Is my dad mentally abusing?
Im almost 16 and i dont like my dad at all.I live with my mom and dad and i absolutely hate living with them because they always fight. My mom dont like my dad either because he drinks like 3 times a week. He dosent drinke that much that he is like crazy, he will just pick on my mom. I have seen him like super drunk he has even raped my mom and broken bathroom door. He is disrespectful towards my mom. My mom is like scared of him when he pisses him off, my mom wants to buy me new furniture for my bedroom but she keeps that from my dad because he says its a waste of money, and i get that you now.But my mom makes 6 times more money then him.And he always gets pissed when my mom SPEND HER OWN MONEY...My dad gets just really angry when people dont act hes way. Example- i was really hungry and wanted to make food for myself and he got really angry and said we have food, he always gets angry when i dont like the food he or my mom had made. I think my dad is really close minded he hates gays, black people, muslims. And im opposed of him i dont hate anybody. My dad makes me feel really bad after i talk to him i cry. Im just really unhappy around him. My mom dosent realise that he is really negative and toxic person in my life.
Is my dad mentally ill?
I think the best approach (which it seems like you have already tried) is the direct, diplomatic, assertive approach: "Dad, I cannot live like this anymore. You are hurting me beyond words. You are my father and I love you, but If you do not change, I will not be able to have a relationship with you." I had a father who was also emotionally distant and socially awkward and detached. However, it was not his habit to blow up at anyone. He would sit silently in resentment and stew. My parents had a miserable marriage. Our household was full of anger and tension. The only thing you can do is be nice and calm and do not add to the tension with angry outbursts of your own (how I wish I could go back and do that myself). Get yourself a therapist, someone you can vent to and say all the things you cannot say to your dad. Ask your parents to join you for a session or two. Tell them how you feel in the safe, neutral environment of therapy. If nothing changes, find things to do outside the home, spend more time with your friends, join a social group at church, and know that you did all you could to improve things. Above all else, do not blow up at your dad. You seem like a really sweet kid. I am very sorry you are having this problem. Clearly your dad has some issues which you cannot allow yourself to be responsible for fixing. It's kind of like living with an alcoholic. Every day is some crisis and everybody walks on eggshells to avoid upsetting him and triggering his abuse. Trust me, this will hurt you, and it will hamper your ability to have healthy relationships of your own, if you don't get some help.
Does my dad have a mental illness?
One more thing, I consulted my mom and she said her dad made sure that nobody in his family had any illness / disease of any kind (I am Indian she said that a lot of people there have mental diseases so he checked carefully) and claims that nobody as far as his Great Grandfather had any sign of mental illness. I don't know what to make of this, just trying to add details.
I think theres something wrong with my dad. (mentally)?
Can anyone tell me why my dad is like this? He complains about the smallest things, he makes us fight about the smallest things. And always tells me how irresponsible I am or that im not trying to be. Like if something's happens he will go insane over it! thus morning I forgot to set my alarm for school and the whole ride there he was yelling at me! Then he smacks super loud when he eats. He acts almost like he has mental problems im not trying to be mean or anything that's the honest truth. He argues with me everyday. He did the same to my sister until she moved out sadly im only 16. my mom would yell at him if he started to complain and half the family doesn't even like him because of it. What's up with him?
My own Dad makes fun out of my mental illness along with many other things. I'm that angry that I could quite easily snap his neck. What can I do?
What I've learned from dealing with older generations is that they fit into the category of “old dogs can't learn new tricks”My dad is a very intelligent man, but the way he was raised makes his outlook on life and values so narrow that I refuse to discuss certain topics with him because it's futile. Older generations don't realize the extent of mental issues because there wasn't as much research and focus on it when they were younger. Most of them have a different way of approaching mental issues, addiction, and other plagues that humans face and it was pretty much to ignore it. Look how well that ended up. Sometimes there's just no getting through to people like that. They refuse to understand or learn anything outside their own comfort zone, and with that kind of narrow mindset there's no getting through to them because they don't want to change their mind.Have you tried talking to other family members about it? If your father is this disrespectful and negative, sometimes you just have to let them go. I have a lot of family members who refuse to see me as a person and they treat me lower than dirt because of my mental and addiction issues, and I just decided it wasn't worth my time, effort, or energy to try to persuade them otherwise. They don't mean anything to me anymore, either. I know who I am. I know I'm a good person. Other people's opinions and thoughts don't affect me anymore. I've learned that sometimes you have to be really selfish and choosy about who you allow in your life if you want to have a positive working environment. Even if it means letting go of people close to you. At the end of the day, no one on earth has to live your life or deal with your issues more than you. You have to live with yourself everyday. You matter and you deserve to be happy. No one should ever make you feel otherwise.
If I have mental illness in my family very bad on both my mom's and dad's side, will I pass it on to my own children when I have kids?
It’s possible. There’s a 50–50% chance of it being genetic and long running in families, and relatives. Even you or your siblings may develop the illness, unfortunately. It really depends on the individual. Some may not develop it at all, and some may skip a generation.
Dad has weird/crazy mental problem?...Please help!!!?
All his yelling IS abuse.......there is no excuse for it even if jesus christ rides by your house daily on a bicycle . It is around his tools, which he apparently has a certain way of using them, storing and organizing them and his freaking , or how ever you spell that, yelling is not helping you gain confidence, or learn anything ,it is just discouraging you and making you feel like youhave to walk on eggs around him, or bringing you to some much anger in self defense.......none of which is helpful. jPeople can only be helped if they want it and want to change. It doesnt sound like he wants that. If he professes to be such a great lover of what ever he believes in, then maybe he should be reminded by a priest, or minister, that all of this yelling etc is also condemmend by the 'lord' in every religion and is very damaging to his wife and children........ so if you know who his minister is , ask them over for a 'chat' and let them talk about it in private. otherwise allyou can do is learn to detach from his out bursts, and bad attitude and abuse,and the only way i know of to to that is to eft it eftuniverse.com or go get therapy from someone who can teach you how to do that cognitive behavioral counseling . Either way, you must know that you wll now have to make a conscious effort to NOT pass this down to your children and get therapy ifyou need it......to become a loving person, dad, and community member. Find a role model you admire and join some positive groups and find a mentor in an area of interest to advise and guide you. Dont fall inot the trap of dealing with your son or others this way, when the time comes. best wishes
My dad has a mental illness, will that lead me to contracting a mental illness later on in life?
What drugs was he taking, and in what manner did he quit them?It could be that you are seeing a person who is going through psychotropic withdrawal syndrome, which is very likely to happen if someone quits these drugs (even slowly) and is commonly associated with the symptoms you mention. Here is an example of the most well-known antidepressant withdrawal symptoms for you to review and think on: http://survivingantidepressants....While experiences termed as “mental illness” may sometimes have genetic connections to potential outcomes, there is no real understanding of how or why certain things go on, and the idea of “mental illness” as a physical problem is quite often entirely unevidenced.That is, what we tend to call “mental disorders” are oftentimes the body and mind working normally, but in ways considered detrimental by the individual experiencing them or by the society they find themselves in. So, for instance, most depression is entirely normal, but that does not mean it is ‘good’ or easy to experience! Whether or not something is an actual medical illness in the conventional sense has no bearing on the fact that sometimes people need assistance to be living the sort of life they want to be living.The drugs people are given for psychiatric diagnoses oftentimes make things worse instead of better, especially when it comes to depression, and there can be serious consequences to using or quitting them. This goes for antidepressants, antipsychotics, mood stabilizers, benzodiazepines, anxiolytics, and all the other mind-altering drugs that doctors prescribe when they consider someone to be “mentally ill” (which is a condition that means “we have no idea what the problem is”).So, in short, your dad should probably see a doctor.Without more information, no one here can speculate as to what is going on, but it is quite possible that he is suffering from a drug withdrawal syndrome. Withdrawal syndromes are often misdiagnosed and mistreated, so finding a specialist who has knowledge about psychotropic drugs and their side effects is an important step towards identifying what might be wrong, if your father is even interested in seeing a professional about this.His past or present state may or may not have anything to do with what you will experience later in life, and there may be nothing physically or genetically “wrong” with your dad in any case.Here is some introductory reading that be useful to have around: Guides and Papers
HELP....!!! My dad has OCD?
My dad suffers from Obsessive compulsive disorder, commonly known as OCD. He feels damn scared of mentally unfit people, and if any person acts a lil abnormally, he just tries to keep away from them. Its like some kind of a phobia, i b'lieve. And it has gone to such an extent, that he keeps on washing his hands over 100 times a days, and uses over 10 toothbrushes a day. He does not even b'lieve in repeating clothes. He did consult many psychiatrists but nothing seems to work. This disease may sound funny, but we are totally fed up of dis. It is affecting our family both mentally and economically too. Plzzz help.