.
What does crazy in love mean?
it means to be crazy, mad about someone to love someone soo much that you cant think of sth else crazy love about someone :D
If you are madly in love with someone that doesn't love you, are you better off cutting all contact?
From my experience and what i have gathered from people around me, i don’t think its a wise decision. Sooner or later you will realize that having absolutely no connection at all, hurts even more. You become eager to know what is happening in their lives, turning into a stalker, keeping an eye on their social media profile while not being in the list ofcourse. That curiosity will turn into an obsession until you make peace with it first.I was in a relationship for almost 5 years, he was my high school sweetheart. We had our ups and downs, and i knew something was not right, not the same as before. So ultimately i asked and he said he just doesn’t have any feelings left. I really had no idea what to do or say. Tried not to be in contact, made me crazy, more desperate, demanded some answers as to why?! Found myself watching his pics over and over again, wondering was i not good enough for him..! So ultimately i accepted the fact that you just cannot force somebody to love you. Its not about you not being good enough, its about that feeling called love. When the other person doesn’t share those feelings, then what is the use of even being in the relationship. It took quite a while for gathering up the courage to be in contact with someone you know will never love you back but it also made me realize that even if we were together i wouldn’t have been happy with just a compromise from his side. After almost 2 years we are on a friendly note, i don’t bring up anything neither does he. We both know whats going on in our lives, hang out with our mutual friends but yet not close enough to chat or call personally.Moreover, situations do arise when he disappoints me even now but the difference now is that that this kind of behaviour is expected from him and altogether brings me to the conclusion that maybe its for the best that we aren’t together. I think in a couple of more years i wouldn’t even be in touch with him, and have absolutely no concern for him as i get busy with my life. But that wouldn’t bother me because some people are just meant to be a chapter in your life.So in a nutshell, if you know that you are still going to stalk her/him , sob over her/him, and keep wondering what if you were still in contact, then trust me its better to jst stay in contact. Reduce the contact but atleast keep a window open.Hope it helps :)
What does truly loving someone mean to you?
I had my one true ultimate love. He died in a car accident two years ago October. What does truly loving someone mean to me? It means that when you have had a hard, bad day at work, it is all forgotten at his smile. It means never noticing when the nights out on the town give way to quiet nights curled up in his arms, watching some whatever TV show you weren't really interested in anyhow. It means I rather be standing at the kitchen sink doing dishes togeather than playing out on the sunny beach without him. It means learning to cook eggplant Parmesan, despite gagging at the site of purple veggies, just because he loves it. It means learning to agree to disagree, and kissing him just to let him know that we were still good.... even if he couldn't admit that I was right and he was wrong ;0) It means learning to sleep through his snores, and accepting that, when sick, he's a big baby. It means rolling my eyes at the puddled foot prints leading from the shower or the finger track left in the peanut butter. It means risking the pain of losing him simply because life without him, even just the memory of him is not life at all. My humble P.O.V. The Chronicler
The love of my life is dating someone else..n i'm goin crazy.. What should i do??
itz bin 2 yrs i love her.... i guess she also felt the same way till a couple of months back... i never got 2 tell her how i feel... n now itz too late.. i've rejected 3 galz till now who fell 4 me... just because i didn' wanna give up..now i am confused... what should i do??