What are some ways to make your husband's life a living hell?
1. Keep making your husband look for worthless things while accusing him of stealing them from you, like newspaper clippings, Easter seals and bulk Humane Society greeting cards. 2. Constantly accuse him of cheating on you even though you know its not true. 3. Deny him sex, even when he's tried everything to make you see he loves you. 4. Talk about how great a man his best friend is while denigrating him in front of his children. 5. Talking down to him in front of other people in public, and of course while doing this telling everyone he's inadequate while curling your pinky downward. 6. Going out for a "girls' night out" and coming back at 3 AM smelling of liquor, mens' cologne and asking him repeatedly where your panties are. 7. Act needy, as in calling him 50 times a day while he's at work, nearly getting him fired. 8. Be clingy, like to the point of nauseating him -- for instance when he gets up to go to the mens' room at a restaurant, follow him to the door and wait outside. 9. Constantly whine about how lousy your life is, and how rotten everything is; criticize everything and everyone all the time. 10. Every time he does something exactly the way you want him to, tell him he didn't do it right and he doesn't know how to treat you. And my all-time favorites: 11. Make him go to the doctor with you and get STD testing, then tell him the reason why while your both consulting with the doctor: you had sex with a bunch of guys and think you might be infected. 12. Bang your head upside a table, get a big bump, call the cops and swear he coldcocked you even though its not true. The cops will always believe you and not him.
As a 17 year old, what do I have to look forward to in life?
Find something you are passionate about and work to achieve it.I’m currently planning on moving to England to study stage makeup but in the mean time I am going to conventions and meeting people that I look up to. I just met my favorite actor in the whole world yesterday after saving up for two years to see him and it was an amazing experience!Sometimes really big plans can be stressful (Who am I kidding, they always are) to plan So It’s a good idea to try to do lots of small things that you enjoy and only focus on the large things individually. If you have friends that live near you try to hang out as much as you can! My friends all live in other states/countries so That’s not something I'm able to do but it surely would help pass the time.Getting involved in your local theatre or library can also be really fun, I’m helping with the costumes for a show this year and it really helps pass the time while doing something that helps build life skills!If you need something to look forward to you have to think about what you want to do, do you want to visit another country? If so then start saving and planning, even just that can give you motivation to make it through the days.
Are You Looking Forward to the Rest of Your Life?
actual -- this Empty-Nesting single Retiree no longer has ANY poisonous human beings around me -- i do no longer could desire to handle the Toxicity .. i do no longer could desire to be dragged down ... and that i'm SO EMBRACING the the remainder of my existence with a power now!
Have you ever felt like there is nothing to look forward to in life?
Sometimes when I was in school I would go across these phases where literally all I would do is go through a prefixed routine - walk up in morning/shit/shower/hop on the bus/lazily start my classes/smile awkwardly at this girl I fancied/hop on the bus back/play video games/go to bed. All of this involved (except that awkward attempt at a smile) absolutely no thinking on my part. I would be mindlessly following my day as a routine. I was living a pathetic existence where my desires, fun, acting on my impulses had been killed.I had nothing to look forward, no wishes, no desires, absolutely nothing with which I could define the purpose of my existence. Was it me being depressed? I don't know. But I sure as hell felt like there was absolutely nothing to look forward to in those time. I never grew a pair and asked that girl out thanks to the peskiness that is so universal in our schools. But you know what has been the biggest healer? Broadening my mind. Not about all the wonders in life, and all that- literally broadening my mind horizon. Expand your thought process and look around you. Anita Sanz is 100% correct about life moving on. Stop thinking about what you're supposed to do and start flowing wherever the river takes you. Grab a pair of shades, a life jacket to ease your floating abilities, and jump into the river and just let yourself free. Irrespective of what plans we make in this life, who we choose to love, consciously or unconsciously, what decisions we take about ourselves, none of it matters at the end of the day because we popped on this world alone, and we move on, alone. What matters, and what is in our control is to how we choose to live on the air we breathe. The end is the same for everyone, and it doesn't matter. But what matters is forgetting about things that are not going to change despite how much you think about them, and start living your life instead. You aren't going to find out what happens in the future well until the future becomes the present. Life is a journey, my friend. It has its ups and downs, whites and blacks, daylight and darkness. You're in one phase moving on to another. In the meantime you might want to occupy your mind with coming up with a logical answer to your assertion about "age not being on your side". You might find that to be somewhat of a very useful distraction.
Should I worry that I look forward to my death?
I am a woman in my 40's and have always viewed my death as comforting. My life hasn't been hunkydory but others have it allot worse so it's not about ending it all but more like ending a task. I figure if there's life after death then cool, I'm ready. If death is the end, that's cool too. You asked if it's weird to not worry that you will one day die and actually look forward to it. I can tell you from my experience when I tell people my attitude or philosophy or whatever you call it they seem a little surprised and can tell that it disturbs them a little that I'm ok with being mortal. I have no idea why people think taking 1 more breath is the ultimate goal for everyone. As long as you are alive you are better off. Seeing people in iron lungs horrified me. I had this image of a wretched creature being kept alive by this contraption. People in vegetative states or hopelessly disabled and being kept alive by artificial means isn't better than dying. I only have 2 concerns about my death. #1 I don't want to be found naked and splayed out in a ghastly pose #2 I don't want my body to be consumed by scavengers or insects. Or anything for that matter. Its dead and straight to the crematorium for me. No funeral either. I don't want anyone crying about my death. Are you weird? I don't know if you are or not I just know it feels weird to me to fear it.
Is there anything to look forward to when you get to old age?
Wow! There’s a loaded question - you seem to imply that you can’t imagine anything in the world would be of interest once you get old! Well, I hate to disabuse you but, whatever age you are, there is always something to look forward to, even if it’s only tomorrow!I can understand if you are ill and in constant pain the future doesn’t hold many thrills but, providing you can still get about and, most importantly, have your mind, then the future remains exciting.Family - and watching the younger generations grow older; friends - either knowing them for years and sharing interests with them or making new ones, with the pleasure of finding out more about what makes them tick.Learning something new - whether that be just facts about things in which you are interested or actually trying out new hobbies. If you have one, taking pleasure in your garden (yard), watching the plants grow through the seasons. Christmas, with its build up to the festivities - the decorations, the lights, the meaning of that time of year and, hopefully, spending time with those you love.And travel - whether to foreign lands or just within the confines of your own. Even travelling alone - aged 70, I spent 10 weeks in Australia and New Zealand, a lot of that visiting family and friends but often on my own, discovering new things not only about the countries I was in but also about myself. I hope to make several trips overseas in the coming year though destinations not yet decided.If you open your eyes - and actually see with them - you will understand that old age is not a death sentence for the mind or the body. Yes, eventually you will die - but you could die when young, too - and no-one I know ever thinks of dying, just about enjoying the life that they have and making the most of it.Believe me, at any age, there is a lot to look forward to.
When life is empty, What do you look to?
Life feels empty when we have no purpose, object or person to get attached to..... we need to anchor on something or someone. In my own case, when there are such moments of feeling empty, I just go out and pick up a conversation with any stranger..... I have observed that interaction, no matter what, with another person, whoever be it, brings up some thoughts and ideas in the mind so that the feeling of emptiness just vanishes. Nothing to do at all gets substituted by whatever something to do through those ideas or thoughts that have cropped up in the mind through the conversation. Getting into the internet or reading a book also can have similar impact. One line answer to your question is that when life is empty, we need to look to anchor it on something or someone.
When have you truly “made it” in life?
The time I started my phase of minimalism. That very moment I felt the change. Running behind Money & possessions are pure waste of this precious life. We should maintain happiness.I was hooked into this fancy word called Minimalism a few years ago. Back then my interest was to reduce expenses & get rid of big stuff occupying the most space. Now I have made it a way of lifeI had a big house with lots of items. The constant urge to add more furniture, chairs, mini tables, round sofas. It was unquestionably a great deal by then. I was not satisfied with so many items at my disposal.It was DISTRACTION nothing else. To bring back the balance to needs & wants. I made it a goal to reduce.Minimalism has immense benefits to us, our society & economy as a whole.1. Our life consists of a number of days, One day or someday those days will expire. So why hunt for more possession?The cars, gadgets, homes we all want to have will one day be not anymore same as us. We should take care of our precious moments as they are gone in split seconds. Minimalism doesn't push us back to the stone age it just simplifies Living to the most important.2. Minimalism is the key to save our future. The SMS, emails, advertisements, billboards all are flashed for one simple reason to keep us pushing to buy more. Forcing us to stay with the trend & be updated with all the latest fads. Minimalism indicates an unobstructed view of what really matters.3. Our homes occupy more space than required. We prefer having more rooms with a garage for many cars. The vacant space we consider to fill with countless items which are not essential.Lesser items grant us more time, more freedom, less clutter, less cleaning. Do I need to say more?5. Change is imminent. Things come & go. In next 10 years, we might change careers, spouses may be, go for a great vacation, Earning more money. Yet our habits might remain same if we don't take control. The habits we break today for good will keep our future bright.Slow down with Minimalism its mostly about finding out the primary thing that exactly matters in your life & family. We live differently & we can adjust our needs according to the life we desire.Take Control of it as a Minimalist.MESSA
What should I do when he tells 'you make my life hell'?
I believe this question pertains to a husband-wife relationship where the wife is at the receiving end - emotionally.I would rather keep up the following, not by words, but by actions :1.keep quiet and not argue on any point.2.show that I care and love my husband.3.That I am fully dedicated to him and him only.Girls (excuse - my strategy for you is to loose a battle and win the war). See, someone has to go down in a conflict. Man has to keep his ego up. Let him be happy with that. You have seen how stone kept in a temple is idolized. In real sense, it is we who make it come to life and then all of our desires are fulfilled by it. Same is the case here. Idolize your husband. He will be bound to do everything for you. The better the idolization, greater the benefits. This is one angle to look at things.The other is that by being harmonious, sanctity and spirit of the house is maintained. Even if he does not like you, he will begin to after sometime. And once he actually starts loving you, then where does any problem remain. Then you are his queen.Another angle is that if he is being so childish (remember : the learned maintain that a man remains a child for life and a woman is a born mother for life), the understand him like you would understand a child and tackle him accordingly. Surely you will succeed and lead a better life.Also : specially for ladies : that it is a fixed rule “ loose the first hour of the day and stand to win rest of the 23 “ this proverb holds good for life and wife.Not to miss the cutting line : it all depends on situation to situation and person to person. However, most of the time and in most of the situations, suggestions as above work and work well.
Do you regret mistakes you have made in your life?
Some of them I do. Many of them I did for a brief period, but have long ago gotten over. If I learned a valuable life lesson, it probably wasn't necessarily a mistake.