Who do I consider a friend?
I was in a bad place about two and a half years ago (my fiancee blindsided me by moving out and ending our relationship a few months before our wedding day). It was then my real friends stepped forward. One friend knew that I needed to stay with him for about three days so we could play Battlefield 3 for hours on end and get wasted. His girlfriend (and another close friend of mine) knew that I needed to talk about my emotional turmoil until 3am and she listened with great empathy. The friends I chose as my groomsmen came down to where I lived and we had a bachelor’s party for me - without the totally unnecessary wedding.Months went by, and I was handling myself in predictable ways - somewhat self-destructive and directionless, but nonetheless functional. My roommate was patiently listening to my complaints about not being satisfied and possibly needing to see a doctor about adult-onset ADHD and he stopped me.Him - “Why do you think you need a pill for your dissatisfaction with your life?”Me - “Because I can’t focus.”Him - “Maybe you should ask yourself if you’re doing what you really think will make you happy”Me - “…”Him - “I’m not saying you don’t need Adderall or something. I’m just saying maybe take a look at your behavior and ask yourself why am I doing these things? Why am I behaving this way? Why am I dissatisfied? Maybe there’s a good reason to be dissatisfied.”I never forgot what he told me. I the intervening years, I refocused my life on things that kept me busy, kept me just dissatisfied enough to keep working and searching for more, and kept me challenged.Friends have a good sense on what you need. Some of my friends knew I needed them close. Some knew I needed distraction. My roommate knew to challenge me. It’s important that your friends know you and really want to care for you. My closest friends have gone from being drinking buddies to people who have my back and will protect me - even from myself.
What is a true friend?
A best friend is someone who’ll listen to your mistakes and accept them. It is someone who you can trust.Being best friends is not something you can just explain. A best friend is someone you feel comfortable being 100% yourself around. It's also a person who accept your flaws and whom you can speak about your problems with.According to Dr. Klein and a Harvard study, you live longer with friends.Contrary to popular belief, your best friend doesn't have to be with you 24/7 or think and act just like you.Truly, a best friend can be the exact opposite of you, and this usually leads to fights and difficulties getting along, but somehow you still just love them to death anyway.Your best friend is the one person who could not speak to you for any amount of time but you still think of them just the same. Someone who, despite all the changes a person goes through in their life, will stick by you and always accept you for who you are.A person who will always tell you what you NEED to hear, even if its not necessarily what you WANT to hear. A person who can make you laugh even on your bad days, and who makes all the problems in life seem easy to overcome, as long as you have them by your side.A best friend can be many things, your inspiration, your hero; best friends help each other to become better people by using honest, constructive criticism that sometimes hurts to hear, but is all for the best in the end.Bestfriends are the ones that bring up touchy topics with you, even if it will risk you being angry w/ them because they care more about your well being. Your best friend is the one who you could piss off so badly, but in your time of need they'll will still be there for you.A best friend is someone who you have shared good AND bad memories with, but you just can't help but cherish each of them; a TRUE best friend is hard to come by, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget.
I have no true friends?
Trust me when I say this, it isn't you being sensitive but in fact, you're being observant of the people around you. These so called "besties" aren't your true friends and as such, you'd only find them interacting with you in their times of need or when they have nothing better to do. Also, the kindest and most helpful people are often take advantage of and as such, you shouldn't make it a habit of helping them all the time when they can do things on their own or didn't do in the first place (like homework). As for the friends who hang out with the popular girls in preference to you, it happens to alot of people. Sometimes there are people who just seem to attract others to them usually through their personality or some characteristics that they have that people enjoy being around them. Or your friends could just sucking up to the popular people to boost their own personal social status. People will always judge you whether you're a good or bad person and sometimes even the closest of friends can grow apart over time. Also, a true, genuine friend is hard to find but they make up for all the bad friendships you've had or will have. Just remember to be open to meet new people but at the same time, try to not let yourself be used. Keep the faith that it will happen and that true friend will be more than worth it. Bless
What is considered a "social outcast"? I'm pretty sure my friends and I are, but I need some verification?
I mean I sort of consider myself a social outcast. I have a reasonably sized group of friends - maybe 10 or so guys. We hang out at school, but outside of school we all mainly just stay at home doing nothing since we're all lazy, or we all chill at 1 of our houses playing poker, basketball, video games, watching movies, or whatever we feel like. On a more loser-ish note, none of us attend any parties - we don't like to drink, smoke, or do anything overly idiotic. Half of us are intelligent, half of us are slackers. None of us have girlfriends, and have pretty much never had one. Most of us don't even care to have one. On a social scale, in terms of gender and class, our group of guys is equivalent to the wannabes of the girl group. Except we're looked more down upon since none of us even attempt to fit in with them since we really couldn't care less. What do you consider a social outcast? And would you agree that we are social outcasts?
Why are the Poriferans considered Parazoans and not true Metazoans?
because they don't form tissues and complex cell organizations and specializations classmate. :) Well a metazoan, but not a true one. Ambiguous.