What is your opinion of Parents who spank their children?
It is OK to spank your child but not out of anger always take A step back talk to them first and tell them as A punishment you are going to spank them
Opinions on Spanking Children?
I consider spanking to be the nuclear option. When nothing else is working or it is a very serious infraction I'll use it. I hate doing it. Only had to once or twice with my kids. Time-outs are sufficient for them mostly. There is a personality type that you have to swat though. I was one of those when I was young. I've always had a defiant personality, it was terrible when I was young. Time-outs didn't work, groundings were ineffective, reasoning didn't work as I always thought I was right. As a child you often have no context to understand adult reasoning. Even if you do understand I always figured that that was their theory and I would see if it was different for me. The only thing that could keep me in check was the threat of force. I'm glad my parents swatted me. Nowadays they tell people to drug kids like I was. I turned into a completely functional and well-adjusted adult because my parents found an effective method of discipline and used it. If that method is swats, so be it. Anyone who says swats are NEVER appropriate has never experienced a child like I was. Thinking in absolutes is a terrible way to be anyways. It's straight up unrealistic. It's pointless to ask this question on this particular board though. Whenever you have a question for this board just think of the hippiest response you can come up with. That'll be the majority consensus. Parenting enthusiasts (generally) go with the trends. The trend is currently "peace, love, and happiness maaaaaaaaan." I'm not saying that the method is completely without merit, but let's keep our feet firmly planted on the ground.
What is your opinion about spanking your child when he deserves it?
When the child deserves it, a spanking can be a useful tool. However, when the child deserves and not because you’re mad. Use only your hand and only on the butt. 2–3 swats are sufficient. If you’re doing it daily, you’re doing it too often.Now that I’ve said that, spanking should be only one tool of discipline in your bag. There are plenty of other tools that you can use in addition to spanking.For myself, I’ve used it as a tool, but generally no more often than about once every 3 months. The threat of it is usually enough. Now we’ve play-spanked as a part of play since my son was a toddler along with tickling and general roughhousing. My son thinks it’s a lot of fun. When I discipline through spanking, I don’t spank any harder than when it’s in play. It’s my tone of voice, facial expression and the fact he knows he did something wrong that makes the majority of the difference. So you can take that for what it’s worth, and your mileage may differ.My son is now 9 and it’s been at least 6 months since the last spanking. He may never get another spanking. He is starting to age out of it as a tool, so we shall see.
Opinions on consoling a child after a spanking?
I have always consoled my child after giving them a spanking, I do not overdo, because I want them to know they were punished for doing wrong. After a spanking I have a one on one talk with them, just so we are clear on the reasons they were spanked and how to avoid it in the future. I don't believe in cuddling or anything like that, but a hug to let them know they are forgiven and still loved. Then, give them some alone time to think about it. If you spank, do you console afterwards and what does that consist of? Do you agree with it? You have to be careful becasue you do not want to send the message your apologizing for the punishment If you don't spank, then you don't have to answer.. if you do, please be polite
Is the Pope's opinion on spanking condoning child abuse?
No it is not. Pope did not ask to spank children. He only said it can be a tool to guide them in the right way. Using it or misusing depends on the attitude of the parents. They have a responsibility not to misuse it.I see many parents avoid physical punishments and they are bribing their children to show how much they love them. But it is all more damaging and it is proved by increasing number of young ones closed in jails.They do not know what is right and what is wrong. They lived under pampering of their parents all the way and thought the whole world was revolving for them. Many did not face a "NO" from their parents. Finally they cannot sustain in a society and go on doing anything to achieve their targets.We are all closing eyes to the facts.I am punished by my parents, but they did it always with love. I am only happy what I am today, and for the role they played to reach me here.These days people are afraid to express themselves fearing how others will judge them about it.
What is your opinion on the outcome of children who have never been spanked because there was never a reason to?
If there was never a reason to spank them, that would say they’ve turned out well due to great parenting or kids who were easy to parent. Parents were probably consistent and clear about expectations, they likely talked and discussed issues with their children rather than spanking and being dramatic about issues. If there were consequences for behaviors, they had other methods than spanking.Some people feel the spankings they received when they were kids were good for them. Some parents think a spanking has to be extremely painful, others feel a tap on the butt is a spanking and one that I read about, clapped his hands behind his children because he couldn’t bare the thought of spanking them. There are a lot of different views about spanking.