Seeing my friend after a long time?
So, my best friend from 5th grade just got FB, and invited me to her house for a sleepover. We're going to be the only ones, and I'm worried it might be awkward, since we have grown up so much. Any tips or ideas on how to lesson the awkwardness?
Would you avoid your friend if you are meeting her after a long time?
Alright, so everyone is different on this, but I am just going to say how I feel. I am a very socially awkward and shy person, which makes it hard for me to fit in sometimes and meet up with friends or even make friends.When I was in eighth grade, my mom was contacted by one of my old friends from first and second grade. When we were little, we were best friends, and spent most of our time together. I eventually moved schools, and yeah I missed my friend, but I got over it and just did my own thing. When my mom told me in eigth grade that my friend wanted to see me again, I didn’t know what to say. I though it was a bit sudden. I told my mom that i didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but I knew it was going to be weird meeting up with my old friend. She made arrangements for me anyway( I was to shy to contact my friend myself) , and my friend came over to my house. I remember hiding in my room for the first twenty minutes, holding my door closed as I listened to the conversations goin on outside. My parents made me come out, and the whole visit was just so awkward, and I knew it would be. I stayed quiet the whole time, even though I already am quiet, It was like awkward silence, as my friend tried to ask questions. This is just my personal experience. I was never good at being social, and I never will be. That was the last time we met up, and I honestly don’t feel anything about it. I wasn’t trying to ignore or get rid of anyone. So yes I would avoid meeting up with an old friend.
How do I let go of a longtime close friend?
I'm actually going through something similar and it's also happened to me once before. Both friends in question are male and I met both after I got married and they get along really well with my husband. And both times, it was after they got married that our friendships really changed. I don't think it's my fault because I make sure to never flirt with them or misbehave in any inappropriate manner with or without their wives around. I'm hardly a threat either (I'm average looking, pretty big sized and I never wear make up). Long story short, I'm no longer friends with one and the other seems to be hanging on by a thread. I've always had a hard time making new friends so I'm always devastated to lose the ones I already have but I also know that sometimes, it's better to let go than to hang onto someone who isn't sure whether or not to be part of your life. Especially in your case where the wife is jealous of you (I'm assuming you're female), I'd advise you to let the friendship go. You don't want to be the reason there is any rife between them and so it's better to get yourself out of the equation/ situation before you get accused of the same. Don't expect or hope anything out of it but just completely stay away. It may hurt but sometimes letting go of a friend whom you're not sure is going to be there for you tomorrow is better than hanging on to him.
How do I deal with a long time friend who uses me for money, without losing the friendship?
I have a friend who is constantly using me for money, wanting me to buy her things whether it be makeup, food, clothes, and other things. Even if I don't say yes, she'll look at me and grab them anyways and put me in a position where I feel like I have to pay. She rarely ever gets me anything in return, and only really ever takes. I've known her for 20 years, and don't want to give up this friendship. I'm afraid if I stop treating her, she'll drop me completely.
I'll be going out with a friend after a really long time of not hanging out with someone. What should I do to control my social anxiety?
My husband left me last year and my life as I knew it ended. Last weekend I went out to enjoy an evening with a good friend and like you, I was very anxious. I remember stabbing the mascara brush straight into my eyes because my hands were shaking so much - I was so out of practice.We booked a night at a high end local hotel where I knew the operations team quite well. My husband is C.O.O. of the hospitality company that owns it and it is it seen as a flagship example of excellence locally.I wore a brand new skirt and top that I had purchased at Target earlier in the week. The clothes were amongst a number of things that I should have unpacked from the back and put away - but I had not done this so I picked them out of the big Target Shopping bag.I arrived in style and was thrilled when the valet Clifton, remembered my nickname, Mrs. Cheese even though I was not still married to ‘the big cheese’. I noticed a number of Washington Wizard players in the lobby area - how exciting. My friend found me quite easily and I gave her a hug.I felt something swish past my knees and froze when I realized in absolute horror that skirt had literally fallen straight to the ground from my waist. My top did not not cover the purple panties and less than firm waist but I simply could understand why this had happened. It fitted fine although I realized I should have have bought a size smaller.I found a chair - quickly. My friend picked up the skirt to see if something had happened to the waistband. Instead I saw some more material unravel from within the skirt and I will never forget the words she said next…“Claire, this isn’t a skirt at all; it’s actually a top.”What I thought were the loops that were sewn in for ease of hanging, were infact shoulder straps. It all seemed rather obvious when I took the time to unfold it so that the ‘top’ did not fall into the skirt and even tried it on.I remember laughing with my friend so much that my stomach muscles hurt. I managed to get to our room to borrow a pair of trousers as I was 2 - 0 in favor of tops. Having realized that things could only go up from here, I thought I might as well relax and this contributed greatly to a memorable and laughter filled evening.
What does "longtime friends" mean?
Being friends for a long, long time.
Is it awkward to hang out with a friend you haven't seen in a long time?
It'll be fine. Bring up memories, ask questions like, "So what have you been up to lately?" and "Are you still into-?" I've been in the same situation with my ex best friend, at first there wasn't much to talk about but one of us started talking and we picked up our friendship from where we left it. You can talk about clothes, boy relationship status, (your friend isn't a boy is he/she?) how good the food tastes, (or how bad) your family life, whats up with school, what's up with her school, other people you both know. Have a sharp brain and ask ask ask lots of questions, that gets people talking unless they don't corporate (which shouldn't happen with you if you use to be bests). Hope I helped! ;) answer my last question if you have the time.