How do you tell your mother-in-law to stop buying junk presents for your child?
I agree with you. I had 2 experiences, my grandma and my mother in law. My grandma used to buy me and my sis toys in liquidation (broken and with missing parts). And to my cousins very expensive toys. I was really poor, but I did complain about it. I saw the difference in the way she treated me and my sis. I stopped reciving them at the age of 10, I told my father that if she gave another junk toy, I will burn it, and she did gave me a doll house (empty and with the box broken) I accepted it, but when I went to the store with my mother, I went to the toys section, and saw the same house in liquidation, and with dolls and furniture!!!. I was so pissed off that I threw the house to my neightboors (my aunt ;-) ). My other story is my mother in law. we dont speak with her now for personal reasons, but after the problem, we had plans to get married, so she wanted to get involved, so i let her. She went to this store (one inside a flea market) and she got this bath tissue box made of fabric (it was pretty, but only to its purpose) and she told me that she had plan to put some cotton inside, sewing the fabric, and tada! That "thing" was my "wedding ring pillow!!! She is nuts. Just tell her to stop buying junk, and first : is not fair for your child, bcz the quality you buy something means the love you have to that person. If you dont love the person, you will buy junk,, if u do, u will buy the best u can buy. and second, tell her that her gifts arent appropiate, that your child could get hurt. Talk with your husband about the situation, and u arent selfish, you just want the best for your child, and i can understand that. Your mother in law can buy new cheap toys too, but plz, dirty? broken? used? No way. If your husband dont lisent to u, just hide them for some time, and if your husband ask for them show him the toys, after sometime he will forget about them and u can throw them away if you want. and plz dont donate them, dont give others what u dont want for your own child, donate toys in a good condition, never donate broken/dirty toys. Hope this help, wish u luck
How do you deal with your mother-in-law living with you?
When I saw top answers, I wanna laugh! You people are so naive!It all depends on what a person your mother-in-law is. If she treats you like a daughter with love, there will be no problem whatsoever! But if she sees you like an enemy who took her son, she still hate you and will continue picking on you no matter how perfect you do. My mother-in-law wants me to do everything, literally everything! All housework: heavy and light, cooking, cleaning, washing dishes, doing laundry, taking care of baby and I have a full time job! Whenever my husband helps, she gets mad. She will find ways to not let her son do it and make me do it. For the first few years, I cared about how she sees me and tried my best to be the perfect one, doing everything EVEN when I was recovering from giving birth. BTW, she fought us so bad and I had to move back to my own parent’s house because my husband helped me clean dishes and do laundry when I was taking care of a new born infant and recovering from giving birth!I used to care so much, keep the house clean, take good care of babies, make good tasty separated meals for babies and family, keep everything organized, etc. But every time I said things (like keep the door close so toddlers won’t walk out of the house, babies should wear seatbelt when they are on high chair), she took it all personally against her, and yelled at me like a crazy woman.You know what, she pushed it too far!!! And now I don’t care. I don’t care how she sees me, how dirty the house gets, how unorganized things are, I am sick to be the prefect one… I AM JUST NOT DOING ANYTHING! Whenever she comes to ask me for things, I say I don’t know…. and I just stay in my room to read my books like a selfish bi*ch…. She turned me into a heartless person. Cus I don’t give an eff! And I feel so relief when I just don’t care any more! I think that’s why people are selfish!
How do you deal with a nosy mother-in-law?
talk to your BF. tell him what you think. if he truly loves you he will do anything to make HIS family hapy. otherwise i am sorry to say there is NO HELP AT ALL with mother in laws. they are a b***h! let him know where you stand and that if he doenst help make this better fro you, then you and his baby girl may have to be on your way with out him.
My 14 mo old daughter has roseola or baby measles. mom in law does not allow my baby to take formula for 1 mo?
If the doctor says its fine to give baby formula...then do that. Your MIL needs to respect your decisions...after all YOU are the mother, NOT her. If she cannot respect that...have a chit-chat with your husband and tell him how you feel. She is putting your daughter's health in jeopardy. I hope this helps!
What are some gift ideas for Indian Mother in Law?
In most of the cases Indian mothers in law like to be treated equal to their daughters in law.I’ve gifted many things to my mil and she liked them. If I get something for myself I get a similar thing for her as well.Recently she mentioned that she needs lipsticks, I keep an eye on such requests and demands, and of course I know what shades she usually wears so, I got her 2 of her choice.I’ve bought sarees for her, in winters I get shawls and fancy sweaters.If the budget and occasion allows you may also get her gold earrings or rings or a chain.You may also get her a solid silver cow or pooja vessels ( deepak, thali etc)Gifting her holy books (Geeta or Ramayan in my case) is also a good option.
Do you have a good mother in law?
Until her death at age 86, I had an excellent mother-in-law.Shortly before I became engaged to her son, my own mother died, leaving me homeless and without parents (my father had left our family years before). She promptly stepped in to fill that void, treating me as a daughter long before I legally became one by marriage.Throughout the next 39 years, we got along great. We shopped together, vented together about everyday annoyances, and she was a major presence in the lives of our children, as well as those of her other grandchildren.Some years ago, she showed up in the ER where I work with serious abdominal pain. It was discovered that she had a bowel obstruction, and, among other things, the doctor ordered a nasogastric tube inserted to decompress her system. As anyone who’s ever had one of these tubes knows, it isn’t particularly pleasant to have it inserted, since it must be passed down through the nose, past the throat, down the esophagus and into the stomach, while the patient is awake. Usually this task is performed by two nurses, one to pass the tube down and the other to support the patient and check the tube’s placement afterward.The ER was very busy at that point, and her assigned nurse was having trouble finding anyone to help him. I immediately offered to help, and, since I was employed there anyway, he promptly agreed to my offer.As I helped position my mother-in-law’s head for the insertion, I jokingly said to her, “Aren’t you glad now that you were always a nice mother in law to me?”She laughed, and the tube insertion went well, with minimal discomfort. Which was more or less typical of our long, warm relationship as family by marriage.
Why would a mother-in-law be jealous of her daughter-in-law? Why does she feels insecure? How can she overcome it?
There can be many reasons for it -son’s attention shifts to his family as it is in expanding phase.jealousy appears if the daughter in law is talented and has an appealing personality for which she is adored by people in family.fuel is added when relatives admire and love daughter in law.Furthermore, if the husband is loving and caring then the case is more severe.Often seen that narc mother in law loves seeing people in pain and confused and thereby seeking an opportunity to create and enjoy the misunderstanding that occurs against daughter in law amongst other family members. So she becomes the gossip amongst the family.The biggest reason of being insecure is feeling of possession for the son. A loving mother will always be happy and content to see her son's happiness and contentment in a relationship but for a narc since they regard their children as an asset and feel they possess them.therefore,things become harsh and twisted when they see son having sympathy, love and affection towards his wife. Such mothers are happy when either their daughter in law or son keep complaining about the partner, as she gets to pacify and potray her fake concern.For a narc divide and rule is the best policy as their role remains important, in such cases when people come and complain about their marriage her inflated ego gets pumped up.As far as overcoming is concerned it's difficult and impossible and at the age which they have reached their personality can not be changed. We often see a mother in law trying to overpower and control daughter in law as it gives her satisfaction and sense of authority especially if you have a narcissist one.All you can do is ignore her attempts to degrade you and try that she doesn't get an opportunity to create nuisance between you and your husband as due to years of practice narc often play a role of a convincing victim and tainting you as an abuser.Dealing with a narc requires a calm and composed mind as they are insensitive and excellent in acting, which may often leave you feeling bewildered and confused for your own capacities and esteem. Therefore the best way is to focus on what you do, not what is said to you or about you.
What are some gift ideas for my mother in law?
You can always play goofy with your mother but with mom-in-laws, you need to step up your gifting game. There is no need of any special occasion to express your gratitude for her. Whether your mother-in-law prefers some pampering products like perfumes and candles, or like to be surprised with some super cute accessories for home decor there are so many things that can make your relationship stronger with her. A custom gift box with all her favorite things including a photo framed coffee mug and a beautiful flower bouquet is also a good gift option to win her over.