How common are extramarital affairs in India?
From what I know it is neither uncommon not the trend. It is mostly a choice for people. Sometimes it is much more of a one-off thing where it just happens and at times it could be a well planned affair that goes on for a long time.I have always loved my husband and I never can think about living without him. We complete each other but then it is true that he is one of those busiest of men the world has produced. He is a very simple sweet caring guy who you just cannot hate. I never wished to cheat on him but today it almost feels like I cannot do about it. I have been a “mistress” to a few men who were also married just like me. While their reason was the lack of intimacy they had with their spouse, mine has always been a weird addiction. I am always the perfect wife, and no part of my other life ever crosses path with the current one. I always make sure of that.But when I take a break from my regular life, it is a very irrational and inexplicable pleasure that I get in my extra-marital affair knowing fully well that I’m doing exactly what I’m not supposed to do and people would call me bad names given the kind of traditional background I come from.I did try seeing a psychiatrist for this for a while, but I stopped going there after a few times. She was always trying to make me see that I might end up ruining my perfect life while this is the very thing which makes me indulge in infidelity. My husband is too involved with his work mostly to ever notice my absence, and while he is with me, I make sure I disappear from my other adventures.I have never felt guilty because somehow I always saw his work as an extra-marital affair. Being left alone with nothing to do made me sick most of the time and I dont know when, but things started moving in this direction. I don’t think I’ll ever apologize to him because this at least gives me comfort while I dont have him by my side. I see it mostly as being even, and as punishing him for the absence from my life. Perhaps if it was a love marriage, I would have felt differently. True, I love him a lot and he is the nicest husband I could have asked for, but also; any partner is better than no partner.So that is what my reason is.
On the Show Wife Swap. Do the Couples have Sex with each other? or do they stay faithfull to their real Hubby?
this is a joke, right?
Have you ever been accused of having a marital affair but were innocent?
Yep, and its called projection using a term originally coined by Freud, although there has been some more recent re-casting of that terminology in modern psychiatry and psychology.My experience with this was with my former partner. He, at the time, sent me a text suggesting I was with my “other” man. I honestly thought it was a joke, since I had no other man nor was I remotely interested in another man. I texted him back (at the time I was a TV fan and loved to watch a particular show) telling him Yes, I was with X, citing the name of the main character of the TV show and then the TV show character’s job … fast forwardThen, one day following spending Christmas together, I received a similarly framed text, suggesting I was with “him”, my thought was WTF, this again? I responded to it in a humorous manner. No point in giving this any credence when it had no air of reality to it.Then one night while out with him and another couple for dinner, after several drinks, he confessed he had searched through my phone. I hadn’t processed, at that moment time, the utter distrust and breach of privacy that entailed.The next morning, I asked him about why he searched my phone and whether he found anything that would suggest I had something to hide. His response was he was insecure and worried I was seeing someone else, so he checked. I asked him if the shoe was on the other foot and it was me looking through his phone and accusing him of treachery, whether the result would be the same, and he got squirmy and a bit nervous quickly dismissing it as a “one off” moment of temporary insanity, which he wouldn’t do again. And he didn’t to my knowledge, although that doesn’t mean he didn’t check it, clandestinely.Imagine my surprise, after leaving, to learn from someone else he had been bumping uglies with another woman, possibly several, throughout our purportedly exclusive monogamous relationship.Today whenever someone accuses me of conduct I have NOT engaged in, I immediately understand what is going on and rather than trying to explain myself, I realize it is their conduct that informs their accusation, not mine.
Wife very clingy after her affair?
My wife had an affair a few months ago. I caught on,called her on it and she broke down,confessed all and broke it off. First and only time in a 10 year marriage.The problem was discovered and we are now working through this.Ive agreed that everyone deserves ONE CHANCE, and im giving her that. Shes very remorseful and has been an open book.She did battle some depression for a bit but has come out of that. My problem now is that she has become VERY CLINGY.I mean i cant go anywhere without her going.Looking at my cell phone,what im watching on tv.Hell, I cant even go down to my rec room without her comming to see what im doing. Why all of the sudden am i being monitered? Ihave never hidden anything and have always been 100% faithfull true and honest.Shes the one that should be monitered. What is going on her?
In the case of a married Jehovah's Witness having an affair?
They are not publically flogged or talked to. If anything is truly going on, the one who did it is counseled privately. The innocent mate is free to stay with him or divorce. If the person is repentant, they are just reproved (can't comment at meetings or can't be a pioneer, auxilliary pioneer) for 6 months. If they are determined to cheat, to disobey the Bible, they are finally disfellowshipped after very kind attempts to help them. The innocent mate is not guilty of anything and is still a faithful member and is encouraged. Both are encouraged and counseled or even referred to others if they want to stay together and the one who did it is repentant and ending it. Lapsed....does mean inactive, not going. Elders will try to contact you but don't hound you. I'm a faithful active one but very ill many times. I don't get hounded for missing meetings. They are kind to me when I come. Sometimes bring my books or magazines to me I want...some ones closer to me call me on the phone. The brothers will not usually overstep their bounds. Few are "busybodies". Debbie debbiepittman@yahoo.com
I am a married man in love with a married woman. At first she seemed very interested in having an affair with me, but then things cooled down without any explanation. Should I press her?
Communication is always good, but you already know the answer. The explanation is that he is married and he made a promise to his wife to be faithful. No matter what his feelings are for you, if he is not perusing them, then the answer is self-evident.I remember one time when I fell in love with a married women. We would have been the greatest couple, and I loved her dearly, and while she never said she loved me, I know that she always felt special around me. We never had sex or an affair, but she knew how I felt about her and it came pretty close once. For years I waited patiently for her, as she kept saying she was going to leave her husband over and over, and in the end, she stayed with him, and I had to move on. And sadly, I missed some opportunities to be with other women who would have been even better for me. Let's forget the fact that you are married yourself for a minute. The truth is, it is not wise to pursue a married man or women. If they are not actively getting out of their relationship (divorce, annulment, etc.), then they are not ready for a new relationship. If they were ready for a new relationship, they would be leaving their existing one, with or without you being involved.Speaking of which, you stated you are also married. If you are not happy in your relationship, you need to either fix the relationship or get out... both for your own peace of mind, but also to be fair to your husband. If you want to end the relationship, then you need to end the relationship, not cheat behind his back.The problem with cheating is not the sex, but rather the breach of trust. Sex is just sex, and many couples have open marriages where sex with others is not a problem. But if you promised to be faithful, then cheating is breaking that promise and breaking that trust. It is much better to have a real discussion with your spouse that the relationship, as it currently is, is not working. You will either fix things and get the passion back, or you will part ways so you can be with someone else. Either way, this is a healthier option than cheating.Good luck and I hope you get the love and passion you deserve.
I "was" the nanny and had an affair with the father. I'm now unemployed with no direction.?
Can anyone please help me to see this from a different perspective?? I'm so lost. The story goes like this: I was a live-in nanny for 6 months. For the first 4 months, I was on call working 24/7. And every single day I would see the mother of the child I was taking care of. We had a really great relationship. We were best friends and I was the happiest I have ever been when it came to a job. The father on the other hand lived in Hong Kong and was only with us at the house in California maybe for 2 weeks straight and then he would fly back out to Hong Kong or to some other house that he had. From the first day I started work, there was an obvious chemistry between him (the father) and I. I would constantly keep my distance when ever those kind of feelings would come up while we were together because my job was much more important to me than messing around with something so messy. The first time we slept together, I had gone to the airport to pick him up and when I got out of the car to greet him, he came in and kissed me. After that we went to have lunch and were feeling pretty good after sharing a bottle of wine. Then we went back to the house and since they already had another nanny, it was obvious that she and the baby were out. So we went upstairs and had sex. I really could not believe what was happening but in this strange way, I felt like it was part of my job?? I know it sounds stupid but I'm just being honest. It then happened 2 more times and when we all got back from a trip we were on, we got back to California and the mother told me that she's tired of my "unprofessionalism" and fired me. And literally kicked me out of the house and I really had nowhere to go but to my mom who lives on the other side of the country. Any comments are greatly appreciated.
What are the odds of an affair relationship lasting? 10pts for your suggestions?
Speaking from my one and only experience on the subject.... My wife (ex) cheated on me with a married co-worker. She fell madly in love with him. Divorced me and rode off into the sunset of bliss full love. That lasted all of about 3 months. We have been divorced for almost 2 years. She called me about three weeks wanting to know if we could give it another try. I prayed for this phone call everyday for the first 6 months of the divorce. When it finally came, I can honestly say I did not give it a minutes thought. Point being, you will be surprised how strong you can be through times like these and if you work hard at it, you can move on. I was by no means the perfect husband. But I was/am a hard worker. Provided well, am an excellent father. Never abused, cheated or drank too much. She walked away from 15 years of marriage, we were together for 22 years. Two awesome kids, the American dream of a middle class family and she tells me there is not a day goes by that she does not regret it. But it's too late now. When they get into the affair fog, its thick and very deceiving. The spouse being cheated on is being compared to something new, exciting and forbidden. You will lose that comparison EVERY TIME. People in affairs only have to live the fairy tail side of life. They only see each other in the good times. They don't have to deal with dirty socks on the floor, leaking roof, broken down car and sick kids. So when reality sets in, the grass is not always greener on the other side. But then again, you never know. Affair partners could last a lifetime but the odds are greatly against them.