My boyfriend's grandma has just passed away. How should I deal with him?
Grieving can take many forms. It is said there are five stages and that it can take up to 2 years to go through them all, but know that not everyone experiences all of them, or does them in the same order and some people stay in the cycle and never leave it.The most important thing you can do is avoid forcing him to go to a step he is not ready for. This will come back to bite him and you later on very badly.This will require immense patience.Let him grieve and be with him. He may or may not be able to speak about it. Sometimes a person just wants to cry a lot for a while until they are so exhausted and decide they need to start talking. Try to see the tears as a need to let go, rather than as anything that is designed to discomfort you, so avoid taking any of his actions at this time personally. Once he is ready to talk, ask him to tell you about her, what she meant to him and what he gained from knowing her. It may be positive for him to create a project box about her, a box of memories, where he puts inside pictures of things that he feels connect him with her. It may help him to write her a letter, saying what he wants her to know.This can be very powerful.You can also read up about how to help someone grieve. The simplest way forward is to ask him what he needs at this time and what you can do that will help him the most (avoid using phrases like 'help you move on' because this exerts pressure). Let him set the pace and walk with him. He will love you for this. But be prepared for this to take a long while to play itself out. Grieving can't be rushed to suit someone else. If you expect this, it will drive him away from you.
Country songs of heaven, passing of loved one, memories?
My father passed away 2 years ago. My mother is doing well, but she wants some good songs about a loved one going to heaven, or memories of loved one, etc. Or any other suggestions. none of the my dog got shot, car stolen and wife left me stuff. THANKS!
Catchy piano songs for a talent show?
I've been playing piano for 8 years, so most music is doable for me. I want something catchy that will get the audiences attention. This is a high school talent show. I was thinking of a collaboration of a few songs like The Super Mario Brothers and the Peanuts "Linus and Lucy", but I'd need one(or a few) more song(s) . Any ideas?
Which song has the most annoyingly meaningless lyrics ever?
America trumps pretty much any band I can think of for lyrics that make no sense or sound like they were scribbled on the back of those brown paper bag tear-off towels you see in turnpike rest rooms. “Tin Man”? I still don’t know what a “tropic of Sir Galahad” is. Or what “cause never was the reason for the evening” refers to. Maybe it’s one of those bad translations of English to Swedish to Japanese to Urdu and back to English.“Horse With No Name”? We can all stand back in amazement at the maxim “under the cities lies a heart made of ground but the humans will give no love.” This is, as we all know, dialogue from Ed Wood’s movie “Plan Nine From Outer Space.” Or at least it should be.But my vote goes for “Sandman,” not only because the lyrics are nonsense, but are sung with so much conviction that I’m sure they go way, way over my head. Lines like: “I almost forgot to ask/Did you hear of my enlistment”? It’s sung with this snide sort of undertone, like the singer is chiding the intended listenener for being so stupid. Then there’s the chorus:“I understand you’ve been running from the man who goes by the name of the Sandman.He flies the sky like an eagle in the eye of a hurricane that’s abandoned.”Bad puns (eagle in the eye). Abandoned hurricanes. Repetition of the word “man” in an opening line stolen from a rejected Marvel comic. Now, sing this damn chorus 10 times in a row.America: the Spinal Tap of soft rock? These guys must’ve smoked WAY too much pot.
What are some popular songs for a Spanish funeral?
Amor Eterno. Planning a funeral mass for my Dad right now and even though many of us don’t understand Spanish, this song gives you the feels. Volver, Volver is another one we are considering.
In country music, who sang the song "God Bless the Boys who Made the noise on 16th Avenue?
16th Avenue by Lacy j Dalton From the corners of the country From the cities and the farms With years and years of living Tucked up underneath their arms They walk away from everything Just to see a dream come true So God bless the boys who make the noise On 16th Avenue With a million dollar spirit And an old flattop guitar They drive to town with all they own In a hundred dollar car ‘Cause one time someone told them About a friend of a friend they knew Who owns, you know, a studio On 16th Avenue Now some were born to money They’ve never had to say “Survive” And others swing a 9 pound hammer Just to stay alive There’s cowboys drunks and Christians Mostly white and black and blue They’ve all dialed the phone collect to home From 16th Avenue Ah, but then one night in some empty room Where no curtains ever hung Like a miracle some golden words Rolled off of someone’s tongue And after years of being nothing They’re all looking right at you And for a while they’ll go in style On 16th Avenue It looked so uneventful So quiet and discreet But a lot of lives where changed Down on that little one way street ‘Cause they walk away from everything Just to see a dream come true So God bless the boys who make the noise On 16th Avenue
What was the first song that truly blew your mind and changed everything for you as far as how amazing music could be? What were you doing the first time you heard that song?
1976. I was 13. My sister and her Vietnam vet/hippie boyfriend took me to the drive-in to see Dirty Harry Callahan, in The Enforcer. It was quite thrilling. It was Rated R, and there were boobies in it! 70’s boobies; the real ones. Not to mention, the biggest handgun in the world, which could blow my head clean off. So, this particular evening already had a lot going for it. But little did I know, that that evening was yet to get better. In fact, it was the evening that I would cross through a portal… pass a threshold that I didn’t even yet know existed. I began that day as a pop music fetus; I was to finish it… reborn… crawling out… screamin’… as a rocker.After the movie ended… me, all hyped up on Dirty Harry adrenaline… and the afore mentioned boobies… we pulled out of that drive-in for the long drive back home, through the night. It started to rain, so my sister and her long-haired hippie boyfriend were rather quiet, so he could concentrate on the rainy, night-time road. I was in the back seat. Luckily, he liked his music loud. So I sat back and watched the street light zip by the window, one after another, after another.Then he reached over and turned up the radio just a little bit more. A song started. A song I’d never heard before. It started with some nice harmony, then changed to a solo singer and a piano. Was about a man who just killed a man. Mamaaaaaaa….. I don’t wanna die. Wish I’d never been born at all….I was diggin this… then some crazy guitar.But then it all stopped, and a story started. Like an opera! Galileo Galileo!And then it changed again! This was awesome! Then it changed again and Bohemian Rhapsody went through its paces and its changes. Freddie Mercury sang like I’ve never heard anyone sing before. This wasn’t listening to music… this was EXPERIENCING and LIVING MUSIC! THIS CHANGED EVERYTHING!!The darkness… the drive… the street lights zipping by… the rain… and Queen-for-the-first-time. It could not have been more awesome. That first time of hearing Bohemian Rhapsody was so memorable. I experienced music for the first time; not as just a tune, but as an entity! It blew my 13 year old mind, cuz I didn’t know music could be like that.It was only a couple more years before I discovered and embraced Black Sabbath and head banging. And the magical combination of head-banging to Bohemian Rhapsody lifted it up yet another level… to eleven… years before Wayne and Garth did it in Wayne’s World.Ah… good times. Good times.
You are driving during a bad storm. You pass a bus stop with 3 people, the woman of your dreams, your good friend who once saved your life, and a little old lady that looks very ill. You have one free seat. Who do you offer a ride to, and why?
You are driving during a bad storm. You pass by a bus stop with 3 people, the woman (in my case: man) of your dreams, your good friend who saved your life, and a little old lady that looks very ill. You have one free seat. Who do you offer a ride to, and why?I would get out of the car and let my good friend drive the little old lady either to her home or the doctor's. I'd ask my good friend to meet me at my home when he's done.I would then proceed to wait for the bus with the man of my dreams and then take the bus home -riding the bus with him for as long as I can.I'd meet my good friend at my home and talk with him until he is ready to get a ride back to his place (from me of course!).The reason why is simple: it helps everyone in the best way possible!I get to spend time with the man of my dreams and time with my good friend all while taking care of a sweet old lady!