Should I plan to see my husband?
Right now we're going through a divorce. Even though I'll get tons of money from this, I really want him back. I made a huge mistake. I betrayed him and its killing me. I haven't seen him for a year and a half. I went to pick up my things from his place, once I saw him, I wanted to hold him. I know I'm not making any sense and am blabbering away, but all I know is that he hates me to bits. I really love him, would do anything to get him back, make him feel loved. I don't care how badly he treats me, I deserve it. I just want to make things work. Even if he doesn't ever trust me, I'll do anything I can to bring that trust back. Please someone give me some advice. Should I contact him? Is this illegal? Is there any chance of him ever accepting me? I believe that if he does take me back, it will be because of the money. The main reason why I cheated (though not to say this is a good excuse to) is because we never spent time together. He's loaded so he'd just say oh well you're spending my money so you should be entertained. I gave him the credit cards and all that jazz to make him spend at least a little time with me. Everyday he'd come home from work and sit on the computer. Heck he'll even have the dinner I made for him on that desk. I'd beg him to at least watch one tv show with me without complaining about him losing valuable time from writing code. I cried to him about this but he said this is the way he is and will never change. Anyway, he wants me to know what it is like to not have any money without him (I read his conversation with his father about the divorce). I don't know why, I love him. I love the way he talks, his sarcasm, even if its for a little bit.
What should I do about my husband?
((I know it says I’ve joined today, but I made a new profile today just for this questions)) My husband and I have been married 6 years. At first we were very happy together, but within the last 2 years, I haven’t been very happy and I’ve told him this before. He doesn’t seem to care, or if he does, he doesn’t show me that he cares. I’ve found someone else, someone I believe I love and I’d like to start dating. We’ve chat mostly online, but we’ve met and hung out in person a few times. We’re very happy together and my kids like him. So my question is, do I stay with my husband, or do I leave and try to start things with this other guy? I know it sounds really bad, but I don’t love my husband any more, and I haven’t for a while. Or I should say, I’m not IN love with him anymore. I don’t get that spark with him anymore. We rarely talk, we never do anything together. He treats me like something he owns. He expects things from me that I don’t think he should. As his wife, I’m expected to pleasure him sexually at least once a week, I’m expected to have dinner done and made for him when he gets home from work, I’m expected to have the house cleaned from top to bottom, I’m expected to give him my attention every moment he’s home. I’m a stay at home mom, so I do clean house everyday, and if he gets home from work on time, then he gets a hot meal, if not he can nuke it in the microwave. I haven’t wanted to have sex with him, in over a year, but I do it because I don’t want to hear him complain about it. And when he’s home, I try and give him as much attention as I can stand. When I am unable to do those things, I get yelled at. Last week, he told me that when I spend my evenings, (after my kids are in bed and he’s home) online, either on yahoo chatting with my friends, or watching a movie on my computer, he doesn’t like it., He asked me to stay off my computer while he’s home. Yet, every night since then, he’s come home and ate his dinner at his desk online, while I sit on the couch and watch tv. I'm getting a little sick of being treated like this. If I don't "behave" I get yelled at, and it seems like he's just useing me for his own enjoyment. We never go out and do things together, and the last time we did anything together was a few years ago, when he dragged me to see the first transformers movie.
What should I do about my husband?
My husband is upset with me because I started taking anti-depressants without his knowledge. I had been having some depression problems, and when I talked to him, he basically just made fun of me. They were prescribed by my internalist. My husband is totally against me taking anti-depressants. He feels that they are basically the same as illegal drugs. I had a bout with post partum depression and once took too many Lortabs. He feels that the anti-depressants are the same thing. He now says that if I stop taking the anti-depressants that he will help me with my issues. I don't want to stop taking the anti-depressants because I feel they help. I believe the main reason why I took all of those Lortabs and had such a bout with post partum depression is because I had become depressed and stopped taking my anti-depressants. My husband has suggested that he will leave me if I continue to take the anti-depressants. I no longer take/abuse the Lortabs, and never plan to do so again. What should I do? Should I stop taking the anti-depressants as my husband wishes, or should I risk him leaving me?
Confirm any of the following :Your husband is a :CuckoldAny cunning future plan to dump you or something else !For second, I believe I don't have to explain you.If it's first, decide whether you are okay with it or not. Once decided take a stand (agree/disagree) and be ready for all consequences.I have one client, whose husband is a cuckhold. He gets so aroused, by the thought of somebody else doing it with his wife. You can G search Cuckhold to find out more.In my case, he simply watch me doing it and start thrusting his to her mouth and within a minutes he is over. Then he sits little away, and start stroking himself. I feel sympathy but I have to do what I am paid for. I presume like he is not there. Also the fact that, this woman is so caring and she don't have guts to dump this man and live her own life because of her social conditions. He is very caring except this cruelty. I do it because I also don't want this woman landing in to wrong hands. Initially she was not okay with it, but later she started enjoying it. Somehow she made him convince that she can have it only with me. Somehow he is okay with it. However many cuckhold wants many guys doing it and this leads to many problems. Bewareof it.(I make sure no videos or photos, which is a must for woman and my safety and privacy. Who knows what may happen in future?)I think western porns is to blame. Sometime you become what you watch all the time.Most men are possessive about their wife. Few are there who is like yours. Its a reality in this Kaliyuga.You have to take a stand. It's your life.Take care…
What health insurance plan should my husband and I get?
My husband and I have no insurance and my husbands company (very small company) is wanting to get him some insurance and they said that I could be on there as well if I wanted to. They found us insurance for about $150 a month w/ a $2000 deductible but thats only for my husband, they said if I can find one w/ me on there as well, they will do that for us. They also said they will pay for half his insurance and half of the deductible but only him, not me...money is really tight and we hate that we don't have insurance, but they are offering it to my husband and can pay half, then shouldn't I get insurance as well and just pay my part? We never go to the doctor, I am the only one that takes 2 prescription drugs daily, so what kind of insurance should we get? High or low deductible? I want to look around and maybe I can find something that will fit what we need. Any advice is much appreciated!
I'm planning on leaving my husband. What do I do first?
No, there is no hope for my marriage. I've just gotten past the decision stage of this and now I need to figure out the logistics of it. We have a daughter who is 18 months old, my husband works, and I haven't had a job in about 2 years (I've been a stay-at-home mom and, recently, a college student). I realize I now need a job and I've already started applying. We currently live more than 1000 miles from family (my husband's Army), so staying with them would be impossible. Plus, I wouldn't want to take our daughter that far from her father...he wasn't a great husband, but he's a good dad. So, I'm going to need an apartment. But what apartment will lease to a woman that hasn't had any income or a job for as long as I have? Do I continue to go to school or do I drop my classes and focus on everything else right now and hope I can pick it back up later? At what point do I tell my husband I'm leaving him? I worry that if I tell him before I'm financially able to, then it would either be really awkward or he'd tell me to get out immediately. So, what steps do I take from here?
Vidhya has excellent points and I just wanted to add a couple more for even before you get pregnant or have the baby1. Make sure your marriage is in a healthy place. Any festering issues will rear it's ugly head when you are both sleep deprived and frustrated with a newborn. You don't want to be dealing with that on top of everything else. 2. Start winding down extra activities and get into a good rhythm. I'm not saying go to bed by 8 but don't register for your next mixed martial arts semester, start coming home earlier from work, reduce weekend evening activities. If you make the transition gradually it doesn't seem as stark when the baby comes and you won't be as resentful.3. Make sure you find a doctor you trust. This person is going to be your liaison with your baby and you want a good relationship. Don't be scared to switch or visit multiple before deciding.4. Build a good network. You and your wife will need plenty of support. I highly suggest having family stay with you for at least the first week or so to lighten the burden and let you sleep. Start figuring out who will be there and make requests early. 5. While some may say it is early I also recommend spending time figuring out child care if both of you are planning on going back to work. You don't have to work out specifics but have a general plan for whether you need to hire a nanny, find a day care, share a sitter etc. After the baby is born you're not going to have the energy or time to interview people before it's time to go back to work. A final tip during pregnancy is to freeze and store a ton of easy meals. You'll thank yourself for it later when all you have to do is pop some in the microwave instead of spending the time to cook or the money and energy to go buy. Hope it helps!
Plan yourself something for your birthday!Why expect everything from your husband. You love yourself too right?Do something for yourself. Go out for a movie or a show, eat out, shop, hang out with your friends or do something that makes your soul really really happy!Do not give the key to your happiness in someone else’s hands my friend.Make yourself happy and less disappointed on your birthday!
What should my husband do in this situation?
My husband has been an operations manager at a company for about a year and a half now. The company has offered him an opportunity to attend a seminar in Texas (we live in Georgia) along with his boss (the owner of the company) and another manager. The company is paying for their flights, meals, hotel, and the seminar itself. Everything is booked. My husband is supposed to fly out with them on Tuesday, attend the seminar Wednesday & Thursday, and fly home late Thursday evening. Well, yesterday morning (Saturday) my husband's mother passed away. She's been ill in a nursing home but her death was still unexpected; we just saw her last weekend and she seemed to be doing OK- no better or worse than she's been for months. We need to make arrangements. She will be cremated like her husband was two years ago, but there will still be a service. What should my husband do in this case? Arrange the services for Friday when he returns from the paid business trip, or skip the business trip altogether? Could he even do that with the flights and hotel already booked? Would this put him at risk with his job? When his father passed 2 years ago, we arranged the services to be held three days later. Advice?
I'm not being sarcastic when I say this. Get the hell out of dodge. I hate divorce and feel it is permanent solution to a temporary problem. But there are two exceptions, Infidelity and abuse. You are in the latter category. If a man beats his wife he is no man. He is a bully and a coward. He clearly does not deserve you. You certainly don't deserve what he is doing to you. So get out or kick him out if that is possible, but stop subjecting yourself to his abuse immediately. Don't do it alone, have someone with you that you can trust to protect you if he gets physical. You can call a police officer to come over and keep the peace while you tell him. Or you can do what many do, just leave and start a new life. Find someone who deserves you and knows how to treat a woman. They are out there so don't let this poison the well.I wish you well and a better life than you are experiencing right now. No woman deserves to be treated like this. It makes my blood boil when I hear things like this.