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What Do You Think About These Statistics Regarding Children Who Grow Up Without A Fathet

How many black children grow up without fathers, and cause?

"70 percent of African American children are born to unmarried mothers, and [...] at least 80 percent of all African American children can now expect to spend at least a significant part of their childhood years living apart from their fathers (p. 4)."

"Shifting occupational structures (from manufacturing to services), stagnating real wages, and the declining relative demand for low-skilled labor undermined the economic status of many Black men. Welfare policies that focused on helping mothers and children, to the exclusion of fathers, had the practical effect of keeping or driving men out of the home and away from children. Housing discrimination that facilitated the movement of whites out of the cities while hampering the mobility of African Americans, the increasing suburbanization of employment, inadequate urban school systems, and the growing incarceration of Black men, fueled in large measure by the war on drugs, also played crucial roles in undercutting opportunities for many Black men (p. 12)."

"FOR AFRICAN American men, moreover, the effects of these global trends are exacerbated by a series of racially specific historical events that began with slavery and include the legacies of slavery, as well as the racism and economic discrimination that are an intrinsic part of American society and the African American experience.

"THE LEGACY of slavery is tragically relevant to the issue of Black fatherhood, for the conditions of slavery in the United States provided exactly the opposite of what is required in order to preserve the fragile bond between father and child. By law, the male slave could fulfill none of the duties of husband and father. The institution of slavery created a subculture where all the societal norms, mores, expectations, and laws, instead of helping to connect men to their offspring, forcibly severed the bonds between fathers and their children (p. 10)."

Is it fair to the children of lesbians to grow up without a father?

Personally I feel very strongly about "traditional" families and I feel that a man and woman should marry only if they're actually going to work hard enough to mean it and stay together "until death do us part" and I think that a child needs good strong loving parents to raise them....

However, all that being said, I really can't see, despite my conservative tendencies, how someone's sexuality has a bearing in how they parent.

I don't see how my sexuality or what I like and don't like plays any role at all in how I parent my own child.

So if lesbians/gays want to raise a child together...I really don't see how their sexual preferences could keep them from being successful at it.

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But that's such a generalization...it's true that each "gender" is different...but have you not noticed that every PERSON is different??

I have met some women that are more manly than my 6foot2 trucker husband.

And I have gay friends that are more effeminate than I am.

So if you're talking about "gender" as in lets all drop our pants and see what they're packing...then ya I guess you're right...

But If your talking about personality traits that are used to stereotype gender...when that's just it...they're just stereotypes and it doesn't mean they DEFINE the gender.

I'll give that it's probably not the most balanced situation, and there will always be topics about the opposite sex that a homosexual couple may not be able to fully address...but that doesn't mean that they're doing any worse than a hetero couple.

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Oh Lord T&C don't even get me started on "Nadia BabyFactory Sulemon" - She's a real winner...

Did you see her three year old back hand her like a pimp and repeatedly call her a Bee-itch yesterday on her documentary?

I watched three minutes and got sick to my stomach.
Those poor kids are doomed.

Does growing up without a father figure affect a child?

I worked in a juvenile detention center for a few years, and one of the best indicators for future delinquent behavior in males was the level of involvement of a positive male role model.
90% of the youth we had in our custody had an incarcerated father, an uninvolved father, a weak/abusive father or a "mom's boyfriend" in their lives.
Is this the case in every family - absolutely not, but recent statistics overwhelmingly show the adverse effects of not having an involved, positive, male role model in the lives of children - male and females.
Boys tend to be more aggressive in the absence of male role models.
Girls sometimes - SOMETIMES - act out promiscuously in the absence of a positive male role model.
There are anomalies to any statistic and this is no different.
These situations can be balanced by a (trusted) more involved family member - brother, uncle, grandpa, etc.
My brother and I grew up without a father figure. I became very timid and introspective.
My brother was very aggressive.
We both grew up with our own individual quirks, so again each child may react differently.
The best thing? Provide lots and lots of love and patience.

How can growing up without a father figure damage a girl?

It is known to lead to promiscuity. Women and (pubescent girls) seek affection from men through sex since that is how men are wired to give affection. No news here if you have read anything about the sexes. From personal, painful experience I know this to be true. My father was not one in the true sense, and unfortunately we moved around too much for me to bond with an adult male role model. If a young girl does not have healthy male influence, the need for a man's validation will be so overwhelming by the time she is sexually mature, it will override good judgement.

Note that the asker did not say "father", but "father FIGURE". Not all paternal fathers are good for their children. It is important however, that a girl has at least one reliable, trustworthy older male in her life to fill the role to some degree. She needs to be groomed to make the right decisions about men in her future.

Perhaps looking for someone from a local house of faith who would be willing to donate their time in this role would be a start.

Statistics show that an abused child has a tendency to be an abusive adult/parent?

I think it definitely can be a cycle. Therapy is necessary in order to break any cycle. However, there are two different types of people (in general) that abuse spawns. One is an aggressor and the other is passive. Both types need therapy. In circumstances where it isn't possible to get the whole family therapy, hopefully the children and who they grow up to be will see the necessity of therapy.

And speaking of therapy, I think it's better now than when I was a kid. When we went as a family, there was never any time where the parents and children were separated. So it was impossible to ever tell the truth without fearing the consequences. It was a completely worthless use of time, and eventually it ended without the counselor ever making any real progress. When I grew up a bit more, I felt bad for her, because she had some clues but no real definite evidence of what was happening. But I mostly felt angry for how it all went down.

What are the longterm effect on children who grow up in bad homes?

I'm wondering, what happens to children who grow up in bad homes:
*homes with alcohol abuse
*physical or emotional abuse.
*Homes where one/both parents has a medical condition - e.g depression
*Children who grow up in "poor" families (Not POOR, but families who would be categorised as poor, *families where the parents may not work)
*Children of parents who aren't euducated or unemployed ( I know this isn't really a "bad home," but I'd like to know this one aswell.)

Please list the effects of the children in the following order. If you don't know all of them, please just answer what you know. It would be great if you could involve statistics. I'm wondering how a person turns out when he/she grows up in a family like this. E.g does a lot of children from violent homes become violent or victims of violence? Or are children of alcoholics more likely to become addicts aswell? Things like that, as much info as possible! Thank you :)

Why are 70% of black babies born without a father around?

The article actually says 70 percent of black babies are born out of wedlock.
Wedlock doesn't mean the father isn't around, it just means that he's not married to the mother. Babies being born out of wedlock is a problem that effects many races of people. The real question is, why are blacks scrutinized so much? Try this, go to google and try to find out how many white babies are born out of wedlock. It's not that easy to get the info. Does this mean whites don't have babies out of wedlock? Then google" how many whites in prison" then do " how many blacks in prison". You'll notice that various info is on the first page for whites. As for blacks, the first ten links will give you statistics directly related to the phrase how many blacks in prison. Anyway, I am black and please don't get me wrong, I'm not singing the
black man oppressed song. I hate when people go on and on about that sh!t. Do I believe racism exists? yes. Have I ever been called ******? yes.
Have I ever been discriminated against ? Yes. Who said life is fair?