How do I tell my boyfriend I wanna break up via text?
Okay I know breaking up through text is horrible but I have a long distance relationship and so having him drive here to get broken up with would be worse and through phone would mean I have to hear his disappointment. I've already broken it off once and got back with him a week later but knew I shouldn't have.... Honestly,he is the best boyfriend anyone could ask for and some girl is going to be so lucky because he is just so perfect..he's just not perfect for me. I like him but more as a friend and even though I like him a little more than that it couldn't work because he is SO smart but REALLY logical/presice about everything and it drives me insane and also he is ready to settle down and I'm not. I don't want to hurt him but I know there is someone better out there for him. How do I bring this up in a nice way?
"I hope you're doing well." What does this text from my ex-gf mean?
Congratulations on maintaining the no contact rule for a full 7 weeks. You should celebrate that landmark. That is amazingly courageous.So, why did she reach out?It’s what she didn’t say, that is of more interest and I’m basing this on a situation that I was in when my ex reached out to me (which may not be your situation at all).He wanted to know if I was seeing anybody but, he didn’t want to come out and actually ask me that question.Why did he want to know? Because he wanted to keep me at an arm’s length, in case he changed his mind and wanted to take me back.What made him think I would want to go back with him? His ego.What did I do? I moved towns. I made sure that door was slammed so damn tight.It’s called a breakup because it’s broken and if someone can walk away from you, they weren’t worth having a relationship with in the first place.Stay strong. You have amazing strength and courage. You’ve shown that by not having contact for seven weeks. Don’t stop there.If you must reply to the text, write something simple and generic like, “thanks”.Do not offer any information and do not reply with a question.
My girlfriend broke up with me through text. What does that mean?
It means it’s done, over.Now the longer version.When she replied, she doesn’t give a fuck. She’s had enough of the bullshit. She’s had enough of the games. She’s had enough of young immature boys. She doesn’t want all this drama anymore.She replied to you in a “fuck you” kind of way. It was sarcasm. She wasn’t apologising but really telling you to get lost. It was a fuck you kind of reply.Here it is..“I’m so sorry I’ve been so awful (here it comes >>) I hope you find someone better, that’s not bad as me. I’m obviously irritating you…..I think you deserve a better person than me…”That’s not an apology,That’s a - bye, bye, fuck you then. Go and find someone better. I am done with you!What did you expect?When you tell someone you care about what is wrong with them, what is the state of mind you moved them to?When you tell someone they make you feel shit what state of mind do you move them to?When you tell someone in words, texting for crying out loud, that you cannot handle her…. what state of mind do you move someone to?When you continue to say nothing but negativity after negativity, after negativity…what state of mind you move them to?When you behave immature, telling someone you’re not going to be there because you not wanted, knowing full well what you are REALLY saying, what state of mind do you move someone to?You move her to your state of mind that felts helpless, frustrated, negative, low self esteem, shit and she’s had enough of it all. This has probably been going on for a while..Every word on there you sent is like you pulling down every brick, pebble and mortar of any attaction and feeling that she had left for you.It’s done. Over. Move on.That’s what it means.
If I can't break up with someone in person, would it be okay to text them?
It is perfectly ok to text someone to break up with them. Providing, of course, that every other method of breaking up with them is not possible.And by “not possible”, I mean absolutely not possible, not just “inconvenient”.If there isn’t a good time when you see him, that says that face-to-face communication is possible. So you need to get him to create a time where you can talk to him face-to-face, or you need to create the time to do it, depending on why the meetings are not a “good time” (perhaps you or he is working, has family commitments, etc.)There needs to be absolute ways that prevent each action being taken. If you can not see them face-to-face, you can not speak with them over the phone, you can not write to them and you can not email them, you can text them. Then and only then would that be acceptable.My girlfriend broke up with me by letter. At the time, I was in prison.She couldn’t visit me. She lived over a thousand miles away from me. Getting to see me would be very difficult.She couldn’t call me. I did not have her number, nor (until she wrote to me) did I have a contact address to ask for one.She couldn’t text me. I was in prison - mobile phones were banned.She couldn’t email me or Skype me. I was in prison - personal computers connected to the internet were banned.The only method she could use to contact me was writing to me. Which she did. We sent half a dozen letters back and forth and she broke up with me in one letter. That was it.You have not had physical contact for months, but having that contact is not impossible. You haven’t sent emails or text messages, but that you are considering text messages as a way to break up with him shows that both are possible. Phone calls, too. The only thing preventing face-to-face contact is inconvenience and your social anxiety. However, there are ways to ensure that you have a breakup that is face-to-face without igniting your anxieties.Unlike my situation, you have a lot of methods of communication open to you. Text message is a last resort, as far as I am concerned.
How do you break up with a guy over text message?
nice way: I no longer can be in this relationship. I have some things I have to deal with myself and I cannot maintain a relationship too. I am sorry if I hurt you. not so nice way but much more effective: I want to break up with you.
What does it mean if a guy says ily instead of i love you?
he says "i love you" when we're face to face but in text he says ily... he used to say i love you sometimes but now he says "ily" more...when he texts he uses "u, ur, r, etc." we've been dating for 4 months now... but now he uses "ly" a lot!! i'm so confused:'/ and "ily2" or "ly2"... but i should add that we have been arguing a lot.. like twice a day.
Should I send my ex boyfriend this text message?
We've been broken up for 2 months now. He dumped me. He moved on within 2 weeks to a new girl. I tried to get back together w/ him, with no success. I professed my love and begged in tears and humiliated myself beyond reason while he was already secretly dating someone else. Yes, I'm hurt and I was angry for a while. But I'm not one to hold grudges. Never have and never will. I'm friends or at least on good terms with all of my exes and I'd like to at least be civil w/ my most recent ex. I know there's no point in dwelling on the past. I know that sometimes the person you want the most is the person you are better off without and what matters most is how well you walk through the fire. I gave it my best try but now I gotta say goodbye. We've been no contact for almost 3 weeks now ever since I stopped texting him. Anyways, his new girlfriend saw some of my old texts to him when I was still trying to win him back and she got very mad at him. She told me to "back the **** off". I don't want her to think I'm still pursuing him, because I'm not anymore. I just want to wish him the best and hope we can still be friends in the future. Should I send my ex boyfriend this text message? "Hey. There are so many things I want to tell you. I wish you still enjoyed talking with me. Damn. What happened to us. All bullshit aside, I’m happy that you’re happy. I still can’t believe you found someone new. But I can't complain. Life's better than it’s ever been for me. And so, I wish you the best. Hope everything works out for you, homie."