What are some examples of jealousy?
a friend being jealous of other friend because one is rich and one is not, a sibling being jealous of other for getting more attention by parents whereas other is not, when your neighbors get a new car and you drive 10yr old car in front of them :-))
Roommate jealous of my sex life?
My boyfriend & I are in a committed relationship. Unfortunately it's long distance n whenever he comes to the apartment my roommate throws a fit. We have an active amazing sex life & often make love in different parts of the apartment (boyfriend insists) my roommate knows & hates it. In fact one day we made love on her bed & thought she was out of town, she ended up walking in on us. My boyfriend accidentally c*me on her bed sheets but it was very hot that it prompted us to start another round right in front of her! Lol. She was horrified & didn't want to join in. It only happened once & never again, we only do it in my room & other places bc my boyfriend likes to mark his territory, so why is she still angry?
What have you achieved due to jealousy? How has jealousy changed your life in a positive way?
I've achieved a lot due to jealousy. I earned the feelings of low self esteem, paranoia, and hatred, due to jealousy. Do you know what those feelings are classified as? They're negative feelings which will cause you harm in the present or the near future.Jealousy can drive you to do things you're not supposed to do. Some women feel jealous of celebrities with their stick thin bodies; so they decide to starve themselves, until they can achieve that body. Those are self-esteem issues right there, and the paranoia that they're not perfect. Physically, it causes eating disorders, and mentally it causes depression. Jealousy may seem like it's not really a hard feeling to get rid of, and that anyone can overcome it. Yeah, if you're rational, you'll overcome it. Unfortunately, many people aren't rational or logical.Yeah, I get jealous sometimes. I get jealous of everyone who's achieved a career without really doing anything except sitting in front of a camera recording them doing their makeup. They get paid for it, and I feel jealousy. I feel that someone basically handed them everything, they didn't have to work for it.The difference between feeling a tiny bit jealous, and extremely jealous is that I know that I'll achieve something far greater than them, and that I'm going to earn it. Earning something has more value than having it handed to you.
I am so jealous of other peoples lives?
Go to a therapist if it makes you feel better, but they will probably tell you your jealousy is wrong and misplaced. I look at it like-- the only reason you are jealous is because you really want these things for yourself, but when you see someone who has these things you want, you get upset cause you still don't have them and don't believe you can have them. The therapist might just say you should stop being jealous, it is wrong and it is hurting you. That may be true (that it is hurting you, not that it is wrong-- jealousy is the natural feeling response to a thought of lack about yourself and seeing someone having what you want), but you can't go from feeling jealous of someone to loving them-- the emotions are way too far apart and trying to make that jump would just lead to frustration. Don't beat up on yourself for being jealous. maybe just try to take your mind off of these bad-feeling things and think about something else for a while until you naturally feel better, and then think about these subjects that you want (beauty, boyfriends, etc.) and try to reach for more hopeful thoughts-- "maybe I am prettier than I think, I remember that compliment someone gave me," etc. And if it feels like you are fooling yourself and it makes you feel worse, change the subject again (play a computer game, talk about something else, do something else-- try not to think about this jealousy) and then come back to the subjects when you are feeling better and try to soothe yourself to feel more hopeful. That yes, you too, can have these things that you want. I believe you can have and be whatever you want, but you have to feel better emotionally first. You have to feel good about yourself first, and at least hopeful that you can have these things you want. Someone gave great advice above to think about things you appreciate about yourself and your life. Think about the good things about where you are if you can (though it's hard to go from feeling bad to feeling appreciative, that's why I recommend distraction first, and then appreciation).
Are you jealous of people with more active sex lives?
Due to having an anxiety disorder I don't have an ideal sex life, as dating / pursuing women is intensely stressful and I just can't 'be myself'. Jealously rears its head in a big way from time to time. Especially things such as sex research or pornography, whereby men and women just turn up and have fantastic, fulfilling sex with each other without any fear of rejection or emotional baggage, and the security of knowing exactly where they stand with the other person. They get to live out their sexual fantasy (sex with a stranger) and seemingly have a great time doing so. Makes me jealous and depressed whenever I think about it. It seems deeply unfair; there are many people who don't have good sex lives (due to shyness, or the way society messes us up creating hang ups and inhibitions etc), and yet a good sex life seems so vital for emotional and physical health, and being able to feel wanted and desired by another person, if only for an afternoon. So, are you jealous of those with more fulfilling sex lives? Do you think this type of jealousy is natural, or just a sign of low self-esteem? And how does sexual envy differ depending on gender?
How to stop being jealous of other people's lives?
It's not really something that you can stop, as feeling jealous of other people is natural from time to time. It is something that you can use to your advantage though. If you are jealous of people who can cook, you can learn to cook yourself. That makes you move forward in life. I know things may look bad right now, but life always turns around. Your financial situation will get better eventually. Think about it, there is something that you have and it is very doubtful that any of these rich people do. Aren't your parents close to you? Don't you have an actual relationship with them? Aren't you able to go on with your life not feeling worried that you may be kidnapped, or that your family is not really happy with anything that you do? The fact that they are only able to talk about their money or show off is a very good indication of an empty life. Don't try to become like them, be you! I understand that you're going through a rough patch. I didn't grow up with a lot of money either, not even a lot of toys or clothes and deep down I always felt bad for that. And then one day I realized, whatever my parents did, they did it alone. They never exploited people to get more rich, they were able to have fun with very simple things. Remember, being rich does not mean having a better life.
Is it wrong to feel jealous of other people's success?
Yes its wrong, it is so wrong to be jealous of anothers success. Don't you hate feeling like that? Why would you ask if its OK. to be jealous ? Why not decide to be happy for that persons success, and change your attitude, and it will reflect in your work place and you might find how much better that works for you. You are only a loser because you keep feeding yourself that kind of negative information. Don't do that.!! Stop it. A lot of our parents or deceased now and it is rough to go through that, but its how life works. You say, you are gay. I am not into that and so I have no comment on that one way or another at this point. I hope that you will put on a positive attitude and hold your head up and go out and seek a job in which you can advance, and don't compare yourself to other people. That's a no brain-er~~~ . You will never be happy in your own skin unless you learn to love yourself.Please work on that, so you won't stay in the place you are today. God Bless You and good luck too. You can be a Winner !!! Go for it.
I'm jealous of my friends lives?
Okay, don't tell me that my life isn't that bad. I know so many people have it so much worse, but hear me out. Compared to my friends, my life is so bad. I know it isn't that bad but it's hard to be happy when you can't keep up with friends. My friends all live in huge houses that are beautiful on the inside and they never have to move. They are all so pretty and have so many clothes. They always get to travel and they all have boyfriends. Whenever we go out to eat I have to say I'm not hungry because I never have any money and my parents won't give me any of theirs. They always have good food at their house and we can't go to the grocery store until my mom gets paid so we legitimately do not have anything to eat (not an exaggeration) they are all going to get nice cars for their 16 bday and I'm not going to get anything. I love my friends but I'm always jealous of them so I end up being mean. Im tired of lying about how I really live. How do I stop being so down about how my life is? I'm just not happy living such a boring sad life DONT COMMENT PEOPLE HAVE IT WORSE. I KNOW THAT. HELP ME WITH MY SITUATION