What are some advices for someone who thinks she is a waste of life?
First, no one is a waste of life.Look at it, there are people somewhere who care deeply about you no matter how your current situation is.However, if you feel you are a total waste of time, the first thing is asking yourself why you think so. 1. Is it because people have told you that you can't measure upto anything and you have believed this very much?2. Is it because you haven't accomplished anything in life?3. Is it because your years are moving fast and your age mates are miles way ahead of you?If it is option one, learn to believe in yourself. People will always have a negative opinion about you no matter how much good you do in life. They will look at that one thing you didn't do and not focus on the million things you have achieved. Learn to let it go, forgive, forget and have a peaceful soul and heart.If it is option two, well you can start doing new things that interest you. Build new skills, start hanging out at different places about things you are interested in and meet people you share same interests. Try new dreams. The rest will be history.If it is option three, life is a journey, not a destination and over taking is allowed. Some people take longer compared to others. If your age mates get married earlier than you, it is alright, if they are having a better life, it is alright, if they are better off, it is alright, accept it. People say you can't do anything about it, but the truth is, you can, by working extra hard. Focus on your dreams. Celebrate your little achievements, no matter how small they are.All the best.
I'm 25 and have wasted last 10 years of my life. I feel I lag behind my contemporaries. How can I catch up with them?
Since you’ve “wasted 10 years of your life” already, why bother to try now?Nothing interesting happens after 25, anyway.You’ll start attending a whole lot of weddings and kids parties.Your hangovers will last 3 days.The perfect Saturday night will include Netflix, popcorn in your hair and wine.Companies will only hire you if you have 15 years of experience and are willing to work 100 hours per week for an intern salary.Let me tell you a story about some of my contemporaries.I have a distant group of acquaintances that have been tight since they were 12. They’ve been doing everything together, from teen parties to their kids’ baptisms.All together and all at once.They all got married in the same year. All 22 of them, each with their significant other, from the same circle of friends. Only a few of them moved to other cities or got to know or date other people that were not somehow connected to core group. In their defense, it was a small town.They didn’t once stopped to think outside of their box.Since they all knew each other from early childhood, there was no need to change, improve, do better.They followed the trend. They didn’t question their actions much. They went with the flow. Somebody would start, and then everybody else in the group was doing their best to catch up.Is that what you want?You’re already doing a stellar job proving everybody right by not “living up to your potential”. Why shake things up now?It’s that feeling, isn't’ it? The guilt you feel when you’re cheating yourself out of the best life, the best version of yourself.It’s never been about your contemporaries, your parents or teachers.Neither success nor happiness come from going with the flow.If you want to compare yourself to others, take the 30 under 30 Forbes list, use it to drive you and provide inspiration, so you can achieve your own dreams.You’re not too late, not too old, not too young. You’re just starting and that is just right!
Stay-at-home mothers are losers?
These people should also have it pointed out to them that a mother can better take care of her own child than a day care place. I personally do not want my children going to day care because I simply do not trust a stranger with my children. There are too many sickos and creeps out there, not to mention, I don't think it's right for someone else to discipline my child. No, I don't mind occasionally letting him go to my parents' house, but that's different. Those are the same people who raised me, ya know? I definately won't allow him to be taken care of by a stranger. They persist in the 'lies' because they can't see the other side of the coin. Most mothers only stay at home until their children go to school; at which time they return to work with 5 or more years of experience you can't get any other way. Think about it: where else, in one job, can you get experience such as: *Meal Planning (nutritionist) *Accounts receivable/payable (accountant) *Cleaning (housekeeper) *Teaching young children language and social skills *Activity planning *Event coordinating Etc. You get the idea. Being a mom, stay at home or not, is a hard, 24/7/the next 18 years job either way you look at it. I am staying home at the moment, but after this next baby is born, I plan on going back to work. My husband will be the stay at home father. We take turns, so that neither of us stays out of the workforce for too long, or gets too sick of one thing. It's nice that way we don't have to trust our kids to strangers, and we both have respect for what the other does all day.
Is it wrong that i hate losers ?
ok so i'm 20 and i study health science and i reallly really wish to go to medical school after that (but it seems its not going to happen,and for you information i feel i'm going to be a loser as well if i did not become a doctor) anyhow,i think less of people who don't care about their future i don't know how to explain because english is not my first language but for example i really think bad about my brother because he hate studying and plays xbox all the time (he is in last year of high school) and i always tell him keep it up like this you are a loser and failure and people you make fun of will be doctors and you will work for them to clean the floor or something i really get angry to see his carelessness it's not just my brother we live in a superficial Society where children have the latest mobiles and laptops and god knows what and i feel they are losers they just compete on who get the latest tech (from their parents money they don't work) i feel really disgusted and feel they are waste of space i know my feelings may be extreme but why am i like this ?